don't understand my wife?

Question

my wif is divorcing me she says she loves me and cares alot about me. we are seperated right now, she was going to get me a apt in her name , and buy a car from my sister for me. we have two kids. me and my wife fight all the time on the phone, she starts it all the time. she always says things like i was unhappy for 6 months, then say 6 yaers, 10 years now 14 years. we been married for 10 years known eachother for 14.then she says i am controling u get mad when i go out. i tell her i dont mind if you go out i just want you to call me if your running late or to drunk to drive i dont want the cops to call and tell me something happen to you. she blames me for my 9 year old son getting made at her when i bring him back home. i was like that when i was his age hated going from parent to parent. what is she thinking is she very confused about divorcing me it sounds like she does not want to i think she still loves me. she will be 30 soon and only been with eachother

Answer 1

What is the question?

Your best bet is don't try to understand them. They just defy logic.

Good luck.

Answer 2

Sounds like she want to run wild,have a little tI'me to be free im not saying yous have a bad relationship but i broke up with my boyfriend of five years just a have a bit of break. and a break i had i was out all the time just having a little fun on my own now we are back together and are as strong as ever, maybe this i what your wife might need.But if yous really love each other don't throw it all away use have been together for a long as time and have yous considered couples counseling i work for counselors and Ive seen good things happen anyway hope i could help wish you both the best and have a great Christmas

Answer 3

She is probably getting attention from another guy and his grass looks real green. She will soon realize she has to mow his yard too! The fun and games of dating morph into hard work & sacrifice in a committed relationship. Some people are better off dating so they can cut-n-run when it's no longer fun. Marriage is tough for two people without kids, but even tougher for those with children because romance, sex, and attention get put on the back burner. Give her space but be on the lookout for for new horizons. If she comes to her senses fine, but if not you remember that you deserve to be happy too!

Answer 4

It sounds like a sad situation. I'm sorry. Have you two tried councling? I think that an expert might be able to sort things out for you guys. It is understandable that you want her to call you when she does go out. You two are married now, she can't come and go as she pleases, she still needs to tell you where she's going.

She probably does love you, do you love her? Maybe you need to SHOW her that you love her. Not by gifts and things like that, but in things that you say, and do.

Good Luck, I hope everything works out.

Answer 5

I really hope you two can find a counselor that will listen to both sides and give impartial advice. She says that she is unhappy but it doesn't sound like you know why. If it is too late to just ask her that, then you need to see a marriage counselor. It sounds to me like you want to stay together so you should be willing to try something like this. She says she loves you and is willing to set you up but doesn't want to live with you. Whatever the reason, she has needs that are not being met.

Answer 6

Cant you try some positive thinking program or some medication program like silva mind control.
i know it sounds stupid but i believe its all the -ve thinking which has been causing this issue.

it has happened to my life before. though i am not married, it happened with my studies. i was really trying very hard to study but nothing happened. then i just let it go and everything worked out fine.

www.mindpowernews.com
There are many cool articles on this site. do read them when u are free ...
its not about saving your marriage. its about designing a better life with her ..
i know i sound like those self help teachers ... i am not that .. i just believe in it because it works ..

try it my friend and if u need any help, i am always there

Answer 7

maybe she is waiting on you to step up to the plate and be a strong man. I mean tell her she is not leaving you because sometimes when women are going out all the time they are looking for something that is missing at home. she is probably unhappy because you are not paying enough attention to her. she is a flesh and blood woman she needs attention, don't fuss don't curse just let her know how you feel. I am sure if you want to be with her then she wants to be with you. unhappy don't mean that she is not in love with you that just mean that it is something that she really wants that you are not giving. got to figure it out. woman always tell the men, men just don't pay attention. just think about it, is there something that she always mention or complain about? if it is then that is it.

Answer 8

It's never easy for so many reasons and always harder when there are kids involved. I think she does want a divorce and is going through the usual run of emotions people go through. I think it's important for you to NOT let her blame you for everything. And I think you will find that you are going to be better off if you move on.

Answer 9

Relationships can be complicated. For your own sake, talk to a therapist or counselor. These professionals can work with you to help you deal with what is going on.
By the way, you can love a person and care about them but that doesn't mean that you want to spend the rest of your life with them.

Answer 10

Your wife is weird, it sounds she feels sorry for you by helping you get settled but without her in your life. She might have lost love for you, but is not sure what to do with her life and might want to keep you around just to come back whenever she feels like it.

Answer 11

It sounds to me that she is maybe confused herself. Have you all tried counseling, it sounds like there are some deeper issues. This is not good for you all's child either. Good Luck!!!