I would never want to be with a woman romatically, I have my husband for that. But sexually I have desires to be with a woman. I never have before but would love to. My husband satisfies me but the curiousity has nothing to do with him, I don't want to be with other men, just him. We have sort of talked about this when I was about 18 or so (I am now 26) and he was cool with it but I know him now and I know he would not like it. He would think of it as cheating and would feel like he is not man enough for me. How do I deal with my feelings since it seems like I will never get to fulfill my fantasy?
2007-11-29 07:10:21 · 12 answers · asked by nicaraguangurl494 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
make him a part of it all, try a 3some, then its win win for all of you
2007-11-29 07:30:39 · answer #1 · answered by f*ck yahoo, i'm doing google 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well its not like you have anyone in MIND
so its really just nonsense and sort of a desire,
If you ever meet anyone you think you COULD do it with then, it would become and ISSUE,
Cheating is BAD but sometimes, people change and its important to realize that this is why young marriages sometimes fail, because they didn't give themselves the opportunity to experience, and grow UP before marriage instead of DURING the marriage.
Personally, If you find someone you think you could be with then, I would say make your choice then,
If you asking because you feel a strong desire to go out their and LOOK for someone to fullfill this fantasy then,
You need to see if you would go thru with it,
Only tell him if afterwards you feel you don't want him anymore,
A one night event, shouldn't ruin a marriage,as your just trying to see if it could go somewhere ( this however should have been done BEFORE MARRIAGE) but too late now..
a Continued AFFAIR is CHEATING
2007-11-29 07:26:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know where your coming from. I've always had sexual fantasies about other women,as far back as high school. So one time in college my curiosity got the best of me and I ended up in a threesome situation with two female friends. It cured my curiosity and made me realize that I wanted to stick with guys from there on out. It was nice to experiment but I know i'm a straight female and tend to stay that way(to the hopeful delight of my husband!) So my advice to you is to maybe watch lesbian porn,it might help curb your curiosity or maybe add an imaginary 'second woman' into your sexual repertoire (husband permitting) and act out the actions of two women instead of just yourself! But don't feel guilty,I think everyone gets a lil curious about this sort of thing at least once in their life! Were only human!
2007-11-29 07:21:50 · answer #3 · answered by Just Call Me Jenn 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You may be bi-sexual. The question comes in if you get a taste will you want to go back to Richard. I think you should work this out with your husband and explain what is going on. If he is a real man he will not be threatened and help you (and that means he may not be invited to the show). But, at that point you had better be prepared for him to have sex with somebody else too. It doesn't have to be the end of the relationship, but it sounds like the terms are up for negotiation.
2007-11-29 07:17:06 · answer #4 · answered by callawak2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you and my wife are in very similar situations. My wife frequently has fantasies about other women in a sexual manner as well. She reassures me that she loves me and I believe her whole-heartedly. I have given her permission to pursue this fantasy as long as she let me know about it. I have always been open with her regarding fantasies and encouraged her to always be open with me about them and I would do my best to help her fulfill them. She is too hung up on what other people would say of her if they found out. You need to talk to your husband about it again and reassure him of your feelings. Don't assume that he will not like it. If he is like most men (me included) he will be open to being there with you, and you can tell him not to touch the other woman. Do whatever is comfortable with you and your husband.
2007-11-29 08:02:39 · answer #5 · answered by No one 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
identity crisis! you have to figure it out what you are and what you really want. having sexual fantasies with women is not normal for a "normal woman" deal with your feelings first and make a decision if your going to pursue your fantasies and risk your marriage, hurt your husband and be done with it. do whatever makes you happy just spare your husabnd the pain, do it now or forever stay married!
2007-11-29 08:25:47 · answer #6 · answered by isla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its natural everyones curious at one time in there life. If it helps you should try it and see if its what you like. I to get these desires and i know im not a lesbian. I get curious and wonder but it hasnt quite yet happened . It doesnt hurt to try new things!! explore!
2007-11-29 07:33:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm well you need to convince him that you don't want another man. if he has hesitation, then he believes "oh she will want to get even with another man later if we have something going on with another woman now"
you have to make it so it's both of you with the other woman, no soloing and always together...then he will feel it's part of your experimentation as a couple.
2007-11-29 07:16:13 · answer #8 · answered by ELEcTrIc_HeD 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
get yourself a woman and try it....
why the thumbs down? what is wrong with experimenting with another woman? bunch of freakin babies !
2007-11-29 07:14:02 · answer #9 · answered by freakinjokers_serious 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
All you can do at this point is keep true to your marriage vows or destroy your marriage.
Good luck.
2007-11-29 07:15:12 · answer #10 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 5⤋