we were having problems, I started going out too much, thats when it started-I read every message he sent her an viceversa an shes on the other side of the world, shes hot as, younger etc Im gutted! my mans shy by nature, gentle an I know I wasnt giving him what he wanted at that time(attention wise) an its a wake up call for sure-but its the pain/hurt in my mind body an soul that I have in me an I just want to move on with our lives together but its that trust issue I have...I know its exciting, harmless flirting an that but hes not one to talk about his deep feelings (hes a man) an Im very much a communicator. End of the day he was my world/rock/soulmate an I dont wanna feel this hurt/pain anymore...Im loyal an faithful 100% we've been together for 6yrs an have two girls together,he is not a player by nature as we were friends first before we hooked up so I know that but...some different heartfelt thoughts on this subject please...Thanks alot
2007-11-29 07:02:24 · 13 answers · asked by jadana125 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
OK...... You have a trust issue with your man that you neglected and expected that he would just suck it up and endure. Honey, you really should be glad that your man stayed home and only had an Internet affair. Maybe he thought you were out there doing things you shouldn't have been doing. Maybe its time for the 2 of you to have a serious talk. Let him know where you went wrong, and hope he owns up to his. Reality is it is not all HIS fault. Try reversing the situation, and lets say he was going out all of the time, How would you feel? What would you think? Maybe you should try to start doing the things you used to do for him, and he will reciprocate. Try to get back the things that attracted you to each other in the first place. Yes, I realize it upset you that he could talk to someone else about his issues and not to you, BUT maybe this can be a new start for the both of you. You realized what you were doing wrong, maybe you will appreciate him more now. And because you appreciate him more, maybe he will fall in love with you all over again.
2007-11-29 07:24:36 · answer #1 · answered by lilLuv_2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 things -:
1-Does he know that you've found out?? If yes, then firstly give him some silent treatment, he needs to badly realise that wt he did was wrong and tht he's hurt u. Dot let him easy on this though at the same time dont fret urself and begin losing temper.
2- As far as ur internal emotions are concerned, as u know this for urself, u both lost communication, fell apart, and he was trying to fill tht gap with some excitement. I dont know wt the nature of his communications were like but during this whole time if he's not become rude/abusive to u this means he still only loves u. Start working on ways to make ur relationship light up again, stay more cheerful, go on a holiday, try to bring back the friendship u both once shared.
BUT do all of this only after he's apologised to u, u'll know wn he really means it !!
2007-11-29 15:21:00 · answer #2 · answered by Bladeedaa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive and forget is all you can do. Talk to him and make sure that they are not talking anymore and let him know that you are there for him 100% all the time anytime he needs you...I hope everything works out for the best!
2007-11-29 15:11:29 · answer #3 · answered by Kassie D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are simple creatures and they need very little to keep them happy. 2 important things about men that every woman should know. Men require sex and food to keep them happy, for the most part. If he can't get either at home, he will go out and find it.
2007-11-29 15:23:15 · answer #4 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wnet thru this very thing with my wife.... basically I confronted her and I was DEEPLY hurt!!!
she stopped the deal and I forgave over aboujt a 3 month period.
consider "spy" sofware to check up on him!! that is how I really found out what was going on
2007-11-29 15:35:24 · answer #5 · answered by jdesey 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need yo admit to yourself he is having an affair. You should also realize that if she lived next door, it would be a whole lot worse.
Then you need to decide if you can work through this with him or move on.
Good luck.
2007-11-29 15:17:02 · answer #6 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
half way around the world and she is hot ect............lol......uncle meet a gal on line she sent him her daughters pic he about crapped his pants when she stepped off the plane to meet him all 5ft and 300 lbs of her. He had asked her to leave her hubby she did and there he was stuck with Miss Piggy
2007-11-29 15:08:32 · answer #7 · answered by Ginger 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You need to get a thicker skin. Most people who have online relationships are too chicken to make it real. It's just a game.
2007-11-29 15:06:33 · answer #8 · answered by Kyle W 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Is he worth keeping ... print it out and confront him ..... seek the reason and work on your communication.
or......
Forget it ... monitor it .... watch and see what happens ..... perhaps it's just a mental fantasy thing .....
or....
Break up..
I would try to work it out myself ..... at least you can say you tried.
Good Luck
2007-11-29 15:16:52 · answer #9 · answered by John 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are doing it so he doesn't go away, but it is not because you want him.
2007-11-29 15:11:37 · answer #10 · answered by callawak2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋