My little brother has been living with me for one month and he is 18. He has been acting like he was looking for work, he don't want to work & he lives my home dirty. He has no where to go really. What should I do with him? I don't want him in my home no more if he is not going to try to do nothing I'm thinking he should go to the National Gard.
2007-11-29 04:55:51 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell him to be all he can be and join the ARMY
2007-11-29 05:20:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that he either starts cleaning up after himself and gets a job and helps pay for stuff he eats and the roof over his head or he can find another place to live. Really he is 18 time to grow-up and take on some responsibilty by that age I was working part-time helped my mom through a divorce and
in college full-time. This guy need's to see some reality that life is not a picnic and you are not his momma.
Tell him he has a week to find employment or he gets the boot.
2007-11-29 13:05:05 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cannot help a person who will not help himself.
If he won't try, you need to set down some ground rules.
He will clean up to your satisfaction.
He will find some work within ( insert time period here).
He will begin to pay rent ( $ insert dollar amount) monthly.
His responsibility is to find a job or be in school.
Point out that you are his sister not his parent so there is no responsibility for you to support him. You love him and will help but thats where it stops. You are no longer willing to support him.
Set a date and mean it. You may have to put him on the street.
Again you cannot help someone who will not help themselves.
At this point you must set expectations and make him live up to them or vacate. Sad but true.
I have to ask, Is there a reason why you are his only available
sourse of help. What happened to your parents?
2007-11-29 13:08:24 · answer #3 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a 4 week time limit on finding a job. If he has not found one by then.. tell him he has to go. Do NOT give him money and do not leave your car keys around or your money, etc around. Go with him to make sure he has presentable clothing for employment interviews..
Make a list of the chores he is responsible for around the house. Without yelling .. make sure he does them. If there are community projects ongoing ( there always are ) get him AND you involved until he seems like he can do it himself.. he may just be afraid to try out his wings..ok? By helping him understand he is a vital part of his community and your life.. he will be less afraid to go out and get motivated.
2007-11-29 13:20:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it to him stright he is 18 time to start acting like a young adult.....Make sure you give him a time limit and if he does not comply then show him the door...Tough love is the best medicine......National Guard no make him go active duty in any branch of the service the DI's will kick his *** into shape!!!
2007-11-29 14:25:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want your brother going to Iraq or Afgan don't send him to the National Guard. In fact don't send him to the Army PERIOD. If you want your lil brother making some money while in Iraq or Afgan then you should go on one of those secret websites. Those guys make atleast (well I say they make a lot). Not only will that get your brother out of your hair, but he will be making a lot of money as well.
2007-11-29 13:05:43 · answer #6 · answered by timmy boomstick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him rules that he must live by if he is to live in your house. One of those is that he has to find a job and save so much money a paycheck to use to move out.
If he doesn't want to follow the rules or breaks them, then kick him out. It sounds harsh but sometimes people need a kick in the butt.
2007-11-29 13:02:15 · answer #7 · answered by cykessa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he has a certain amount of time to get his act together if he doesn't come home with a certain amount of job applications your booting him. Tell him he needs to start cleaning up after himself.
2007-11-29 13:02:28 · answer #8 · answered by Momof1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to leave, he has a week. If he can't clean or work what good is he? Tell him to crash on a friends couch and see how far he can get leaching off society...
2007-11-29 13:02:35 · answer #9 · answered by totalbeyotch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that he seriously needs to do sumthin with himself. give him a time frame to have it done and stick to it. tell him he gotta get out if he's not being helpful around the house or productive his life
2007-11-29 13:05:40 · answer #10 · answered by iluvmeeee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋