To all the ones who have been cheated on.......?

Question

I know for a fact that anyone who I am with or who I have been with would have NEVER cheated on me didn't you guys pick this up that they had a wondering eye before ever marrying them?

Nope sorry my man is at work right now and I am not being stuck up I am serious I damn well know I have never been cheated on!
Wouldn't the first clue be if they are late or not where they are supposed to be? The sex dwindling, are you telling me that once it happened you did not feel it?
Think what you want people but I would know I have been married for some time now and my man cannot wait to get home to me why the hell would he cheat anyways I would seriously hope that I give him everything he needs and I have always said if you think you can find a better woman then me stay there and do not come home oh and good luck btw.
That is not stuck up that is called confidence in who you are!!!!!

This is crazy I am not calling anyone a fool but I do know for certain I have not been cheated on anyone ever heard of womens intuition?

Answer 1

some guys are very sneaky and never show any signs of cheating or anything else.. my first husband i never found out until after the divorce when a friend told me the truth.. and #2 told me after he was drunk one night.. then i caught him with the neighbor lady(second one) but i know #3 will not cheat..look yes but not cross that line..it's human nature to look and flirt but you have control so you don't cross that line.. it's called LOVE & TRUST..

Answer 2

You do sound a little stuck up and whats more, you sound biased, like it is the womans fault for not "feeling" it when her man cheated. You also go on to say that you make sure that you supply your man's needs so that he doesn't cheat. Here is the real dea, dear; talk to a man, or several. They will tell you, that all can be right at home, there are well cared for, their wife is attractive to them and they love her, but if they want to cheat, it doesn't always have to be something missing from the realtionship; for most it is not that at all. They are just greedy, an if they can hit that, they will hit that. I am not trying to say that you don't know what you are talking about, and that your men have cheated, i am just saying that how can you speak of wmona's intuition as if you are very in tune with it, but you are saying that yours has never had to be used, because you never felt twinge of mistrust because you have the lock on faithful men?!?!? Given what you say, you have never had to use your womens intuition before, since your guys have been good, so why talk down to these women? Its great that your hubby's faithful and all, but it doesn't mean that you get o be judgemental of these women who have been cheated on. It doesn't mean that you are better than anyone of them.

Answer 3

To insinuate that I was stupid for not being able to pick up that my husband would cheat on me is slightly cocky. And for you to think that someone will never cheat on you is cocky. I have said what you have said and have felt what you have felt, and I got knocked down a peg or two when I got cheated on me. No one is immune to it....however I do hope you will never feel the hurt that comes from an act of infidelity, its something I wouldn't wish on anyone...no matter how cocky they are.

Edit: It is a common misconception that sex dwindles when a partner cheats...that isn't the case. Sex stays the same or becomes more frequent. Also, sex isn't always the reason why people cheat...people cheat because of relationship problems, self esteem issues, and of course opportunity. Men are more likely to cheat if given the opportunity to do so...without any clear reason as to why they did it. It has nothing to do with love or sex ...MOST of the time.

Answer 4

You may just be surprised, you never really know somebody 100% except for yourself. Life lessons will show you that unfortunately. I hope that you never get cheated on because it is a hard thing to deal with, you say now what you would do in that type on situation, but until it happens and emotions are involved it can change everything. In my situation, he was like day and night, never ever would have thought. Oh and by the way, he cheated on me with a co-worker. Sometimes they are really not where they say they are : (

Answer 5

Your question sounds like you are trying to rub it in every person's face that has every been cheated on. People are unpredictable and no one can say for certain that they will never be cheated on or cheat.

Some cheating is planned, some is spontaneous, and some is accidental. Just about everyone has a 'wondering eye' its just whether or not you can trust them not to follow through.

I may be a glutton for punishment for being this way, but I believe a person is innocent until proven a cheater.

Answer 6

Only men with lame excuses that are easy enough to figure out by anyone. I bet though that there are those who are crafty and clever enough to do so. And I'm also willing to bet that those are the ones who are doing it right under your nose rather than having to come up with lengthy and unprovable alibis. Our daily lives are pretty monotonous. Same thing everyday. Routine Routine Routine. Suspicioun arises when those routines are changed for lame or inexplicable reasons. I one night stand would be fairly easy enough to hide. An affair would NOT be.

Answer 7

I have never been cheated on, but a wondering eye is not enough to determine cheating potential.

Cheaters cheat because they do not respect their partners or because they are running away from relationship issues. It is difficult for someone who is in love with another person to determine if that person does not respect them. During marital issues it is difficult to determine changes in a person that reveal their cheating.

While it is great that you have not been cheated on, your method of detection is not good enough to prevent your falling into the cheating trap.

Take care,
Troy

Answer 8

First off.. how do you know for a fact you havnt been cheated on? You havnt been around every single one of them 24hrs a day.. 7 days a week. Thats a foolish statement to make.

Second... people change. Im married and I trust my husband fully.. but thats not to say that 10yrs down the road he might get tired and get his action elsewhere, how am I to know what he will or won't do? You can love someone completely and trust them completely, but you don't know what goes on inside their head.

Answer 9

i read your other questions and suggest that you fix your own marriage first before you judge others, your attitude is just flat out cocky. do you think women say: he is a cheater, i will marry him? didn't you think you husband was the right man for you when you married him? we all learn in life just like you did with your marriage now. i dont think i have ever been cheated on before last year, but i cant say that i know this and it never happened, i believe it didn't, but knowing is impossible.
once you have a lot of experience in life, that's something you obviously are missing, you will see and hear things that you have no idea of right now.

Answer 10

You may be quite right in your assumption that you have never been cheated on. I hope you never have to go through it. I was never cheated on either but I cheated. Never saw it coming it just happened! I would never had thought I was capable of it but here it is in black and white. Life has a way of teaching us to be humble, patient, and non judgmental in some very amazing ways!