Marriage & Divorce - 29 October 2007

good or bad.... my hubby likes it well i do to,,,, any body else ever tried it would like to hear any one's experiences

2007-10-29 08:02:46 · 36 answers · asked by calendergirlcutie 1

What is it really? If the husband wakes up and the wife is on top of him having Sex what's it call?

2007-10-29 07:55:13 · 25 answers · asked by beauty1355 1

It all came to a head about a years ago my wife was out of town and I was looking at porn. Im certanly not unfamiliar with porn and have looked at it off and on throughout my marrage but I wouldnt say that Im an addict or anything. long story short she found out and got really pissed. We delt with it and I appologized and commited not to do it anymore which is fine. its been about a year since the last time and to this day I still here about it, get ignored over it and am beriated over it so much so that she recently went out of town and when she came home she accused me of cheating(which I never have or been close to) and looking at porn. when I told here I didnt she started looking through my dirty clothes and going ape **** on the computer trying to prove I did. Im just getting tired of hearing about what a lier and cheater I am it seems no matter what I do I cant win. this seems unreasonable to me and dont know how to deal with it anymore. HELP!!!!!

2007-10-29 07:50:37 · 12 answers · asked by LeviS 2

My sister’s (she is also my best friend) divorce will be hopefully final at the beginning of 2008. She mentioned wanting to go to Vegas when it is final. Since I was her maid of honor when she was married she said she really wanted to go to Vegas for her bachelorette party but her fiancé thought that would be bad taste and asked me not to have it there. (But yet his bachelor party was in Vegas)

I’m asking for suggestions on invitations and people I should invite. I really don’t think it should be called a “divorce party” because the word divorce has such negative connotations.

My beautiful sister is happy these days now she has left this loveless marriage. I can see her growing spiritually and emotionally as the weeks/months go by. People are always saying to her how much more confident she is. So it’s not like she is crying because this marriage has ended she gave 100% to this marriage and their relationship of 11 years. So I’m super proud of her and she’s given her friend’s the strength to ask what they want in need in their own relationships.

Thank you for your suggestions.

2007-10-29 07:49:35 · 11 answers · asked by Yvonne 4

my husband and i seperated and now we are getting back together. during our seperation he slept with another woman, in our home, in my bed.... and i have so many questions. all i can do is think about this and weird thoughts, like what she looks like, did he like the sex, how did it lead to sex, was there foreplay, intimate kisses, what did they do afterward lay there and cuddle, stay the night, or did she get up and leave. i'm a little afraid to ask but i want to and it's bothering me. i'm afraid that i will always be thinking these things. i'm not MAD about it just a little hurt i guess. should i ask the ?'s that i have or just let it be. we promised eachother (even tho i didnt sleep with anyone) that it's a clean slate and to let it go... for some reason, i just cant...
it's even to a point where i want to see her.. just to see what she looks like. i looked for her on myspace for cryin out loud! (didnt find anyone with the same disc. he gave me of her tho)
am i being rediculus?

2007-10-29 07:46:51 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous

and we both work fulltime. but i do the majority of the housework, cooking, cleaning and taking care of the kids. when we get up at 5am, im the one who gets up first, i get myself ready, get the baby changed and dressed, then begin to get the 2 yr old changed and dressed, which is really hard because she doesnt like waking up. by the time ive done thost things he's barley brushing his teeth, and then i never get the chance to eat my own breakfast b/c we have to be out the door by 6am. alot of the time i feel very resentful that he doesnt at least help in getting one of the kids ready. can anyone , guys esp, suggest how i can talk to him w/ out sounding like im bitching?

2007-10-29 07:45:03 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

What is the best birthday gift your wife could give you?

My husband will be 23 years old and I would like to give him something special...

2007-10-29 07:43:39 · 7 answers · asked by TwinMommy 5

my husband hates my mother my mother tried to like my husband he treats me badly and this upsets my mom and my mom and my husband get into it over how he treats me now my mother is banned from our house what do i do

2007-10-29 07:43:39 · 11 answers · asked by marianne w 1

I came from an abusive household and learned that the best way to avoid a hard situation is to lie through it. The problem is I am not a little kid anymore and still have a problem with compulsive lying.Even about little tiny things that don't matter and even when my husband knows I am lying. I don't even know why I do it. I feel so stupid. I have a wonderful husband, two little girls, and a great job that I love. My life is perfect, but I keep lying. About everything. I am even convincing myself that my lies are true. My marriage is falling apart. My SO is getting tired of catching me in lies. Last night he point blank asked me why do I feel the need to compulsively lie. Today I looked up signs of compulsive lying and other OCDs. It felt like looking in a mirror. But if I go home tonight and just lay out compulsive lying and howI feel and what I am doing, will he think I am just justifing what I have done and seeking attention rather than finally seeing what I am and trying to change?

2007-10-29 07:42:56 · 13 answers · asked by DreamGirl 3

My friend's scenario:
One spouse (H=husband) abuses alcohol and drugs, leaving the other to care for the house and children. H does keep a job, but is not dependable to his family in any other way, even at times failing to show up for his time with the kids (who adore him) when he's not working b/c he's off getting trashed... This has hurt the children's feelings numerous times, which they've vocalized, but he is definitely NOT physically abusive to anyone, although he seems careless enough to drive with one or both kids after drinking, but just up the street...

How do you weigh it out on behalf of yourself and your children?
What is worse for them: going through this or living without a Dad in the home?

2007-10-29 07:39:20 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Before I had my first son I was really into having sex, now that I have my second son I really dont have any sex drive and it really bothers me. I want to enjoy it again! I dont want my husband to worry about the fact that when he wants to make love to me, he is afraid that I wont want to or I wont get into it..It's starting to show its wear and tear in our marriage! What can I do, I feel like Ive tried everything that I can do even though I know I havent! I just want to be normal in my love life again with my life partner! I love him with everything I have and he doesn't think so anymore..It really hurts me that I cant provide one of the important parts of love!

2007-10-29 07:39:09 · 5 answers · asked by Momma 4

My husband and I have been having some troubles lately, we have been married for 9 years. A few weeks back we had a huge fight and he took off for the weekend. Let me explain it was my fault for the fight I kept a bill of mine from him and he found out and was very upset. He returned and we talked everything over and decided to try again. Now I have recently confirmed that during my husband weekend getaway he met another woman. I found out that he has been talking to her and they have been sending explicit photos of each other via cell phone. I confronted him and he said that he did meet her (let me add that she lives about 6 hours away from us) and that they did not have sex, they are only friends, ya right.
We are still living together and I am not sure what to do. Any suggestions? Anyone stay together after finding out that their spouse cheated and it actually worked. I would love to hear your stories and advice. You can also email me privately via Yahoo answers. Thanks!

2007-10-29 07:38:00 · 27 answers · asked by boobunny 2

I guess my question here is to people who are going, or have gone through what I am. Am I a bad person?
We got married after finding out I was pregnant, and we had tons of issues before and after we got married. We split up last year for about 8 months. I met someone else, and ended up pregnant. He wanted me back the entire time we were split, and he still wanted me back when he found out I was pregnant. I no longer had feelings for the guy I was with, so I went back with my husband. I know all of this sounds terrible, but my husband was abusive when we were together before. I mean abusive, not just mean or rude, but mentally, emotionally and physically abusive. Since we have been back together, he has been about 98% better than he used to be, and really a lot of people would probably be jealous of the "marriage" we have now. I can tell that he really intensely loves me now, but my heart is somewhere else. It's like I'm still waiting on some other guy, and I don't like it.

2007-10-29 07:36:25 · 9 answers · asked by Whitty 1

My husband likes bigger butts, smaller boobs, and brown eyes, but he married me, petite, nice but small butt, and 34D bra.....

He says he doesn't care that much about the physical, but I know he said he does think those things look better to him, and more beautiful...

So why didn't he just marry that? I don't get it.

2007-10-29 07:35:31 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

both are texas residents wife caught cheating and you walk in door can you shoot her?

2007-10-29 07:27:19 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

He drinks soda NON-stop. Always fried food, sweets.
He's 30. I'm 20, he's a fireman and he's not too over-weight, yet. I love him regardless, but I'm worried about him.
I ask him to down some water, cook him veggies. But he just says no to the water, and will just snack junk food later. We're building a house and he swears that he'll start working out when we finish. Should I just get used to it? I don't want him teaching these bad habits to our kids... I worry. Help me.

P.S. I'm not a health freak or anything.

2007-10-29 07:22:52 · 11 answers · asked by Katrina 3

My husband and I have been struggling with issues of trust for quite some time now. Over the past couple months things were getting quite better. Anyway we both went out Saturday night, to different places and I ended up bumping into a friend, who I have known since I was a youngster. We talked and danced together for two songs......there was no inappropriate touching done by either one of us. My husband walks in and through a fit. He left, got in a fight outside with my brother who was trying to tell him nothing was going on, and was completely raged. Meanwhile I walked home, which was only 2 blocks away, and he came home. Before I could get one word in, he was in my face and grabbed my jaw as hard as possible, yelling at me calling me every name in the book. Later that night.....after I thought he calmed down he got physical with me, then called some girl who he had just met previously that night to come and pick him up. So he left that night and I didnt see him until Sunday

2007-10-29 07:20:34 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous

paying my share of the evening out? WTF? Im still kind of stunned. He kept saying that all he wanted was for us to go out and have a good time, then he says, "it doesn't matter, no big deal, but..." We live together, money's been tight but that's getting better. All comments welcome.

2007-10-29 07:19:31 · 8 answers · asked by Boots4ACowgirl 3

Im 24 years old and in love .. been engaged for almost a year to a half black man (black dad,white mom)

Now it's time to plan the marriage and suddenly out of no where my dad said that he wont allow it even if he has to lock me in the basement and he doesnt care if i get upset cuz with time i'll forget about it

The reason why my dad doesnt want me to marry that guy is becuz he's HALF BLACK and is scared of what PEOPLE will say about him as a dad allowing his daughter to marry a (N-word) ..

Plz give me realistic answers .. i want my dad to let me marry the guy i love .. i just cant imagine my life without my fiance' or my dad

Oh more information .. im not even allowed to see my fiance' during my engagement becuz my dad doesnt allow it ..
i have so much respect for my dad and no matter what he does he's still my dad and i should treat him like one and listen to him and i wanna solve this problem keeping both my dad and fiance'

PLZ PLZ i need realistic answers

2007-10-29 07:16:21 · 25 answers · asked by Maria 6

Would you see her if she told you that she didn't want to get married but you two got along and she provided creature comforts, if you know what I mean? Is this terrible?

Suppose it is because she doesn't want to get "around" and she knows, trusts and likes you but couldn't be married to you. Should she believe him if he says that he has no problem with that?

2007-10-29 07:11:30 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

ive asked her to work, she thinks i make enough money for the both of us, i purchased 2 machines for her to start her own business, shes an estetician cost me close to 30 thousand for these dust gatherers, that she insisted would make us a ton of money, we rent a townhouse, i work my butt off 12hr days etc,if i leave do i have to pay all of the rent and what if her sister moves in with her, would i only have to pay mly wifes half and for how long. please only responses from canadians as i live in mississauga ontario, and am sure laws are different in the states or other provinces, i am self employed with money in the bank but that is to go toward income tax so is that considered an assett, pls help i dont want to screw her over but i dont want to get screwed either

2007-10-29 07:00:42 · 8 answers · asked by marcelo F 1

I have a high sex drive but my husband don't. He don't want me to get a toy because he said then i will not have sex with him. i am so into sex why is that? I like to please him also even when he don't ask. he said that i am every guys dream. i want him to get any herbs to higher his drive but he don't want to get anything. what to do? How to higher his drive. I masturbate too. i think may be I have high sex drive because he is my first partner. I have never been into any relationship before but I am not his first. How to tell him I want more.

2007-10-29 06:56:50 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

...because we live in a small town & shes heard bad things about my past. Im 21 & have been dating her son for 2 years - hes 25. We are getting married in April '08. She doesnt understand Im not a wild teen anymore & she wont even give me a chance to get to know me! My fiance is from a quiet & conservative Christian family. Theyve barely spoken to me since weve been together. This weekend she told me how she felt about me - she went as far as saying Im nothing but a rebound & a whore. She keeps asking around about me & she even called a past employer of mine to ask why I was fired a year ago! She asked me about things shes heard & when I told her the truth she didnt believe me. Ive even admitted things which are none of her business! I dont want to be at war with her & I dont want this to cause problems with my fiance! She doesnt want us to get married and thinks Im not good enough for her son. Why is it so hard for her to believe that hes in love with me?! Where should I go from here?

2007-10-29 06:36:08 · 51 answers · asked by HopelessBride 1

My husband drinks beer every single night without fail. He works 7 days a week without fail so his excuse is working to much and his games on TV. Its not only that.. he won't eat dinner until midnight when its cold and been sitting out for hours and comes to bed expecting relations even if I say no I am tired and/ or am a sleep but he doesn't take NO, he just keeps groping me until I give in. I love him so much but am tired of having relations with a drunk every night. He is not abusive or anything and has never been but he doesn't understand that I can't stand him drunk everynight. I have tried to talk to him when he gets up in the morning and he simple says he is sorry and will try better but never does, its a pattern he has now. How am I suppose to deal with this, everything else in our relationship is almost perfect, we are friends and do have fun with each other and can talk to each other about things. ITs hard for me because we do love each other so much.

2007-10-29 06:29:03 · 21 answers · asked by speclt1970 2

Oh No!!!! He is dating someone else!!He told me that I am the reason he acted this way! Will he treat her nice
Abuse? What did I do wrong.I'm depressed again?
Was he on his way to being abusive to me?We broke up three weeks ago. Why am I sad that he's gone?Am I paranoi
I met a man online in June 20 of this year. Everything was very pleasant in the begining.Then these things happened:
1:He made fun of a past relationship of mine that was abusive. He said "All Robert had to do was slap you around to get you to marry him!"
2:He got angry because I wanted to go home and punched his wall.He yelled at me and said"Look at what you made me do!"
3:After two months he wanted me to move away from my aunts house and move to the city he's in. We only live 30 min apart.He said that he would rent a car and help me move my things.He started looking at apartments in his city for me.
3:We were arguing and he told me that I was acting like a" f***ing c**t."
4:He came over and when he seen my aunts home he said" Gosh!How cold you live here?This place is depressing!" "Gosh! Look at your room! How depressing."
5:Another time I wanted to go home.He yelled at me all the way to the bus stop.Once we got there he started shoving my shoulder saying DONT LEAVE!!

2007-10-29 06:25:56 · 19 answers · asked by Butterfly 2

My ex-husband e-mailed to tell me he had seen photos of me posted on an adult website. When I asked him to tell me where, he wouldn’t. Knowing he was the only person who has ever taken “compromising" photos of me, I asked him to show me the photos. He finally did show me one of the photos and I realized he had taken one of the photos he took when we were together (years ago) and edited it to show me with someone else. He denies it and will not tell me if he posted the photos on the internet. I’m not too terribly concerned about the pictures, because I’ll never become Miss America (and if I did it probably wouldn’t matter anyway) but I’m shocked that someone would go to these lengths to discredit someone.

2007-10-29 06:23:52 · 13 answers · asked by Ally S 3

like my husband begs for oral sex all the time and i give but he has never and when i mention it to him he says no he does not do it and i have never had it. so what should i do cause it makes me feel bad because i give to him but if i try not to him gets mad.

2007-10-29 06:14:40 · 55 answers · asked by Anonymous

i need bible teacings for marriage and divorce! do you know any or a good website to go to? please help soon!!! i need it to revise!!! x x x x

2007-10-29 06:11:05 · 8 answers · asked by x_joanne_m_x 1

I love my husband we have kids and have been married for 14 years but at the same time I adore my ex who is my best friend. We were engaged to marry but my family didn't approve, so we broke up and moved on with our lives staying just friends. We didn't see eachother for a long time until two years ago. he is recently divorced. We speak on the phone, like I said he is my best friend. I have known him all my life.
I have nothing in common with my husband, we dont even speak. the realtionship was a very sexual on in the beginning now it's, once a month, like my period.I much rather have the craps, I feel blah. I dont want to leave my husband but at the same time I want to be with my ex but wonder if it's just that I dont feel sexy or wanted in my marriage and my friend makes me feel alive again. We are so much alike, he is like my male counterpart, it's scary and I love it. I feel alive could i just be feeling trapped, will it pass. some advice please,
thank you

2007-10-29 05:47:25 · 39 answers · asked by Invictvs 1

We love the way they look. We love the way they smell. We love the way they feel.

2007-10-29 05:45:14 · 57 answers · asked by Anonymous