My friend's scenario:
One spouse (H=husband) abuses alcohol and drugs, leaving the other to care for the house and children. H does keep a job, but is not dependable to his family in any other way, even at times failing to show up for his time with the kids (who adore him) when he's not working b/c he's off getting trashed... This has hurt the children's feelings numerous times, which they've vocalized, but he is definitely NOT physically abusive to anyone, although he seems careless enough to drive with one or both kids after drinking, but just up the street...
How do you weigh it out on behalf of yourself and your children?
What is worse for them: going through this or living without a Dad in the home?
2007-10-29 07:39:20 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If I was in that situation I would leave this seems like an unhealthy environment for the children, you should have him move out and pay child support. Give him an opportunity to build a relationship with the children when he can be sober around them and shows dependability for the children, it is very important to them at a young age.
2007-10-29 07:46:13 · answer #1 · answered by lucy diamond 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Never stay w/someone for the sake of the children. It is better for kids to grow up and see what a healthy relationship looks like so If you dont have that you should go. It is worse for your kids to stay and see a broken relationship. Ofcourse it will be a big change for the kids but kids are amazing and with your love they will be ok. Trust me I left w/2 kids and now it has been a few years and we are all happier and healthier emotionally. Leave...Good luck!
2007-10-29 07:45:46 · answer #2 · answered by jo 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say that H needs to go through rehab and stay clean or get out! Kids need responsible adults around them and they need good role models - not drug and alcohol users and not Mothers who allow that to happen!
Even if no violence is involved... Teach those kids that drug and alcohol addictions are a disease and that Dad will try to get better (if he does it would give them something to be very proud of) and if he doesn't Mom needs to stand up and get him out, so the kids can learn that they that they deserve better...
So - to answer your question if Dad doesn't quit - they are better off without him! FOR SURE!!!
2007-10-29 07:46:40 · answer #3 · answered by Me 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-12 08:58:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best and only good reason to end a marriage is because you just don't care about your spouse.
Apathy/indifference whatever you want to call it.
The opposite of love isn't hate, but not caring either way.
2007-10-29 08:09:27 · answer #5 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
questions to ask yourself and you sould get the right answer........
is this what you want your children to see/grow up with?
to see that its ok for dad to act like this and for mom to put up with it?
its just like people who say"were staying together for the sake of the kids" thats bull. b/c all your (not u in particular) doing is teaching your children wrong etc.
good luck with whatever you decide to do .
2007-10-29 07:45:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would have hated to be raised in a home where this kind of person was present daily. I would not be married to a person who would not care enough to seek help for himself. i am sure that your friend as asked this of him....if not, then shame on her.
2007-10-29 07:50:17 · answer #7 · answered by Rein 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
going throught this with their father not caring enough about them to stop what he is doing
2007-10-29 07:44:19 · answer #8 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋