Before I had my first son I was really into having sex, now that I have my second son I really dont have any sex drive and it really bothers me. I want to enjoy it again! I dont want my husband to worry about the fact that when he wants to make love to me, he is afraid that I wont want to or I wont get into it..It's starting to show its wear and tear in our marriage! What can I do, I feel like Ive tried everything that I can do even though I know I havent! I just want to be normal in my love life again with my life partner! I love him with everything I have and he doesn't think so anymore..It really hurts me that I cant provide one of the important parts of love!
2007-10-29 07:39:09 · 5 answers · asked by Momma 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I just turned 22!! Is there anything a doctor can do? My kids are 4 and 16 months..
2007-10-29 07:49:52 · update #1
Why? Probably because of taking care of the kids, housework, laundry (doing/putting away), cooking, cleaning, shopping, etc. Find someone to watch the kids for the whole night. Get a room at a bed-n-breakfast. Go out and have a FUN dinner (jean/sneakers). Skip the movies (will make you sleepy). Stop at a low-key bar and have a couple of drinks and play darts or people watch. Be back to the BnB by 11 PM, enjoys a shower together and then get re-acquanted romantically, for the next few hours. Fall asleep nude, wake up and do it again. Have a nice breakfast and pick up the kids – refreshed.
Been there, done it for 6 years. We finally started taking overnights and it helps you get reattached. You be amazed at how much fun it is. Having O's and mind-blowing sex is easy and fun. It's making the actual time to accomplish it, that's tough.
2007-10-31 02:47:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a check up and find out if your hormone levels are in the normal range. You don't state your age, and your body has been through 2 pregnancies which can take it's toll on the body. Do you and your husband go out and socialize? Or are you a stay home mom that's in the house 24-7? A change of routine is sometimes help full. Does he share with the house hold chores like do dishes,cook and give you a break once in a while? Do you work outside of the house hold to help make ends meet? All of this added up could be reasons for the lower sex drive. A doctors visit is money well spent ,and cost less than finding out he is having an affair which could lead to lawyers court cost, and worst yet a family divided. Good Luck! I've been in that situation myself, and take hormone injections. I'll be praying for you and the entire family.
2007-10-29 15:18:54 · answer #2 · answered by mandm68 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you try exercise? That really helps believe it or not.
Also keep in mind that your body has been through a lot and it may be not wanting to get pregnant right now.
Also keep in mind that as you reach your mid 30's it will come back and be stronger than ever for 10 years or so.
Enjoy!
2007-10-29 14:44:53 · answer #3 · answered by Duck! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The drive will return. It all takes a little while. Be patient.
2007-10-29 15:10:55 · answer #4 · answered by Mr.OldGuy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a good chinese herbalist. It really does work. I've been there and done that.
2007-10-29 15:17:47 · answer #5 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋