Marriage & Divorce - 29 October 2007

I have a co worker that is going through occasional rough times with her husband. At the same time, I am having some questions about my marriage. My co worker is extremely beautiful, intelligent and has values, opinions and interests similar to my own. Things that I gave up to be with my wife, I feel like I could embrace again with this other woman. I am looking for answers because I can't figure out what to do. I want to not destroy what I have worked for a very long time to achieve. At the same time, I don't want to keep running in this rut and miss out on something that could be very special.

I have thought about just starting over: new job, new location. I think this might be my only recourse so I don't hurt anybody, which is going to happen no matter what.

2007-10-29 17:54:11 · 14 answers · asked by Jason Spac 1138 1

...if the mom leaves the dad for another man and is planning to move out of state? what are the chances of the father getting full custody? how can he impress the court?

2007-10-29 17:42:45 · 12 answers · asked by roli 1

he got gonoreae and he accused me that i was sleep with other guys,,after 4 years marriage life and when we have 2 years toddler, he begin to stop communicate to me and never wants to know about his son progress, what should i do?? many people said he must be find somebody else and divorce is the only way for us, but i don't want to lose my son (about the custody), since his familly wants to take away my son from me..i really need help..FYI.. he have many debts to my familly and lies to me about US $2000 (he wants to buy a house in Cavite).He push me to resign from my job other wise we have to get divorce at early of our marriage life and now he try to get another soft loan from my auntie..

2007-10-29 17:32:57 · 4 answers · asked by Betsy 2

He has always hated condoms.Tonight he pulls one out of the dnight stand and said it is just less messy?This is coming from a man who had never wore a condom even with me ever.And claimed I was over reacting when I claimed that it was weird and I felt like something strange was going on.He said you always jump to conclusions?

2007-10-29 17:21:47 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-29 17:17:02 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I need help with my marriage.I leave for Iraq Again Dec 8th and all we do is fight about her wanting to goto the bar everynite and I am stuck here training our troops and working. She says she loves me but wants to do what she wants when she wants. Last june she cheated on my and I should have left. But I cant, not she met this guy at the bar and hid him from me till I found out she was calling him when I was gone. I try to work things out but I cant find the heart to walk away. I try to pray or ask people wat to do, most of them tell me to leave her but again I cant seem to leave. I know she will cheat on me again but I dont know what to do. Please let me know I am 21 yrs old and she is 22 no kids been married for 2 years and I been deployed 2 times making this my 3rd time. I love her but i dont know if she loves me anymore. Please let me know what I can do.

2007-10-29 17:16:05 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

before we got married i lied about having a long distance but very intimate relationship with my ex for the first 6 months of mine and my current wifes relationship then lied for a year after we were married about having sex with her during her short trip to see me. she only found out because my ex imed her and told her. my wife lied to me about talking to an ex bc she bumped into him at the store a couple times. she also lied about how many people she was with before me. do we stand a chance at working this out. we both want to but it isnt getting anywhere. there is no trust and especially know bc we are on opposite sides of the world. who did the most wrong? how do we fix this

2007-10-29 17:14:42 · 20 answers · asked by Lost Husband 1

We have been married for eight years. Since the start, it has been rocky, but we have always seemed to make it through. One year ago my parents became ill, and we moved into their house to help make ends meet, and they obligingly moved into the in-law three bedroom out back to keep their ranch style home that has been in the family for 170 years. My wife is miserable. She suffers from multiple prescribed diagnosis, mental and physical, and has a recently found tumor in her brain. For the past year things went downhill, and now we are at wits end. She wants to move (for the tenth time) to make things better, and I am arguing that this has always been the case: geographical changes to escape life. I can't bear to live in the area that she wants to go to, but I feel like an idiot for allowing our move to the parent's house to occur in the first place. Should we just bail out and leave, or stay and face whatever life brings?

2007-10-29 17:12:45 · 7 answers · asked by Smokingunrunner 2

My parents are getting a divorce, & Im 12 and one half. I live with my dad, & the only girl out of 2 other kids. I really want to live with my mom, because my dad makes rude comments about my body & how im growing & he says "Its not my fault you dont have new friends" (we moved to a new place and I didnt feel like inviting anyone over). I feel like all he wants to do is push me down! Im crieing right now just typing this. He even banned me from seeing ANY OF MY FAMILY (outside of ours). I felt totally cut off and alone. One day, my mom called (and he absolutely HATES my mom), & I was so thrilled that she called. But he found out that i talked to her and he HIT ME, OVER AND OVER HARD. So hard I fell to the ground. I got bruises, but this was all 3-4 months ago and I feel stupid not calling 911 or taking pictures of it. He favors my baby brother and that the only reason he's trying to FORCE me into choosing him for custody since its like half my choice. What do I do?! Im so confused!

2007-10-29 17:09:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Well my husband keeps wanting to have sex but I don't want to have sex because It's boring we keep doing the the same thing. I don't know if it's me or him. I seems like he keeps coming to me with about it the same way. Then went I want to have sex and I try different things to turn him on. But continues to do the same thing, We do the same stuff in the same order every time. How can I fix this? What can we do different?

2007-10-29 17:00:21 · 5 answers · asked by shadow2400 1

2007-10-29 16:32:55 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married for 2 1/2 years. I got married when I was 21. I don't really know if I love him. He is a wonderful guy who cooks, cleans and even irons. We never arque either. I just don't feel passion for him. I don't even remember if I ever have.I don't know if I can be unhappy for 50 years. I don't want to hurt him. I made a mistake and can't take it back. Please don't be rude! Serious answers only. Thanks

2007-10-29 16:30:50 · 14 answers · asked by Amanda E 2

Do they think about how much it will hurt their spouse?

2007-10-29 16:28:56 · 17 answers · asked by ncgirl 3

I have a deep attraction for this man, who has been a friend for more than a year, he cares for me as a friend and I do mention my husband ( he had met my husband) in front of him too. I just want to keep our relationship as friendship. But recently this attraction grew on my part, and I found myself wanting to be close to him, missing him (it's only recently that we don't get to see each other everyday as we were co-workers), but at the same time i do not want to. My husband is aware of my attraction for him and he knows i'm not acting on my attraction. Any of you have this experience too? How do you deal with it?

2007-10-29 16:22:38 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

Or do you think one is more or less important than the other?

2007-10-29 16:22:11 · 14 answers · asked by ncgirl 3

2007-10-29 16:19:23 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

Every movie/show I want to watch, he thinks is stupid & gets mad. It is always what he wants to watch. The only time I get to watch what I want is when he goes to bed or is at work. The same goes for the radio. Whether we are in his car or mine, he controls the radio. I am so tired of it. All he wants to do is listen to 80's music. I like the 80's too but enough is enough. I like listening to the newer stuff too. If I manage to turn it to my station, he will slap my hand away or just get mad & turn off the radio. I love my husband, but this is so childish and its getting to the point that I just want to smack him. Please advise how I should handle this situation.

2007-10-29 16:17:25 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

my mom and dad never really got married but they still had to get a divorce because they lived together for more than 6 months and supposedly my dad has custody of me but my dad has nothing to do with me what so ever and im trying to get married but im not sure who can sign for me if it can be either one of my parents or who my mom already said if she was able to she would sign for me...i would really like to know what i would have to do and places i can go for more information?????

2007-10-29 16:15:55 · 8 answers · asked by Laina 1

I dated a man about 12 years ago who I fell head over hills in love with. We were together for about 7 years...off and on. The circumstances were never right for us to get married or to stay together for an extended period of time. But, when I was with him it was the best time of my life. About 5 years ago, I finally tried to call it quits for good. I still loved him, but I knew it would never go anywhere. I met someone else and we got married, but I still have a place in my heart for this other man. He started calling me occassionally about 2 years ago. We haven't seen each other or been together, but when we talk, he tells me that he misses me and wishes we were still together. I would never cheat on my husband, but it breaks my heart a little more each time I talk to him. I know I should change my number or not answer when he calls, but I guess deep down, I miss him too. I don't think I ever got over him. How do I get him out of my heart and mind and focus my energy on my husband?

2007-10-29 16:13:29 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-29 16:07:50 · 10 answers · asked by markymark 1

What if he said sorry, and that he was just angry and didnt mean it.

2007-10-29 15:59:59 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm suppose to get 14 days notice in writing but didn't. Would this be contempt of court as well as kidnapping?

2007-10-29 15:59:53 · 11 answers · asked by flashtl11 1

okay my new husband of only 5 months told me just a few days ago he was unhappy and that he did not know what he wanted to do he moved out only to move in with his girlfriend

2007-10-29 15:56:10 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I are working very hard to get out of debt. We only have school loans and a home loan. We pay off our credit card every month and pay extra towards the college loans. I would like to try for a baby. I have recently been diagnosed with an issue that may mean I am infertile. So I would like to try now just to try naturally first.
My husband is thinking about it and he wants kids, but I think he is afraid of not having all of our financial ducks in a row, while I am afraid that waiting may mean no baby. So what should we do? I am just asking for your opinion I will definatley talk more indepth to my husband. Thanks so much

2007-10-29 15:51:50 · 15 answers · asked by Amanda G 3

My husband's ex-wife won't return his military awards and war memorbilia..she is doing it to hurt him and to maintain a contection to him, one last control I guess...but these items weren't listed in the divorce cause he assumed he could just have them but now she won't give them back, it's been a year of her saying "yeah come get them" and then she won't open the door and pretends he's there without permission (cause he won't go alone)...anyway we asked the lawyer and she said we could sue but only for the dollar worth, we want the actual awards cause they mean a lot to him....I mean these are things he earned while fighting in Operation Iraqi Freedom..does anyone know who we could get the actual items back?

2007-10-29 15:50:58 · 4 answers · asked by amber_91w 2

I dont know about laws in florida.I am newly wed. and my husband owe a lots of money in the bank.He owes almost haft of the value of his house.
He wants me to pay everything the bills inside the house.which he own before i marry him.
I feel not confortable because.I knew if something happen.I will get nothing from him.If ever he decide to divorce me.I am just nervous in the future.I loved my husband but sometimes people changes.
I dont trust my mother inlaw who live with us also.I am paying the water pump who just blow up and new aircon.
i dont mind helping my husband.I am just ashame myself questioning to him about whats my right because we are not married for long time.
I want to help him but i have also to look after myself.He owe like 130,000 dollars.But he has no morgages he do not like to have equity account or mortages.His also scared to the bank will become part of it.
please help me to clear up my mind.I loved him but i have to watch out my future.. sounds selfish.?

2007-10-29 15:49:16 · 12 answers · asked by Arlene A. 1

Well i asked to use my mom's cell she gave it too me i needed to text my friend so i look on the outbox and inbox.. And there it was all the stuff i needed to know if she was really cheating on my dad..And i was right. It's with our ex-neighbor im sure this has been going on for years because before we moved to a town 5 miles away we would always go over there..she has to be stupid im 12 and i started noticing 2 years ago..I have cursed out this guys so many times its unbelievable.. Should i go to the counselor bc im sure she is cheating on my dad..Im in the 7th grade I already have enough problems jeez mom! I swear! What do I do..Im going to cry.I love my parents not so much my mom right now but yeah..Please tell me what to do..Im running out of time..Im going to die.

2007-10-29 15:49:15 · 14 answers · asked by u_wish 1

2007-10-29 15:43:14 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

Or maybe he just want to have fun after marriage?He is not happy about divorce,what I have to do and say?

2007-10-29 15:39:33 · 12 answers · asked by Miska 1

My wife is a stripper and she has been hounding me to have a sexual encounter with another woman, while she watches and participates. I think it's an excuse for to try and bring another man in bed for her. By saying " well I let you have another woman" what do you think?

2007-10-29 15:35:21 · 13 answers · asked by casey091971 1