I have a deep attraction for this man, who has been a friend for more than a year, he cares for me as a friend and I do mention my husband ( he had met my husband) in front of him too. I just want to keep our relationship as friendship. But recently this attraction grew on my part, and I found myself wanting to be close to him, missing him (it's only recently that we don't get to see each other everyday as we were co-workers), but at the same time i do not want to. My husband is aware of my attraction for him and he knows i'm not acting on my attraction. Any of you have this experience too? How do you deal with it?
2007-10-29 16:22:38 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You just admire them. Its natural to think someone else is good looking or even have a bit of chemistry with someone else. If you were the same sex you would call this person a friend, someone you just "clicked" with. You should accept the same from the opposite sex.
2007-10-29 16:31:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you're a married woman, do not confide or seek counsel to another man alone so you''ll avoid this kind of temptation. At this time, sever your connections with this man until you kept your mind straight. Pray that the Holy Spirit's guidance to erase the evil thoughts or you so called deep attraction from your mind for these thoughts did not come from God.
Honor your marriage. Instead of thinking every minute about this man, spend all your energies on how you can improve your relationship with your husband. Get a vacation time and another honeymoon. Renew your love. Do not let your mind go idle.
God bless
2007-10-29 16:41:09 · answer #2 · answered by bubbles 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yea I agree, I like taurus's (males and females both) i get along with them just fine. My dad is a taurus and makes for a very unstable, lousy father. I was also cheated on by a Taurus. This just proves that there is a lot more to a person than his sun sign. The rest of your chart, as well as how you were raised has a lot more to do with it.
2016-04-11 01:56:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are but remember attraction is an animal instinct and we have evolved above that level. Whats happening to you is a chemical thing, and nothing to do with love. We always want what we can't have, and usually are attracted to men who aren't good for us cause we love the danger. When it happened to me, I discussed it with my husband and we altered our relationship to encompass the things that attracted me. I didn't know I was missing these things in my marriage. That was 22 years ago, and we are still going strong.
2007-10-29 16:31:32 · answer #4 · answered by marian g 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Dear Angeline,
Men are different from women in this respect, we can admire but we also appreciate what we have, a woman on the other hand has a tendency to stray because a woman is very fickle about what she wants (In most cases a woman wants her cake and eat it to). I'll bet your husband could admire another woman even if he felt she was very beautiful and he could have his way with her (no harm no foul) and simply let it go. Can You? Good luck on your dilemma, it's your choice.
2007-10-29 17:57:34 · answer #5 · answered by beamer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have your man. Don't allow yourself to fall into temptation or should I say any further? Don't be alone with him and try to get him out of your head...your husband should be your focus...I would just think about how it would be if it were the other way around? He had a mean crush on another woman? how would I feel?
2007-10-29 16:48:06 · answer #6 · answered by only1sol2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I control my actions and I limit my contact with the other man.
Your attraction seem to have surpassed the "*giggle* He's so cute!" phase and is now in the "Hmm...I wonder if he wears boxers or briefs? Oh...it doesn't matter! They all rip off in the same manner in the end." phase. This is a VERY dangerous phase and like it or not the friendship needs to end or become SUPER limited.
2007-10-29 16:34:01 · answer #7 · answered by Poppet 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your truly in love with your husband and you are satisfied in your marriage you should have no attraction to this other man. Self control is going to be your best bet or try and stay clear of this person. The bible says do not convent your neighbor or his wife (or husband). Good luck and God Bless...
2007-10-29 16:35:00 · answer #8 · answered by chromespoke 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
you enjoy the chemistry and let it alone! words that come to mind are self control. maturity. honor. commitment.
if you cannot let it alone, then you need to stop all contact; or realize you are not going to be married to your husband much longer.. and that is something only you can decide.
2007-10-29 18:10:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not want to be in your shoes on this one. Honestly i try to avoid these situations. If I were in this situation I think i would keep my distance from this man since it seems you may easily be tempted to do something that you may regret.
2007-10-29 16:28:23 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋