I dont know about laws in florida.I am newly wed. and my husband owe a lots of money in the bank.He owes almost haft of the value of his house.
He wants me to pay everything the bills inside the house.which he own before i marry him.
I feel not confortable because.I knew if something happen.I will get nothing from him.If ever he decide to divorce me.I am just nervous in the future.I loved my husband but sometimes people changes.
I dont trust my mother inlaw who live with us also.I am paying the water pump who just blow up and new aircon.
i dont mind helping my husband.I am just ashame myself questioning to him about whats my right because we are not married for long time.
I want to help him but i have also to look after myself.He owe like 130,000 dollars.But he has no morgages he do not like to have equity account or mortages.His also scared to the bank will become part of it.
please help me to clear up my mind.I loved him but i have to watch out my future.. sounds selfish.?
2007-10-29 15:49:16 · 12 answers · asked by Arlene A. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I guess most of you here feel i am stupid for marrying a man who has a lots of debt.But.Once you loved someone you dont care enough.But onece you are there in that situation.You thats the time you are nervous.I my owned bussiness in my country.I feel become nervous i feel my husband and mother inlaw is taking advantages of me.Its sounds not healthy thats how i feel.I dont want people will take advantages on me.Thats why i am here asking openion to all of you.I dont want to make mistakes.I dont want to hurt him either.maybe I'm wrong.In terms of money matters its so scarry to discuss..i hope i can get the best answer.wiser decission..Thanks everybody
2007-10-29 16:14:36 · update #1
If he had these debts before the marriage, they are not yours, nor are you liable for them. Tell him if he wants to pay HIS bills, maybe he should work a little harder, or get a second job.
2007-10-29 15:53:48 · answer #1 · answered by andmic510 5 · 3⤊ 3⤋
You married into his debt. His debt is your debt now. You should have thought of that before you married him. I'm wondering if he married you just for that.
Help him, if you want, but from now on YOU will be in charge of all finances.
Personally, it sounds like he's using you and that was his intention from the get go. Do you make a lot of money?
Add to your edit: Sorry, I still feel they are taking advantage of you and I think you know this.
2007-10-29 23:03:49 · answer #2 · answered by CC 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Finally I am divorced with him after 7 Years.. Its sad I have my own life.. I don't need to pay any of his debt except I supported him for 6 months spousal support.. Thank God im of it..
2014-12-02 15:34:45 · answer #3 · answered by Arlene A. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont sound selfish you sound stupid !!!!!!! for not knowing this and taking care of it with an agreement before you married him, at your age you should not give him one penny of your money. not one penny. can i say that again? not one single penny. dont be a complete fool, dont you know stories of women your age who are penniless and alone because of this same thing???? you have not been smart and careful, you need to see an attorney about this right away. to make sure you have not taken on the responsibility for this debt when you married. tomorrow would not be too soon. i only hope it is not too late. dont be a fool. and also, i hope to heck that you have not given him a single way to get access to any of your money in any way whatsoever. i have known of men who have cleaned out their wives accounts without their knowledge. you need to be very very firm about your own interests. you have been warned!!!!
2007-10-29 23:00:35 · answer #4 · answered by jaded 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am not sure about Florida, but where I live when you marry some one you assume their debt no matter if it was accumulated before the marriage took place or not.
you might wanna go to the Library and look in their Law section and brush up on the laws in your state.
2007-10-29 22:55:38 · answer #5 · answered by racheldeos 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
from what i have read, he married you because he thinks you will help get him out of debt. like one oerson said, don't be a bigger fool, get out while you still have something or he will bring you down with him. sounds like he don't know how to manage his money. and no your not responsible for his debts since he had these before you married him. pls be wise and get away from him while you still can or you end up losing everything. good luck
2007-10-30 00:45:59 · answer #6 · answered by nuckolbuster51 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
On the surface, it sounds ridiculous for him to ask you to pay his debts, especially if he owes $130,000 and doesn't even have a mortgage. I don't know the whole story, but it seems like he's taking advantage of you and hopes you'll comply out of fear of losing him.
2007-10-29 22:56:18 · answer #7 · answered by sleep_all_day27 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
tell him to get a job
2007-10-29 23:06:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him Hell no! You're not paying one thin dime.
2007-10-29 22:56:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are too untrusting of him, whether this is your fault or his I don't know. But you should never have gotten married. You are obviously not ready to commit yourself to him.
2007-10-29 22:55:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋