Or maybe he just want to have fun after marriage?He is not happy about divorce,what I have to do and say?
2007-10-29 15:39:33 · 12 answers · asked by Miska 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am not his wife.But everything he said i believed.What should i do?
2007-10-29 15:50:52 · update #1
Or maybe he is sad because he has 3 kids...oh my god..what should i do?He is asking me to be with him.
2007-10-29 15:55:08 · update #2
It's generally a bad idea to get involved with a man who's in the process of getting divorced. It really doesn't matter what he says or does, whether he's happy about the divorce or not. He will experience a number of emotions in the process and he is "rebounding" to you to make sure he's still desirable and attractive.
If you're just looking "to have fun," then have it- and don't expect anything else. If you're looking for something more, just back away while you still can. Let some other woman be the "fall guy."
After reading your additional notes, I'm more convinced that you should back off. Ask yourself this: What's in it for you? Where would you benefit from getting involved with an emotionally uneven man with three kids? Does he want to be with you for you, or because he doesn't want to be alone. Are you so lonely that you would get involved with him knowing the baggage he's bringing with him? I'd say back off now. If he comes to you a year later and feels the same, you might reconsider. I just don't think it's a good idea now.
2007-10-29 15:54:06 · answer #1 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From personal experience (not just my own, but friends) guys get over divorces a bit faster than a woman would and therefor are usually ready to date again a lot faster.
So I say if he´s in the process - Go ahead!
Of course be a bit careful though - I dont know him, so my advice might not be worth anything :)
EDIT: Just read the "not happy about divorce"-part. Nevermind my first advice then. I mean not happy could mean he still loves her or maybe he´s just sad it didnt work out, but you wont know for a while.
2007-10-29 22:46:14 · answer #2 · answered by almostfamous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible. When my fiance and I met he was going through his divorce.
Tread carefully though. Ask yourself these questions...How long were they married? How long have they been separated? Was there adultery on either side? Why is he not happy about the divorce...is it the social stigma attached, or does he still love her?
You may want to sit down and talk to him about it. That way, if you are a rebound to him you know not to get emotionally attached to him. The only way you will ever know why he's not happy about divorcing her is to ask. Maybe he's not happy if there were children involved, or the cost of the process.
2007-10-29 22:51:52 · answer #3 · answered by Tina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what kind of relations you want but I would say there's not a good chance of having a meaningful, long-term committed relationship with someone you meet while he's going through a divorce he doesn't want. He is probably just lonely and wants someone to fill a void. He probably has a lot of emotional issues. He is probably depressed, unsure, and will change his mind back and forth about a lot of things. These are just generalizations but I think someone going through a divorce needs a lot of time and space to focus on themself and their own situation... it would not be a good thing for you to involve yourself with because it would be better to find someone who is already happy with their current situation and can focus on YOU. :) Best wishes. ~Nadia
2007-10-29 22:50:31 · answer #4 · answered by nadia_j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no wait until you see proof of divorce papers. and if he is not happy about divorce their is no guarentee that he is not going to go back even if he gets divorce. might be a good idea to find some else who is not going through a divorce or not married. i say you asking for trouble right now. it would be different if he was happy about the divorce and wanted to move on.
2007-10-29 22:43:23 · answer #5 · answered by cylenneh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear Miska,
If he is not happy about going through this divorce, why is he getting divorced? Second I am a little confused, are you the one he is divorcing or are you the one he wants to see while getting this divorce from his wife? I can not comment or advise until I have you answer my question. Thanks
Simbha
2007-10-29 22:45:19 · answer #6 · answered by Simbha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I do not not think it is . He needs to divorce his wife first because it is only right and he should not be living with you either cause that is foul . He should man up and handle his divorce and then you should go forward but, be careful if he is ending it so suddenly to get to you who is to say it want happen to you.
2007-10-29 23:02:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No especially since he's unhappy about the divorce. He needs time to get over this.
2007-10-29 22:49:49 · answer #8 · answered by mergirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is going to need time and space to heal from his divorce. If you rush into anything too fast, then you will be dealing with all his baggage.
2007-10-29 22:43:21 · answer #9 · answered by Bella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until the divorce is final, then proceed very carefully.
2007-10-29 22:41:51 · answer #10 · answered by Nicole 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋