Marriage & Divorce - 29 October 2007

2007-10-29 10:52:44 · 7 answers · asked by larrikin11 1

Might as well get the big bomb out of the way first. I'm 30 she's 19. I wasn't aware of this when I asked her out. On our first date I was so impressed by her maturity that I continued to see her in spite of how many eyebrows would be raised. She's absolutely amazing and I'm planning on proposing to her soon.

The problem that I'm encountering is that I'm not a virgin and she is. I want to respect her standards, she comes from a very religious background and I'm pretty convinced that if things went too far that she would feel very guilty and it would put our relationship at risk. We've talked about where we stand on physical subjects and she has made it clear that she doesn't want to do anything more than kissing before marriage. I want to respect her but this is a frustrating process on my part, especially since we are a year into the relationship and it will most likely be about a year until we are married. I'm wondering if anyone else has been in my shoes?

2007-10-29 10:48:54 · 21 answers · asked by mr cheesy poof 2

my fiancee wanted me to pay him back $50 he used on me last month for gas, and some other stuff. is this right? we are planning to get married, shouldn't we start to think as one? i am willing to help him financially in any way i can, but i don't think it's right to pay him back. yes, you pay back a friend, but to pay back your fiance cause you borrowed from him? am i crazy? is this wrong or right? im confused!!! my dad was always the sole provider, and im just used with this kind of family!

2007-10-29 10:46:26 · 15 answers · asked by victoria_b_maria 1

I'm the divorced mom of two. Got out of a bad relationship last year and the jerk JUST quit bothering me. I've FINALLY moved on with a GREAT...no, WONDERFUL man and we have SOOO much in common BUT now; all the sudden, my heart has been racing, I passed out at his sisters yesterday, broke in to major sweats, wanted to throw up - and I'm not sure what brought it on. Today - my heart has been racing over and over and I've been very rude to my man! All the sudden a few things are bugging me about him ie: can someone REALLY be THIS nice? He compliments me all the time and to tell you the truth....it's irritating the CRAP out of me??

ARE THESE ANXIETY ATTACKS??? IF so - WHY all the sudden...when I have something GOOD going for me - why am I reacting this way???

2007-10-29 10:39:11 · 13 answers · asked by FF'n Momma 6

Does everyone belivee that if you have male friends and your married. your still cheating and visa versa.
I mean we are all adults is it possible to have friends, who you do love, trust and respect and talk to on the hpone and text is that all considered cheating especially if the spouse hears all conversations and is aware of the frie4ndship???

2007-10-29 10:36:56 · 14 answers · asked by Invictvs 1

Sickeningly enough, the guy I have lived with for over a year got drunk this weekend and when I wasn't looking went up a girl's skirt and then followed her to the bathroom asking to be let in. She called the cops and they wanted to arrest him but had no witnesses. He claimed she was crazy but then admitted the next day after I pointed out that he was stupid drunk that he could have done it but he doesn't remember it (although he remembers stuff after that incident). Should I tell him to get out or should I try to work through it? He swears he'll never drink again. Even after I told him I doubted it.

2007-10-29 10:34:42 · 13 answers · asked by Kris 2

we have been dating for 5 months, at first he didnt take it seriously, but gradually he had more feelings for me, and he said he loves me after 4 months. we even talked about he moving in with me after another 2 months. but then I found out he set up meetings with another girl from the internet, I broke up with him immediaterly. But I know I love him, and the breaking up feeling is aweful. and he kept telling me the meeting with the girl is only social, and he is commited to our relationship.
I do feel he has some integrity, but I dont know if I should talk to him about the relationship again... I dont want to do anything wrong under the pain of breaking up...

2007-10-29 09:38:24 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

If not, should the spouse who wishes to have intercourse be denied this for his or her entire life?

2007-10-29 09:33:20 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-29 09:12:22 · 17 answers · asked by KeKe Chanelle-The Man Stealer 1

I have been with living with my fiance for over a year. Our relationship has been becoming more volatile. We have been fighting &threatening one another with leaving &hitting one another. Recently it got to the point that I spilled my heart out & he was mad over something I did (I kicked him out of our hotel room after he left me on the street by myself, drank with his friends for two hours, I then physically kicked and pushed him off the bed & told him to leave me alone). As usual he stated he didn't know if he could ever get over this and that he was over me & our relationship. he is a cruel person & will say horribly cruel things to make me "hurt as much as he is" &will yell, cuss & break things around me. After being yelled at & told "I don't care what you do" I moved out to get space. I still love him & feel counseling & healing will help us. but he has not called me. It's been a week. how much time do i give without calling & seeing where we are at? Or is it over?

2007-10-29 09:10:08 · 9 answers · asked by Mikey 1

My husband and I we are living apart for almost 7 month and when I was living with him he was using me because he was pushing me to pay every payment on the house 1/2 . He did not care if I have money or not.By the way everything belongs to him!!! because the house , etc is not on my name and I signed before marriage a Pre- NUPTIAL Agreement. I did because he was telling me that he had a bad experience with his ex and he does not want happend to him again because she got 1/2 of everything and I understood him and I signed not so happy but...
Ok now that we are living apart he said to me 2 days ago that _"I should pay him 1/2 of the mortgage for the 6 month we were living apart". I answer NOOO and I ask why? he answered:- a Lawyer will make you pay because we still married . I do not believe him . What do you think? We are living apart !! I was paying him 1/2 of his mortgage during our marriage but why now???

2007-10-29 09:09:55 · 26 answers · asked by mimi72 1

After 11 years in a relationship with alot of fighting and arguing over everything we have decided that we each need some space to figure out if this relationship is meant to be. Maybe we are happier apart than together. So my question is how do you know when you've had enough space?

2007-10-29 09:08:14 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

went out w/this guy on and off for about 5 months. A crazy girl who I though was my friend posted some crap about him on-line. The posting was made to look like he was cheating . She didn’t even know the guy personally! I found out the posting (at the time I didn’t know this girl did it) and I told him to “hit the road”. Later I found out this girl did the posting and that all were lies. I don’t know why she did… she’s just crazy. The guy got really upset and though that one of his friends GF’s did it. So he came really hard on them. I told him that I was sorry about the whole thing, and that I force this crazy girl to take down the posting. This was a month ago. Since I feel bad about the whole thing, I would like to know if he made mends w/his friends. He hasn’t call me in a month…so, What would you think of me if I call him and ask if all was fine with the friends?

2007-10-29 09:06:22 · 6 answers · asked by Bri 3

my husband has been in jail for 7 yrs now and he will not give me a divorce. Is there any way I can get one with out him?

2007-10-29 09:04:47 · 16 answers · asked by MARY N 1

here it goes....
-my mother-in-law( mil) just retired and has a loads of free time.
- as she has free time she invites her family every weekend on friday night, saturday whole day and sunday whole day
- and as the house is small me and my hubby have no privacy..we both work 5 days a week and r tired and look forward to the weekends to spend together but we can't.
-bottom line we both r tired of her family coming over and disturbing our lives. my father-in-law hates that too.
plus, she just sits there and talks and i have to do all the work..cook, clean, make coffee and entertain them.
WHAT CAN I DO TO STOP THAT?
the problem is that we live in their house because they asked us too.( my hubby is a doctor and we can afford our own house!) but "they will be lonely and they r old", says my sister in law who has to interfere in everything..and when they get old doesn't want to share the responsibilty with us. So this is why just to take care of them we live with them but contribute $3000 eve

2007-10-29 09:03:43 · 13 answers · asked by Just another gal 3

but puts off the whole marriage thing? The subject was braught up the other say and he said...i would get you pregnant right now!"
But my piont was getting married LATER in the future not now.
What did he mean by that comment?

2007-10-29 09:02:56 · 7 answers · asked by CONFUSED 1

I have been seeing a married man who I work with for exactly a year now. Two months ago, I decided to end the affair and broke it off with him telling him that I was through and would never be with him since he would not get a divorce. It was very hard because I have to see him every day and he continued to call. We have been going back and forth and dragging this out for over two months now. It's far too painful for everyone involved and doesn't seem like it is going anywhere.

He wants to remain friends until he sells the company in January and is 'able' to get a divorce. I do not think this is best and think that it is just another stall tactic to string me along until he no longer has to see me every day. I know the best thing to do is to end it but it is easier said than done.

I'm looking for some resources where I can find advice and support on how to end and get over the affair but (understandably) there isn't exactly a lot of advice available for the 'other woman'.

2007-10-29 08:57:04 · 22 answers · asked by Intoximicated Kitteh 1

I've been crazy about this guy for a yr now but he lives in another country and I don't see any hope for us at all. I'm trying my best to go out and date other guys where I live but it's just no use...I come home from a date and log in hoping the guy I'm really in love with has logged on or contacted me to tell me he can visit.

This has been going on for a mth now. I'm feeling that I just cant get over him...like its the love of my life...what should I do..I haven't told him about my feelings for fear of being rejected. I'm in a really difficult bind and can't break out of it! I compare every other guy to him and they dont even come close.

2007-10-29 08:54:22 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous

My fiance and I are in our 50's and both married twice before. We have been engaged 4 years, and together for 5 years. Whenever I wish to talk to him about things that concern us, he responds "now is not the right time" or " I don't want to talk about that right now." The only times we sit and discuss things out honestly is online. He won't talk to me in person face to face about anything. He doesn't show affection much, so don't know if this is a part of it. He likes hiding behind walls of the internet it seems when we talk. I wonder what our marriage is going to be like when we no longer use the net to communicate?
Anyone else in such a relationship where they wont' talk to you in person? We can spend the whole weekend together or take a 2 hour trip somewhere, and not speak hardly at all to one another even though I attempt to make conversation. He will talk to me for hours on line, though. What gives????

2007-10-29 08:49:34 · 10 answers · asked by gailrussell2003 1

My spouse is an admitting speed user but in his own defense says atleast he provides for his family and he says he doen't spend $ on the drug. His family sees no problem with his habit because he provides for us. my main prob is he goes to work and then when he gets home from his job he either crashes out till it time to get up for work or he leaves to go hang with his friends till midnight or later...barely any family time do we get with him. We have 2 boys ages 7 & 9 . When I confront him about his actions he tells me that he wants to hang with his friends because he's been at work all day. how do I help him see he's hurting us and missing important parts of his childrens lives.....I feel he needs to grow up.

2007-10-29 08:37:24 · 20 answers · asked by tabitha_wrd 1

Is it your current husband or someone else? What made him soooo good?

2007-10-29 08:37:04 · 18 answers · asked by Smooth Lyrics II 2

i was in a relationship, my ex bf was controlling and jealous, making false accusations, which gave me emotional stress.
i am now happy , not stressed anymore.

2007-10-29 08:31:01 · 26 answers · asked by rodriguez m 3

married women answer only would love to hear your comments

2007-10-29 08:26:16 · 14 answers · asked by bright 2

that after a few years of marriage almost everything about your partner gets boring and the sex gets bad and you almost can't stand them and wonder why you married them in the first place?

2007-10-29 08:25:25 · 33 answers · asked by Esa Chica 3

I have been with my husband for eight years,since i was in high school.he was an angel while i cheated on him an destroyed his self esteem.after forgiving me for 100th time, we got married,and i got pregnant.theni found out that throughout my pregnancy he had been talking to a girl who he had gone out with for a month before getting back together with me.they both say they were just friends and that he has nevr cheated,but then he showed me a letter fromher saying that" she wished he would stop loving me and break up with me b/c i ruined her relationship with him and she still loves him." he cut all ties with her.do you think he cheated.Since then i am really depressed,severely, and he says that if i dont let it go hes gonna break up with me.he emphazises that he was never unfaithful and would never be.am i overreacting?

2007-10-29 08:23:07 · 18 answers · asked by bittersweet84 2

And the reason is why is he think that you aborted your frist child.

2007-10-29 08:19:14 · 17 answers · asked by charm 1

after 7 years together,we were going thru alot..life..he started to go on the road alot..i hated it but dealt with it , i was primary caretaker for my step daughter who is 14 yr, she has lived w/ us for 6 of those years as he had regained custody of her..i am her mommy..we have been going thru alot , death in the family , his absense ..i own a little store and have had a very hard time this year...he told me he loved me and that i never had to worry about loosing him to a woman...he was not a cheater,,i had to trust him ,to drive away all week. then when he came home for the weekends ,we were to tired to have much fun ,i do admit i did resent his job ,taking away from the family...i could have been more loving and appriciative rather then hurt and angry...i am lost ,anyone who knew us saw our devotion to one another..i started feeling used ..he is selfish and often put his wants before needs..like property tax ,,he has not been w/her but 3-4 weeks and moved,same day i got news he was

2007-10-29 08:18:23 · 14 answers · asked by hopr4africa 1

Or brain surgery. Or any of the other complex, male-dominated professions which women could only dream of entering

2007-10-29 08:16:47 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am very unhappy at my job something just dosen't feel right everytime I have to go to work I feel sick I can't trust anyone and things are crazy but I am not certified to teach in the field I want and I'm doing it there should I just stick it our or shoud I try to find something else. I make good money and I wondering if I will find the same money somewhere else but I am so so so so unhappy. As soon as i set foot in the building I get a knot in my stomach I am grateful for a job but AHHHH

2007-10-29 08:13:47 · 9 answers · asked by jj 1

ok, he left me because I hurt him bad, (i was drunk) but he has started calling me & I told him i wanted to c him, so he came to c me today, we talked for a while like friends, then he said he would call me tomorrow, I also asked him to come fix the front door lock he said he would. Does this sound like maybe i have a chance to win his heart back?

2007-10-29 08:10:14 · 30 answers · asked by kinky_dreads 4