My husband and I we are living apart for almost 7 month and when I was living with him he was using me because he was pushing me to pay every payment on the house 1/2 . He did not care if I have money or not.By the way everything belongs to him!!! because the house , etc is not on my name and I signed before marriage a Pre- NUPTIAL Agreement. I did because he was telling me that he had a bad experience with his ex and he does not want happend to him again because she got 1/2 of everything and I understood him and I signed not so happy but...
Ok now that we are living apart he said to me 2 days ago that _"I should pay him 1/2 of the mortgage for the 6 month we were living apart". I answer NOOO and I ask why? he answered:- a Lawyer will make you pay because we still married . I do not believe him . What do you think? We are living apart !! I was paying him 1/2 of his mortgage during our marriage but why now???
2007-10-29 09:09:55 · 26 answers · asked by mimi72 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry for my spelling. I'm a foreing person but my husband is American. And we are living in New York State.
2007-10-29 09:11:10 · update #1
We do not have kids.
2007-10-29 09:18:05 · update #2
No no back with him anymore . He wants me to sign a Uncontested divorce ! He is real bad !!! I never thought he can be in that way...bad bad
He is using me because I'm from another country...but I'll talk with a lawyer as soon as possible
2007-10-29 09:24:24 · update #3
No lawyer would make you pay on a house you don't own and weren't staying in. Your "husband" is trying to take advantage of you again. He is an idiot. I want to smack him. Please smack him for me.
2007-10-29 09:14:47 · answer #1 · answered by Rosha N 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself a lawyer NOW! Do not pay anything to your husband. If the house is in his name, then he is responsible for the mortgage. If he doesn't pay it, the bank will go after him. But get yourself a lawyer so that you can get what you are entitled to. Just because you signed a pre-nup does not mean you are entitled to nothing. Usually, assets that are gotten after the marriage (savings, boat etc) are half yours. But you need a lawyer to figure it out. Do not go to a lawyer that your husband tells you to. Pick one yourself.
2007-10-29 16:26:19 · answer #2 · answered by It's a secret 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mimi...As we Americans sometimes like to say, "You are about to be taken to the cleaners" by this guy you've been married to. The facts you have presented here make your situation unimaginably complicated legally, what with pre-nuptial agreements, community property laws, separation, etc.
At the earliest possible moment, you need to find yourself a competent family law attorney in your area. Based on what he has attempted to tell you about your "responsibility" for 6 months of mortgage payments, and his barely veiled threat of an attorney making you pay him...it would not surprise me one bit that he is also attempting to take advantage of the fact that you are "a foreigner."
Do not wait for an answer here. Get yourself to an attorney NOW!
2007-10-29 16:22:52 · answer #3 · answered by JMH 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if he wants 1/2 of the mortgage then you want him to pay 1/2 or more of your RENT. WTF??
No, he cannot MAKE you pay anything on the basis of being married, especially if you can prove that you've not stepped foot in the residence for the past 6 months. He could try to sue you, but yeah....good luck with that.
If you signed a pre-nup, then he's screwed. He legally agreed without duress that the house would be 100% in his name, and therefore he is 100% responsible for it.
What a crock of sh!t. Be THANKFUL you're no longer together. He sounds like a real f**king winner, that one.
2007-10-29 16:14:02 · answer #4 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go and get your own lawyer. The answers you receive here will be coming from all over the US with different states with different laws. Also, I doubt that there are many qualified lawyers on here answering today.
Go and get a lawyer and get every single paper that you have signed with your husband and let the lawyer know what is going on. It sounds very much to me like your husband is scamming you. He is trying to frighten you and take advantage of you not knowing the intricacies of the law. You need to get professional legal advice.
2007-10-29 16:15:27 · answer #5 · answered by A.Mercer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't anything he can do to make you pay. If your name is not on the mortgage and he doesn't make the payments, the finance company will go after him, not you.
Quit believing everything he says! In fact, if you don't have any children with the man, don't talk to him anymore at all and file for divorce as soon as possible!
2007-10-29 16:19:14 · answer #6 · answered by dark eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The house is in his name - it is his responsibillity. He sounds like a real cheap jerk. I hope that you contact a lawyer and get a separation agreement in place. He made you sign everything away - so why should you have to pay. Be glad you are rid of him. Don't let him scare you or walk all over you.
2007-10-29 16:27:16 · answer #7 · answered by Babycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need a lawyer because this could get very involved, and could effect your status in this country. Do not give him any money or sign any papers until you have legal advise. It will cost you some money to get a lawyer but in the long run it could very well save you money, as well as, deportation.
2007-10-29 16:38:00 · answer #8 · answered by K K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't pay him anything and get a lawyer.You may be able to get back what you have paid and a prenupt doesn't matter it only covers what he had before you got married anything you together you can get half of when you get a divorce but don't tell him that until you get the lawyer or he will hide assests.Good luck
2007-10-29 16:15:25 · answer #9 · answered by notagain49 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you weren't living there I don't see how he could make you pay. Tell him he needs to pay for half of your apartment rent while separated. I wouldn't pay him a penny unless the court system makes you. It sounds like he's just trying to get money out of you. Best of luck!
2007-10-29 16:15:09 · answer #10 · answered by Brian C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not have to pay for a house you do not own, or live in whether he is your husband or not. Get your own lawyer. If you can not afford one look into volunteer lawyers. Don't let him bully you.
2007-10-29 16:15:27 · answer #11 · answered by steffi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋