After 11 years in a relationship with alot of fighting and arguing over everything we have decided that we each need some space to figure out if this relationship is meant to be. Maybe we are happier apart than together. So my question is how do you know when you've had enough space?
2007-10-29 09:08:14 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We both agreed on seperating for a while
2007-10-29 09:38:31 · update #1
you will know.
2007-10-29 09:25:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know that you have had enough space if you decide to get back into the relationship or you may decide you need more space and get a divorce. You should try counseling though during the "space" time because you may be able to find a mutual meeting place that you can both agree on to save the marriage.
2007-10-29 09:13:41 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 11 years and you have not worked it out? This is not where its at...... Come on, lots of fighting and arguing? Its just a shame that it took you 11 years to see you need space. The second time you had the big argument should have been the handwriting on the wall. No 11 years have passed and now its painted in big red letters.... Move on be happy ..... gitter done.. Time to be happy... Good luck and I wish you love... Grant M in Pennsylvania
2007-10-29 09:43:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a good idea for you to go to a counselor to sort this out. After 11 years your family and friends are sick of talking/hearing about it and you probably feel like you are going in circles. You have to figure out what it is that you want outside of a relationship and if you are willing to make the changes your partner wants you to make to stay in the relationship. Waiting for your partner to change is a waste of time because you have no control over that. You only have control over yourself.
2007-10-29 09:18:37 · answer #4 · answered by Crazy in DC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you want to get back together and share the same space. If you don't and you realize that you like being alone or not sharing your space with him, then both of you get to keep your space.
2007-10-29 09:13:06 · answer #5 · answered by Amy V 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take stock in the relationship. Evaluate what things work and what things lead to arguements and space separation.
In most cases, you will see a pattern in a flawed relationship.
2007-10-29 09:12:31 · answer #6 · answered by bx01z 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would think that you would just know. Obviously there's going to be a few weeks of complete exhilaration in your freedom, but I would think that after awhile that would wear thin (unless you really are happier apart)..
2007-10-29 09:12:28 · answer #7 · answered by Jenn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how do you know when you've had enough space?
When you get tired of sleeping with other people
2007-10-29 09:11:56 · answer #8 · answered by ~NIKKI~ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uh, this is called a BREAK UP! If he hasn't come back yet, he most likely is doing someone else!
2007-10-29 09:20:03 · answer #9 · answered by Smooth Lyrics II 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who suggested the "giving space"
2007-10-29 09:33:52 · answer #10 · answered by SecretsGyrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good one s... if you miss the one your going to be with.. then u have use the space .. no room . in your heart for others... it hurts ...then its time to be back in each other arms... good luck ... s
2007-10-29 09:38:26 · answer #11 · answered by rpetch007 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋