we have been dating for 5 months, at first he didnt take it seriously, but gradually he had more feelings for me, and he said he loves me after 4 months. we even talked about he moving in with me after another 2 months. but then I found out he set up meetings with another girl from the internet, I broke up with him immediaterly. But I know I love him, and the breaking up feeling is aweful. and he kept telling me the meeting with the girl is only social, and he is commited to our relationship.
I do feel he has some integrity, but I dont know if I should talk to him about the relationship again... I dont want to do anything wrong under the pain of breaking up...
2007-10-29 09:38:24 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No man who is "committed" will be on the internet making arrangements to meet with other women. He was willing to cheat on you. And if you take him on, knowing that, then you will get what you settle for - a man who doesn't know what commitment is.
I know you hurt now, but you are better off without him. Thank your lucky stars that you caught him now, rather than when you lived together and there were a lot more things that would need to be worked out. Be kind to yourself, and allow yourself to grieve for the death of your hopes for this relationship. When ready, get back out there and find yourself a man that deserves your loyalty.
2007-10-29 09:57:49 · answer #1 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you want to give him another chance. IF you do I would suggest that you let him know, if he is going to be setting up meetings with other girls and NOT telling you about it, when you find out you're going to assume he is meeting them for something he's not supposed to.
And believe me, the pain of breaking up is much better than the pain of living with a problem and ending up married to someone who cheats. But everyone deserves at least one second chance.
2007-10-29 16:45:05 · answer #2 · answered by jimapalooza 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious???? This guy is a looser and you will, hopefully, find that out.
I want to share an experience I had and I hope it helps.....When I was in my 20's I had the similar scenario as you. Basically I got tired of what he was doing so I found another playmate myself. Of course he didn't like it. I told him if he was going to have the best of both worlds....so was I. This relationship lasted about 2 years then we went our separate ways. No hard feelings we are still civil. I learned real quick he was not the man for me but I will admit I had fun. I guess it was my way not to get hurt by him...by having fun myself.
2007-10-29 16:49:05 · answer #3 · answered by sierra_91_2000 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he set up to meet another girl whom he met on the internet he was planning on cheating. This should be a warning sign to you.
2007-10-29 16:48:42 · answer #4 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok, so let me get this straight.... he meets you and tells you he loves you... and you love him... but the second he talks to a female on the internet... you leave him???
hummm.. sounds like you have no clue about what love is....
so yeah, burry your head in a hole....
2007-10-29 16:48:51 · answer #5 · answered by Latin G 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move on. You made your choice now you have to stick to it or he will never respect you. Not that he does now.
2007-10-29 16:43:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
you did the right thing .
2007-11-02 16:30:10 · answer #7 · answered by BQ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN FOR THE HILLS!!!!!
Wake the hell up!!!!!
Run, girl, run!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-10-29 16:47:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋