I've been crazy about this guy for a yr now but he lives in another country and I don't see any hope for us at all. I'm trying my best to go out and date other guys where I live but it's just no use...I come home from a date and log in hoping the guy I'm really in love with has logged on or contacted me to tell me he can visit.
This has been going on for a mth now. I'm feeling that I just cant get over him...like its the love of my life...what should I do..I haven't told him about my feelings for fear of being rejected. I'm in a really difficult bind and can't break out of it! I compare every other guy to him and they dont even come close.
2007-10-29 08:54:22 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Start screwing another one.
2007-10-29 08:56:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
The way I see it you have 2 options: either you talk to the guy and tell him, not necessarily that you are in love with him, but that you want more from what you have now with him and see if he feels the same way, because otherwise you are waisting your time waiting for something that he can't guess you want unless you tell him, or you can give up if you think you have absolutely no chance to see each other more often and have a relationship. But I personally think it's better to regret something you did than something you didn't so I would talk to him without making a big deal about the in love part but more about that I would like to know each other best and see what it comes out.
2007-10-29 09:05:41 · answer #2 · answered by irina_visan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't keep trying to push away your feelings for him, accept that you still love him. Don't give up either, or lose hope. I mean it's 2007, almost anything's possible =)!! Try to plan a trip/vacation to where he lives...but of course ask him if it's okay if you can see him, you wouldn't want to give him the impression that you're stalking him. You two could spend a romantic week where he lives together, that is, if he loves you too. If he does not like/love you back, try to not hang on THAT much, it may creep him out. Music really helps though, like listening to break up songs, makes you sad for about a month or two...then you'll realize you're really alright without him, and won't feel sad anymore when you listen to them...it works, trust me =)
2007-10-29 09:00:44 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds really weird and its kind of on a small scale.
But there was this guy i really liked and he didn't like me back and i found if i listened to a song and had that in my head, it would take the thoughts of the guy away.
Also, spend more time with your friends.
This will help you realize that there's more to life than wasting your time on some guy.
You could find some more guys in your area too.
Whats to say there's not someone out there you haven't met yet that's just as good, if not better, than this guy you like now?
Good luck and i hope you find someone new soon.
2007-10-29 09:00:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is a great guy. And maybe he just SEEMS perfect because he isn't here in the flesh and you just IMAGINE him to be perfect. Play it out with him if you can and you will know what he really is and what you are together. This sort of "fantasy relationship" is why people fall in love with online aquaintances so easily: we have no choice but to fill in the missing spaces that we can't experience for real with our imaginination and the idea that this is the perfect partner.
2007-10-29 09:04:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get closure. If you are unable to move on from this guy and get closure along with it; then you need to realize what you want and way out the pros and the cons of the situation. AND go from there.
I think that you are scared to tell him how you feel because you are afraid that he is going to tell you the reality of it all- to you it way come as the form of rejection, but in all acutality it is the truth. Unless, you move to his Country or he moves to where you are then there is no possible way for the both of you to be together.
2007-10-29 08:59:22 · answer #6 · answered by sweetpea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know there is no hope with this guy. I think you just like the chase and just want what you can't have. You need to decide in your heart and mind that you will not keep hanging on and putting your life on hold for this fantasy. Who's to say if he was near you, that you would even be interested? Keep busy and make the final decision not to keep holding on for him.
2007-10-29 08:57:58 · answer #7 · answered by Green Eyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're right not to contact him.... get you, strong girl! if it's meant to be, he'll contact you., he really will.
From what you've said, though, it sounds like he has definitely gone away for a while... and that's no bad thing...
I was so in love with somebody a year ago, I couldn't believe it had ended, thought he was the love of my life etc.
But you know what, time goes on, and you start thinking about new things, and you get happier.. believe me, I promise you!
2007-10-29 09:02:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is all a matter of time if you are not going to tell him how you feel then how do you plan on fixing this? may be you should tell him and if he does not feel the same about you then it is time for you to get on with your life.
There are a lot of nice guy's out there you have to give them a change
2007-10-29 09:01:48 · answer #9 · answered by sandyjean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him how you feel. You really don't have anything to loose. If you never see him then go guts out and just tell him. It's not like you have to see him around after. Be bold dear. So this feeling can go. I know rejection is brutal. Its hard to do, trust me I know, but it will be better once you know the status
2007-10-29 09:00:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i hate this i'm so sorry but it doesn't go away for a long long time. I'm still kinda into the guy I've liked for a long time [6 years]. I find other guys and like them but in the back of my mind. I only like him. He'll be in my heart forever. Just let things take its course. And good luck
2007-10-29 08:58:02 · answer #11 · answered by omgitstbaby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋