I have been with my husband for eight years,since i was in high school.he was an angel while i cheated on him an destroyed his self esteem.after forgiving me for 100th time, we got married,and i got pregnant.theni found out that throughout my pregnancy he had been talking to a girl who he had gone out with for a month before getting back together with me.they both say they were just friends and that he has nevr cheated,but then he showed me a letter fromher saying that" she wished he would stop loving me and break up with me b/c i ruined her relationship with him and she still loves him." he cut all ties with her.do you think he cheated.Since then i am really depressed,severely, and he says that if i dont let it go hes gonna break up with me.he emphazises that he was never unfaithful and would never be.am i overreacting?
2007-10-29 08:23:07 · 18 answers · asked by bittersweet84 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have to clarify something: I was exagerating when i said he's "forgiven me for the 100th time". I just cheated on him once,and that was one time too many.He's not a saint either,although he is a good man.I made a mistake but he's the only other man i've been with.
2007-10-29 14:50:37 · update #1
If he showed you the letter then chances are he didn't cheat (or he's incredibly stupid) - I think you're concerned about it because in his shoes, you would have cheated.
You are overreacting, you need to let it go and thank your lucky stars that he loves you enough to forgive you.
2007-10-29 08:56:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, for one even if he was unfaithful... You can't say anything. You cheated on him. You were in the wrong from the begininning. I'm on his side with this one. He may not have cheated, he may have just needed someone to talk to, a shoulder to lean on, or he may have cheated. Only he knows, however... it doesn't matter, you did it to him first, so you can't really say anything, and even if he did, he cut all ties with her to be with you, so at least be happy with that. I never would have.
2007-10-29 08:32:24 · answer #2 · answered by cresentrosetat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like pregnancy hormones to me.
I highly doubt he cheated physically, maybe emotionally though, who knows.
Honestly, I'm not sure you have a right to say anything either way - it was okay for you to do it, but not for him?
Goodness gracious, woman! If you love this man, then FIGHT for your relationship. Enough with the pity party already! He's stopped talking to her, he's doing everything you've asked. It's time for you to come back to reality. You're LUCKY he's with you to begin with. Pop some anti-depressants if you have to. Just stop with the drama, PLEASE!
2007-10-29 08:33:37 · answer #3 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is right, you are overreacting. He sounds like the type of a guy that would not cheat.
On another note, I guess now you know how it feels for the other person when they suspect cheating, never mind when the know for sure.
Good Luck.
2007-10-29 08:31:01 · answer #4 · answered by Dimitar A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you cheated on him and he had to forgive you that many times you shouldn't complain if he did her on the dinner table during Thanksgiving dinner! Sounds like maybe she really cares for him and just maybe he is showing you how it feels!Do him a favor and get a divorce,you can go back to being a sl** and he can be happy.
2007-10-29 08:32:05 · answer #5 · answered by notagain49 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Often, the real cheater has a hard time believing the other has not cheated as well. Let it go....not sure why he chose to show you the letter tho.....seems hurtful...might have been revenge or might have been his way of saying "see? i did not cheat even tho she was crazy about me"......let it go if you want a relationship to work with this man.
2007-10-29 08:28:36 · answer #6 · answered by that judi 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
He probably didn't cheat, because he knows how Crappy that feels for the other person. And because he's probably a stand up guy. But then again if he did, Good for him, I guess you got your just desserts.
This chick said that becasue she sees rigth through your crap and knows that you are more than likely going to hurt him again. She's probably a better fit for him and knows it.
YES HE IS RIGHT! I feel sorry for this guy.
2007-10-29 08:30:40 · answer #7 · answered by Sean C 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's a good man and being honest with you .. now both of you let go and go on and think of your baby!
2007-10-29 10:17:00 · answer #8 · answered by Queenie` 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
considering that you did the same to him, don't you feel like you are just going through the same things that you put him through? kind of feeling the same things that you made him feel? That is called Karma
2007-10-29 08:28:39 · answer #9 · answered by ~NIKKI~ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you are overreacting .... just look at what you did in the past and he forgave you...so you should trust him...it is not suiting you reacting like that..
2007-10-29 08:38:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋