My parents are getting a divorce, & Im 12 and one half. I live with my dad, & the only girl out of 2 other kids. I really want to live with my mom, because my dad makes rude comments about my body & how im growing & he says "Its not my fault you dont have new friends" (we moved to a new place and I didnt feel like inviting anyone over). I feel like all he wants to do is push me down! Im crieing right now just typing this. He even banned me from seeing ANY OF MY FAMILY (outside of ours). I felt totally cut off and alone. One day, my mom called (and he absolutely HATES my mom), & I was so thrilled that she called. But he found out that i talked to her and he HIT ME, OVER AND OVER HARD. So hard I fell to the ground. I got bruises, but this was all 3-4 months ago and I feel stupid not calling 911 or taking pictures of it. He favors my baby brother and that the only reason he's trying to FORCE me into choosing him for custody since its like half my choice. What do I do?! Im so confused!
2007-10-29 17:09:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to see your school counsellor and tell him/her everything about your situation. They can and will help you. If what you say about your father is true, then you need to seek advice. Please do that for yourself. Don't be afraid to. You must!
2007-10-29 17:14:54 · answer #1 · answered by Yner 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I am not a lawyer. However, don't worry about your bipolar disorder being thrown up in court b/c it has never gotten in the way of your parenting and you take meds for it. Also, you cannot file for child support until the baby is born and do not give him a divorce until then so he doesn't pull any "the baby isn't mine" crap. I do not see any reason why you wouldn't have full custody of the baby as long as you can prove that you have an income to take care of your children.He will of course have some custody rights. I would look into getting a lawyer pro bono or a free legal service. Start your homework on this now b/c it looks like this jerk is going to drag you through the mud. If you have any proof of his cheating make sure you hang on to it, you will need that in court. Good luck hon.
2016-05-26 01:29:15 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get outside help. Can you talk to one of your teachers? She will know what to do. You also need to tell your mother that you want to talk to the judge about your living arrangements. I don't know where you live but you should be old enough to decide where you live. He cannot cut you off from your family. He cannot hit you like that either. You should have told someone about that also. Do not let this happen and not do anything about it. I know that you are scared but you will be better off in the long run. Do not let him force you. When you are in court or with the judge he cannot do anything to you. You can request to talk to the judge alone without your parents. Talk to someone very soon. Family, a friends mother, the school nurse but someone. Good luck honey.
2007-10-29 17:43:07 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well why didn't you call the police, there would have been bruises, left on you he would have been arressted, you would be with your mom. The police are there to help you, if you feel that strongly, then get out. Next time he does it and he will ask yourself this do you want to be loved or beaten. Do you want to be a runaway, do you want to be person that isn't abused. Honey you are strong, brave, You should not feel bad about not calling the cops I'm only trying to wake you up to the facts about abuse. There is help out there go to school and talk to your counselor show them the bruises, you dad may love you but it seems he can lose his temper at any given time and wihtout warning. If you confied in his family are they going to help you or him. You need to know that abuse isn't okay in any form. Ask yourself what makes you happy, but you have to live, want to be happy, be able to deal with life. This should not have ever happened to you, I will pray for you, hope to GOD you get the help you need.
2007-10-29 17:22:40 · answer #4 · answered by Valentine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for what your going through! Your dad has no right treating you like this! Is there any family that he lets you see that you can tell what he's doing to you and how he's making you feel? Do you ever get to see your mom? As soon as you can maybe you can tell your mom what he's doing to you. try to talk to someone, maybe if you have no family you should talk to a school counselor, your dad really needs help he shouldn't be making those comments and he should under no circumstances put his hands on you for any reason. you need to talk to someone or it's going to eat you up on the inside.
Good Luck, please get help, God Bless you
2007-10-29 17:18:08 · answer #5 · answered by TM25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all if he is saying and doing these things to you sweetie you need to know that its not right. It's abuse. Please report it to a teacher or someone. Once there is a record of this the courts can see what kind of a father he is and maybe make him go to some kind of counseling. You need to stay with your mom. Even if he gets mad. Don't believe in his words. Hes only saying things to hurt you because of how he feels about your mom. Record him saying things to you (don't let him know what you are doing) and tell someone. You will have the evidence you need. Love shouldn't hurt honey, not even if he hates your mom. Report any abuse you can. Get evidence as much as possible. For all you know he could hurt your little brother later in life. He needs to stop. He needs help. God be with you. Good luck. I'll be praying for you honey.
2007-10-29 17:19:59 · answer #6 · answered by Just a friend! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell your mom or someone at school like a counselor or it will get so worse. I was in the same position and I told my dad to shove it and lived with my mom. My mom was so sorry that I went to my dad and that he did that she left it up to me to talk to him and now I'm 21 and trying to repair my relationship but it is up to you to decide that when the time is right but no matter what both parents love you and your dad needs help and should get it before you see him again.
2007-10-29 17:20:32 · answer #7 · answered by PrepTheKitty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry you have been put in the middle of this mess. i agree that you should speak to a counselor or some adult that you can trust. you should not be treated in this way. no matter what dont think that any of this is your fault. and do not feel bad about wanting to be with your mom. im sure that is a normal feeling.
2007-11-02 16:40:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to pray to GOD for help. You are in a very bad situation, your dad is not fit to be a father and the law will cause you and your family more harm then good and your mom probably cant help. You need to accept JESUS and pray for GOD to help you and in the meantime try to be very respectful and obedient to your dad and not to anger him.
GOD is the only one that can help you. If your dad starts to hit you more than just spanking again, run to where other people are and scream for help.
2007-10-29 17:20:57 · answer #9 · answered by ecd1975 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look Im gunna go with everyone else here .
You really should get help.
My gosh you poor thing You really should talk to a counceller and see what they might sujest to you or even pack up and call your mum to come get you.
In my eyes I cant see why you a girl should be with him any ways.Not at your age
2007-10-29 17:50:06 · answer #10 · answered by longbeach 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aww Im so sorry you're going through that hun...What hes doing is not ok and it isnt one bit your fault...My dad was a bully too and I finally accepted that I dont have to please him or have him in my life. He is not allowed to lay his hands on you...when you go to school tell the counselor!!! You need to call the cops....do something! God Bless you
2007-10-29 18:27:49 · answer #11 · answered by Nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋