My mom is cheating on my dad im desperate for advice...?

Question

Well i asked to use my mom's cell she gave it too me i needed to text my friend so i look on the outbox and inbox.. And there it was all the stuff i needed to know if she was really cheating on my dad..And i was right. It's with our ex-neighbor im sure this has been going on for years because before we moved to a town 5 miles away we would always go over there..she has to be stupid im 12 and i started noticing 2 years ago..I have cursed out this guys so many times its unbelievable.. Should i go to the counselor bc im sure she is cheating on my dad..Im in the 7th grade I already have enough problems jeez mom! I swear! What do I do..Im going to cry.I love my parents not so much my mom right now but yeah..Please tell me what to do..Im running out of time..Im going to die.

Answer 1

Calm down.

First, you need to stay out of this. The problem is between your parents. Yes, it does affect you, but it's not about you. You aren't even sure that your mom is cheating on your dad. And even if she is, it's up to them to work it out.

Secondly, you aren't going to die, you're not running out of time, and you're clearly not the only one with problems.

Third, go to a counselor to help you deal with your emotions, not to figure out how to get further involved in your parent's mess. A good counselor will help you find ways to cope with the situation and communicate better with your folks.

Of course you love your parents. And your mom loves you, even when you do dumb things so cut her some slack.

I'm not trying to give you the blues, I'm just trying to get you to recognize some very important facts: 1) Things happen in life that we don't like, but we find a way to make sense of it and move on. 2) This is a problem your parents have, and THEY have to deal with it. 3) You're growing up and must learn that the world does not revolve around you. You're not going to die, your problems are not nearly what your parents are about to face, please talk to your counselor and calm down.

Answer 2

At some point in time, your mother became unhappy and she seems to believe that what she is doing will make her happy. Your feelings are testament that this is not so. Your anger toward your mother and compassion for your father are powerful emotions. You cannot be their therapists. but you need to seek out a non-related unbiased professional third party. Your emotions are in tatters, but you will probably have to tell your father. Try your best to stay out of the middle--this will not be easy. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 3

Come on now.....you don't need to die over this. You need to talk to your Dad and don't be shocked if he already knows about it. Sad thing is that kids should never be brought into adult issues and now you have been. The counselor you speak of....is that at school??? If it is, yes. if it is someone that you trust go and talk to them. they may have some good ideas for you to try. But please don't end your life over this. Your parents problems are probably very deep and drawn out. You sound like a smart kid and don't kill yourself. IF you really feel that badly....call one of your friends and talk to them for a while tonight....or maybe go spend the night at their home....if that would help you.

Answer 4

STAY OUT OF IT! Nothing good ever comes from getting in the middle of someone else marriage. Even if it is your parents. If you feel the need to say something talk to your mom but I advise against it.

Answer 5

ok, hi i am in the same situation but it is kinda different. I was kinda suspiciuos about my mom for like forever like the way she talks on the phone when she talks to her guy friends. we used to live in columbus but now we live in maryland. we were in columbus visting family and it was early and i checked my mom's phone. i looked on the inbox and it had a message from a guy saying(ok im 12 too and this is about sex.) It said "ohh that felt soooo good. Thanks. I would have stayed for round two but my pu**y hurt too much". So right then i knew something was going on. I called the guy and cursed him out and he called my mom and i got in troble. But ever thing is fine now. Intil i checked my moms email(i have her password) and she was talking to her friend and said she spent the night over a guy named sly's house. i was sooo mad expectually after she lied to me about it. I am so mad i don't know what to do. help me too.

Answer 6

This is your mom's problem. Talk to her, tell her you do not want to be in the middle of this, but you are. Tell her you will not keep her secret from your Dad and tell her she needs to handle it.

But this is really between your Dad & Mom, remember adults have issues that you do not know about. Try to focus on your studies. I know it is hard. Try to talk about your feelings to someone like a counselor/minister.

Good luck and hang in there.

Answer 7

Before you jump to conclusions, maybe talk to your mom first. I personally would not go to your dad, you never know you may be wrong. Adults have very different lives than kids think. Before you go and open a can of worms, make sure you really know what's going on. So your best bet would be to staight out ask your mom.

Answer 8

It's not a good situation. I'd tell you to stay out of it, but in your case you are very stressed out about it and it's not a good thing.

What do you think she would do if you asked her about it? Or told her that either she tells your father or you will?

Does your mom have a sister or mom still living? Can you talk to your aunt or your grandmother? If so, do.

Answer 9

Yes go to your father and try to bring the cell phone for proof, and yes talk to your counselor...I'm sorry you have to go through this....I feel sad for you.

Answer 10

I feel for you kid - Show your Dad or at least let him know that you know. It is very likely that he already suspects and just needs some proof. .....and YES go to the counselor!!
You need support!!