I dated a man about 12 years ago who I fell head over hills in love with. We were together for about 7 years...off and on. The circumstances were never right for us to get married or to stay together for an extended period of time. But, when I was with him it was the best time of my life. About 5 years ago, I finally tried to call it quits for good. I still loved him, but I knew it would never go anywhere. I met someone else and we got married, but I still have a place in my heart for this other man. He started calling me occassionally about 2 years ago. We haven't seen each other or been together, but when we talk, he tells me that he misses me and wishes we were still together. I would never cheat on my husband, but it breaks my heart a little more each time I talk to him. I know I should change my number or not answer when he calls, but I guess deep down, I miss him too. I don't think I ever got over him. How do I get him out of my heart and mind and focus my energy on my husband?
2007-10-29 16:13:29 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
take your husband to heart. and stop thinking about the past move on in life with him or you just might loose him over the past. my opion?
2007-10-29 16:19:29 · answer #1 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You called it quits for a reason. Now you're choosing to forget that reason but you need to remember it well and often. He's a jerk for contacting you now that you're married. And you're foolish to let him. Tell your husband you can't forget the other guy and have been talking with him. I'll bet he'll help you forget him or else kick you to the curb so you can go back to something that didn't work the first time.
2007-10-29 16:36:54 · answer #2 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm in a similar situation as you, and i understand how you feel. i have spoken to my husband about my attraction for this other guy and my husband is also helping me through this. i hope you can speak to your husband too. because we are both trying to get this other guy out of our marriage, so we need to be honest about it. In fact, basing on what you've said here, i feel you need to focus on the fact that this other-guy is the type who cannot commit himself, so the grass is not greener on the other side, when you finally get him as your own, it would be worse, it won't be better... i'm sure you see that too. what we yearn for is the probably the free spirits of this other guy, which makes nothing in the long run. I hope what i have said and shared helps you. I know it's hard, but try to distance yourself away from this other guy, you'll feel better...
2007-10-29 16:29:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you had wanted to be with him and him with you, you would be. You are in love with the "what might have been" or the idea of him. Get on with your life with your husband, he deserves all of your heart. It is a choice.
2007-10-29 16:21:35 · answer #4 · answered by Nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep up this insane fantasy and it will very soon be too late.
knock off the foolishness and grow up.
2007-10-29 16:56:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why? Because you are a gluton for punishment.
2007-10-29 16:18:17 · answer #6 · answered by CC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are married , cut it off, you cant have it all and u need to give it up, we cant have everything..
2007-10-29 16:19:05 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are sexually hook
2007-10-29 16:17:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋