He has always hated condoms.Tonight he pulls one out of the dnight stand and said it is just less messy?This is coming from a man who had never wore a condom even with me ever.And claimed I was over reacting when I claimed that it was weird and I felt like something strange was going on.He said you always jump to conclusions?
2007-10-29 17:21:47 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're right to doubt him. No man would ever want to wear a condom for no good reason. You know him well and long enough to be certain that he hates condoms, so there's no way he can get away with telling you any lies about this. He's probably gotten him some STD and is afraid to tell you (of course). If he would've avoided having sex with you, you would have suspected anyways, because you'd wonder what was wrong. You are most definitely NOT jumping to conclusions and I'm sure you pretty much know this; you really don't need any of us to confirm this to you.
2007-10-29 17:43:15 · answer #1 · answered by MiaMonique 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There would be only two reason why a man would use a condom if he always hated them.. This would be pregnacy or.. He has got a disease of some sort. Now mind you men do get things without playing around. Something has frightened him though this is for sure and I do not feel you are jumping to any conclusions about it. I'm only sorry that he has not told you the reason why! He really should confide in you if he has caught something and he will if he has not done anything wrong because he will get tired of using the condoms! I really find it strange that so many people on here feel that he was playing around on you because I really have never heard of a guy using a condom after going out on his wife. He still comes home and has sex the same old way with her. My man played around on me and he sure did not pull out a condom to use. So I am sure he has caught something or someone has scared him about pregnancy.
2007-10-29 17:42:17 · answer #2 · answered by craft painter 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry Tammy bad news. I think he cheated and maybe caught an STD. Some thoughts to ponder; Why did he have a condom in the first place if he doesn't use them. Less messy? Men like that part about the sex usually it is the girl that doesn't. Who initiated the sex? If it was you, and then he pulled out a condom(I would be just a touch suspiscious. The only way to know for sure, would be to make him get an STD check(all he has to do is pee in a cup)asap(in case he is already taking meds for it). If he tells you you are being silly or anything like that, say "You knew I was silly when you married me, You will do this because you love me and it will apease my fear, if you are innocent then you have nothing to be afraid of."
I know people who have had affairs, this usually means an affair. It might not be an STD, it could be that his lover could have asked him to wear a condom when he is with you, because she doesn't like the thought of, well you know.
Of course he would try to convince you that you were just overreacting. My husband also detests condoms and I would absolutely know that something was up if he all of a sudden wanted to use one. I read in some book, that your gut is usually right on the money when it comes to cheating(you know that moment when it just passes through you and you get butterflies) upwards of like 80 % of people who's spouse was cheating had a gut feeling that they were at some point during their spouses affair.
2007-10-29 17:38:08 · answer #3 · answered by Crazy_Fool 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is very odd. Trust your instincts on this one. Something is going on. Don't mean to alarm you...but I would personally be digging a little deeper. Maybe he's got an STD he just found out about. Maybe he's been with someone else and isn't sure if he has an STD or not. You are NOT over reacting. After all this time...the last thing a man would do is pull out a condom unless he had a reason for it.
2007-10-29 17:28:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to go to the doctor and get an std test done tell him you are demanding he gets one too since this is way too sudden... tell him you trust him and all but what would he think if you were all of a sudden buying very important items that might be for an std related thing...
If there is nothing on you then keep using the condums, heck I would cut down on sex until he talks to you about it, if it were me... tell him you want to understand why this is such a quick change...
anyways you've been with him one year? any more time than that as friends and dating him before you married, if it has not been 5 or more years than he might be being more responsible..
maybe he doesn't want kids, don't ask him that, if he is cheating or thinks he has an std or something and you ask about kids he might just say yeah that's what it is... if you don't ask him that and he says that it might be true, then again I said MIGHT...
If it is really bothering you and affecting your relationship with him and you think that other things seem weird with you two then tell him you want to go to a family councelor to sort what is going on out.
2007-10-29 17:31:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is strange. Seems like he should have talked to you about his feeling that it's "messy" without a condom before now. Maybe he's worried that you'll get pregnant? I had a boyfriend that was so paranoid that he insisted on using three kinds of birth control - condoms, the pill and spermicide. I think you should bring it up again...see if you can get some kind of real answer out of him. Tell him that everyone on yahoo thinks it's unusual. Seriously. Good luck!
2007-10-29 18:05:20 · answer #6 · answered by chandiepoo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's rather odd behavior from a man that never wore a condom. My first thought, if it were my husband would be, he had been with someone else and didn't want to pass anything on in case he might have contracted something. My husband has never been a condom wearer and if he had a ready supply and whipped one out, I would be very suspicious.
2007-10-29 18:38:20 · answer #7 · answered by drewxjacobs 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would demand more of an answer. I to honey think hes lying about something. Check phone bills and emails. If nothing surprise him at work or something. A guy I once dated who is now my husband did kindof the same thing and he was cheating. said he wanted to know what it felt like with one on so he jerked off. was a lie, he had sex with someone and forgot to get rid of the evidence. If you dont use condoms why do u have them in your night stand?
2007-10-29 17:26:25 · answer #8 · answered by lilmissnippy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you are on birth control and he pulls out a condom and you are married............there is a problem.
If you are not on birth control and he pulls out a condom then it could be more than one reason- the best being he isn't ready for kids right now, but still very strange.
Less messy? Why now? Ask some questions my friend!
2007-10-29 18:05:22 · answer #9 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I just asked my Husband and he said that your guy is probably up to no good. He said more than likely this guy is sleeping around and wants to make sure he isn't going to give you something? I don't know just a guess but yes it's very weird and NO you are not jumping to conclusions!
2007-10-29 17:28:00 · answer #10 · answered by loseit 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋