like my husband begs for oral sex all the time and i give but he has never and when i mention it to him he says no he does not do it and i have never had it. so what should i do cause it makes me feel bad because i give to him but if i try not to him gets mad.
2007-10-29 06:14:40 · 55 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i am very clean person and he won't be cause he just won't
2007-10-29 06:23:26 · update #1
Typical selfish man, You deserve as good as you give, tell him, he better put out or he does not get it in return. And as he is new to the whole idea you might want to get him to read up on what he is doing otherwise you may end up with a real clean bottom. Next time give him a big wet kiss with a load of his goo in your mouth and tell him thats what you put up with.
2007-10-29 06:31:51 · answer #1 · answered by Diamond Dogs 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
One thing that promotes a good relationship is that the people involved have to be willing to give back, at least, that which they expect out of it. I am sorry to hear that though as he really does not know what he is missing or depriving you of, and the benefits are huge. Good luck to you guys, keep trying. Next time he begs, consent and hop on top and straddle with you in position for him to reciprocate. Change the 67 to a 69.
2007-10-29 06:59:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's crazy. Seems like you are with the wrong guy if it's important for you to receive. Some guys LOVE to go down and are usually quite good at it. Seems like he's not that type.
Next time he asks for some head, tell him no. Explain to him that you both need to create a healthy balance in your sex life. It's called the cunnilingus felatio ratio. It's one of those "I'll do you if you do me" deals. If he cannot agree to it, then you have a serious problem. If he does agree, then eventually you can get to the point where you're not keeping track of how many times you please each other orally. Good luck.
2007-10-29 06:28:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simple, next time he asks, say, " I don't do it anymore".
" Its like this, I give you recieve, You do not give I do not recieve. Guess what, if you don't give, I don't give. There is no more excuse and I don't do that will no longer work."
Tell him its time for him to go to all his friends and tell them he no longer can get oral from his wife. They will all say yes thats how it is. Then make sure he tells them that he was shut off until he gives first. They will tell him he is crazy and that men do that AND even enjoy it.
The concept that he does not need to do that because you don't know what you are missing is a bit goofy. We'll see how important oral is to him because he does know what he is missing.
2007-10-29 06:27:03 · answer #4 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I never get it from my husband either, heck we haven't even had sex in 2 months! But I just don't give him oral as much as I use to. I tell him it's not fair that he always gets pleased and I don't get anything. So just stop doing it to him or only do it every now and then so he still feels good about himself and plus sometimes it feels good giving to the one you love.
2007-10-29 06:19:33 · answer #5 · answered by poopykins81 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
c sex is not 1 side affair...1 need 2 understand its not always men who want it or demand it, but diff woman have diff sexuality and some r okay with it some suppress it. Always do wot u want and talk more abt it with ur husband rather than defend outright. You may not be liking oral but u 2 need 2 let each othr knw wot u like in it n wot u dont in oral rather than giving it up completely.
2007-10-29 06:22:04 · answer #6 · answered by HotnKool 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him about oral on you when you're not in a sexual situation.
Ask him why he doesn't. Just saying he doesn't isn't good enough. Ask if there is something you could do to make it more appealing, like shaving and assure him you will bathe before hand.
If he still refuses, it's time for a little marriage counseling. It's absolutely ridiculous that he feels it's ok for you to pleasure him but he feels no responsibility for your pleasure.
2007-10-29 06:22:04 · answer #7 · answered by alisongiggles 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is tricky because if you convince him to do it to you, you won't able to enjoy it because you know he's doing it by force. I for one can't enjoy something like that. Besides, what if he gets grossed out? Can you deal with him being repulsed by your private parts?
I suggest you explain, and maybe show (porn) him that it's not an embarrassing thing to do, and that it can mean pleasure for both of you, and maybe he'll come around.
Also, you shouldn't give it to him just because he asks for it. Do it because you're in the mood, otherwise it's just a chore, and that's not what sex should be about.
Good luck.
2007-10-29 06:22:03 · answer #8 · answered by Bbibutza 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him that you want to feel pleasure and be satisfied as much as he does. Stop giving him oral and tell him that its unfair of him to want it and not be willing to return the favor. Sex is 50/50. If you can do him then he can do you. This is your husband and you both should be able to experience new things and try everything to please eachother. Ask him why he doesn't like to give....it may be the taste or smell that turns him off. If so, suggest some flavored cremes, gels, or food that you can rub on the area and he can lick off.
2007-10-29 06:24:32 · answer #9 · answered by concernone 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop it! Let him get mad.I bet he never tried it.Shave it and tell him to dive in.I can't speak for other guys but I really,really love it and have since the first time I ever tried it.I was about 9 at the time.There is just something about the way a womans face looks when you are bringing her so much pleasure and it tastes great,but I won't get near one that any hair on it!Tie him up and sit on his face,he will love it!Good luck.(you are over 18 right)If not then forget everything I wrote!
2007-10-29 06:33:36 · answer #10 · answered by notagain49 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋