why do men marry women that don't have the physical qualities they desire?

Question

My husband likes bigger butts, smaller boobs, and brown eyes, but he married me, petite, nice but small butt, and 34D bra.....

He says he doesn't care that much about the physical, but I know he said he does think those things look better to him, and more beautiful...

So why didn't he just marry that? I don't get it.

Answer 1

Well when guys are young they got this really distored view of the perfect woman, but as they mature they realize character plays out more than the physical.

Answer 2

Those are just individual pieces, he may find them attractive, but that doesn't mean he finds you any less attractive because you don't have some of those traits. And it certainly doesn't mean he actually wishes you had those traits. I've always liked jet black hair on guys, my bf is a redhead. He's better looking than any dark haired guy I've seen, and I certainly don't wish he had dark hair. He'd look like hell with dark hair.

A guy can find blonde more attractive than brown hair, brown eyes more attractive than blue, large breasts over small, but sometimes the hottest woman in the world to him is a blue eyed brunette with small breasts.


Everyone has preferences, but I think you're overestimating their importance. I doubt he is the exact prototype of everything you ever physically wanted in a man. Maybe you like tall guys, but he's only 5'8. Or you like blue eyes, and he has brown. Don't overthink it, why don't you think about what your ideal is, and I'm sure you will come up with some traits he doesn't have. Does that mean you would rather be with someone like that instead of him? I really doubt that, and I'm sure your husband thinks the same way about you.

Answer 3

Looks arent everything, I personally would rather marry someone I loved as a person even if they didnt look like my normal type of hot. In the long run that means more. If I met someone missing certain qualities I look for physically and we had awsome chemistry that would be way better!

Answer 4

From the male perspective...This is a tough one to explain but let me give it a shot. Myself, I never liked really skinny women and I didn't marry one. My wife is full-figured for sure and for the most part, that's what I like. With that said, now I find myself enjoying the look of skinny, large breasted women. I have come to the conclusion that I just like to look at the female body and it really doesn't matter what size. I'm not quite sure we really know what we want but what I do know is that we married who we love. We look, that will never change, but it is just that, looking. Had we married another woman we would be looking at you. I wouldn't get all that excited about it because he loves you and no matter what, that's what is important. Don't feel as if you have to change because I can tell you this, it's not what he wants. Hell, we are lucky to have someone love us at all...you think we are going to mess that up.
Again, don't give it another thought, it's fine, and it sounds like he loves you very much.
And by the way...we don't get it either :-) Our minds change like Ohio weather.

Answer 5

Well... Did you marry your husband just based on what he looked / looks like?

My husband is the total opposite of what I would have labeled as my "type" but I love him more than anything in the world...

Love has very little to do with looks or physical qualities...

Answer 6

People marry for companionship. If all he wanted was sex with a woman who looks the way he wants, he could find that from whores. He saw something (probably many things) in you that are more important than his favorite physical traits of a sex partner. I'm sure he still enjoys sex with you and is likely very attracted to you also. I say enjoy it and don't worry about it.

Answer 7

hell I agree with you!! why in the sam blazing hill did he married a woman with a bigger butt and smaller boobs. SSShT, you would be my prize winning spouse...curse him!

There is something about you made him forget about the other women with a bigger butt and smaller boobs. Your petite size and your lustful mouth watering boobs and their D!!! hmmmmmm I am wondering why!!! smiling at you....wink!

Answer 8

Good for him, he chose you because you have the qualities and traits that he chose for a partner and often times they far exceed those we like to look at. Love overcomes the looks portion of a relationship. Don't let his visual pleasure complicate the obvious love that he has for you. Don't be jealous of his looks at others as they look for the man that would put looks under the desireable traits. What you have is what others look for and cannot find. Sounds like you should be more thankful for your man and not question those insignificant things he looks at. Ask yourself which is more important to be oogled or to be chosen.

Answer 9

Because you don't marry someone just for their body. And besides, you sound pretty hot. Guys have physical qualities preferences but can still enjoy other attractive features.

Answer 10

Because physical qualities may look nice, but they are not necessarily what keeps a person happy. He married the person that he loves for who she is on the inside, and that person is you!