paying my share of the evening out? WTF? Im still kind of stunned. He kept saying that all he wanted was for us to go out and have a good time, then he says, "it doesn't matter, no big deal, but..." We live together, money's been tight but that's getting better. All comments welcome.
2007-10-29 07:19:31 · 8 answers · asked by Boots4ACowgirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well when I first saw the question... And did not click onto the ending. I was saying... WTF...? He asks her out and now wants her to pay? But then you say you live together and moneys tight? You have to go dutch treat and thats all there is to it sorry... I am a man and if I asked you out the night is on me. But living together 1/2 and 1/2....
2007-10-29 12:39:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he is testing just how loyal and faithful you are. Guys usually still pay for everything on a date but sometimes to keep things peaceful and even tempered, perhaps making him a home cook meal or taking him out to see a play or a movie should come to exist in your mind. If you care about this relationship very deeply, the best way to keep a relationship healthy is to exchange constantly...on the same level that is...if he gives you a teaspoon of affection do the same thing in return....keep it on the same level and you could never go wrong. This might also be a time, since you said WTF to discuss with you BF just what exactly does he want and vice versa, being open is the only way to solve relationship oriented problems. Good luck to you. God Bless.
2007-10-29 14:31:04 · answer #2 · answered by PeacefulGuy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you said it yourself, money is tight. Maybe he wants to loosen up that finacial tightness by having you, an active part of this partnership, chip in everynow and then.
So to answer your question "WTF?"
If you can't shell out a couple bucks from time to time to have a good time with your boyfriend, don't ***** to him when his money is tight and can't "take you out for a good time."
He Does want to have a good time, no doubt about that. But if you expect him to pay for everything with money he may not have, perhaps he'd rather stay home with you and have a good time and save some money.
Greed is one of the 7 deadly sins for a reason.
2007-10-29 14:36:29 · answer #3 · answered by Sean C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I grew up in a day and age when the guy always paid for the date. But the '60's-'80's are gone. Women should pay for some of the date these days. Now, if you are living with this guy you two need to take into consideration your relative incomes and how much each of you pays for rent,utilities, etc.
2007-10-29 14:30:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I still "treat" each other to dinners or events. Sometimes we'll go out to eat and I'll say, "this is on me" even though I know our money is coming from the same place for the most part.
It's nice to treat sometimes - surprise your boyfriend and take him out somewhere; he will appreciate it and it will make you feel good too.
2007-10-29 14:26:03 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK girlfriend it is time to get real, yeah money is tied, however, you free loader have to pay your share, and then you have the nerve to be upset what the f....!
Yes it is time to step up to the plate, this is 2007 get real1
YES you have to pay sometimes alright!!!!!!!
2007-10-29 14:38:59 · answer #6 · answered by maria s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're living together , you should be paying your share when you go out....
2007-10-29 14:27:29 · answer #7 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why shouldn't you pay?? WTF is that about? Money is tight for him too I assume...maybe he is sick of being taken advantage of!
2007-10-29 14:25:55 · answer #8 · answered by Kailey 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋