I have a high sex drive but my husband don't. He don't want me to get a toy because he said then i will not have sex with him. i am so into sex why is that? I like to please him also even when he don't ask. he said that i am every guys dream. i want him to get any herbs to higher his drive but he don't want to get anything. what to do? How to higher his drive. I masturbate too. i think may be I have high sex drive because he is my first partner. I have never been into any relationship before but I am not his first. How to tell him I want more.
2007-10-29 06:56:50 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like you typed with my fingers!!!
I have at least got a vibrator. Go get one, it's a wonderful piece of invention!!! !!!
I have to beg my husband on a daily basis, try to get him going on a daily basis and I get put down all the time. Yes, he's stressed, yes he's tired, but HELL, I HAVE NEEDS TOO!!!!!!!!
Why should we always stand back for their needs (We do every time they say no) but they are never prepared to put their tiredness aside and satisfy our needs?
Well, one thing I can say (and Yes I have to start doing it too) is that you keep yourself happy. Tell him that you want to get a toy so that you can BOTH benefit (I did and it worked). But then you need to keep yourself satisfied and start saying no to him. When he makes a move (not every time, because you'll put him off) say no. Give him his own medicine. It's not easy and sounds stupid (I mean, we want it and when he wants to give it we say no) But this will teach him that he can't snap his fingers and we just jump!!!
Start playing hard to get again. You'll know where the limit is!
Good luck!!! !!!
2007-10-30 02:16:39 · answer #1 · answered by Ethan-Mikyle's Mommy! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is tired, maybe he needs some exercise too, maybe some sleep those will all slow a man down ....now a back rub with some creative rubbing, going for walks and about 1/3 the way around the block suggest something to do when you get home... don't push but suggest and let the imagination go! If you make him think it is his idea more he might get more motivated and don't criticize the sex but have some imagination and he might be ready to go again.
Have Fun
2007-10-29 07:08:59 · answer #2 · answered by Pilgrim in the land of the lost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to put forth more effort in the relationship. If you want more, he should be willing to do what it takes to give you more within reason. He should take some kind of herbal suppliments or something. He should also grow up and let you have fun with toys. If he is not careful, he may find that he has pushed you away by trying to cage you and contain you.
2007-10-29 07:07:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do you know that you have a high sex drive when you have only been with one partner. He could have a very low sex drive. Tell him it is either you buying a toy or him pleasing you more then he does. Every woman masturbates I do not care who they are they do. Just talk to him and tell him that you crave him more and you need him more.
2007-10-29 07:02:26 · answer #4 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Thats crazy, you still need to enjoy yourself, if you need a toy get one or two or a whole case of them, watching you with them may actualy turn him on more. That would be like you telling him he cant masturbate, him saying you cant have a toy, what business is of his any way, if he is not providing you with the goods you need, take matters into your own hands so to speak.
2007-10-29 07:11:23 · answer #5 · answered by Diamond Dogs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that your husband wants to control your sex habits and since he is your first, I'm sure you want to explore every aspect of lovemaking (which you should). Its very important that your husband appreciate what he has and encourage you to get toys so that if he can't satisfy you then you can get your toy and he won't have to worry about you cheating. Tell him that you love him and love making love to him and to compromise on sex, maybe he can please you in other ways, or compromise with him on how many times you expect to get it from him. Ultimately both of you have to be flexible to each others moods.
2007-10-29 07:18:05 · answer #6 · answered by T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My goodness any man's dream...... There are many herbs out there.... But...... He has to want to take them.. Have you tried cialis or Viagra? I know that he probably does not need it.. But the advertisement says if you have an erection for over 4 hours.. Shucks he wont have to he has you..... Good luck Happy relief... Grant M in Pennsylvania
2007-10-29 07:20:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He DOESN'T (NOT DON'T) have a high sex drive because you always want it. That means that he can always get it and he probably almost feels like he has to have sex with you because you want it to often. You shouldn't not make any moves or bring it up and his drive will come back. As a male, I know that one from experience. I felt like I had to do it and I could do it anytime, and then when my girlfriend backed off a little, my drive came back, and very very strong.
2007-10-29 07:02:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
wait he dont have sex with you. he dont want you to get a toy cause you wont have sex with him......is tghis guy a a hole or what. get a toy babydoll or better yet give me a call ill give him a run for his money. im far better then a toy or a cold husband anyday
2007-10-29 07:01:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
WOW, you are the lady that dreams are made of!! If he can't/won't kep up, maybe he's embarrrassed into submission!! Join a club w/him and get his dull butt in gear!
2007-10-29 08:40:44 · answer #10 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋