Marriage & Divorce - 13 October 2007

My husband and I have been together for almost three years now. When we first met everything was amazing. The longer we have been together however the more hurt I have become. For the past two years he has forgotton my birthday all together. Two nights before our wedding he went out with his friends for his bachelor party. He came home and I found out that they had gone to a few different bars and at each bar he had asked several different girls to "flash" him or show him inappropriate body parts. He also went so far as to get a girl's phone number...(just in case things "didn't work out with me"). I considered calling off the wedding because of how hurt I was but I decided against it. On our anniversary he told me he was going to take me out to dinner when he got off work...instead he spent the night cleaning the garage and talking to his parents. There have been a few times when I have considered starting the car in the garage and ending my life. Why does he treat me this way?

2007-10-13 17:29:38 · 15 answers · asked by lotbomb 1

I'm not on it all the time really, just after we put our 4 kids to bed, most nights i answer email, do this q/a thing, that sort of thing. i don't neglect the poor fellow. i don't spend the whole night every night on the computer. Oh, and our sex life is great, even after 4 kids and 8 years of marriage. but for his sake i'll ask, is there a problem with my computer use?

2007-10-13 17:24:57 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

let's say you got pregnant on purpose because you stopped taking your birth control pills without your husbands knowledge. then you got pregnant, freaked out, and had an abortion by your choice. then after the abortion your husband was playing with his son from a previous marriage while you were resting. you then got all emotional came into your stepson's room, started cussing and saying that you just got your guts ripped out for this family and you wanted people to jump up and do things for you. meanwhile your stepson started crying. then as his father, i told you to go calm down and get out of his room because it's rediculous for you to say that in front of a 9 year old kid besides it was your decision. would you leave your husband for protecting his son from that or do you think it was all an excuse to leave? i don't think i did anything wrong. what do you all think?

2007-10-13 17:23:07 · 12 answers · asked by survivor 1

My best friend's husband is a porn addict (yes, she knew that going into the marriage 7 years ago) and she feels like she's constantly being compared to porn stars during sex. She feels like she can't be vocal or herself during sex and plain just don't enjoy it anymore...they haven't been intimate in many months and now she feels like they're more just friends than a couple. She really has no desire for sex anyways, but does feel lately that she's being neglected. He ignores her in favor of video games when he's home.
But they have a new baby and she wants this relationship to work. I want both of them to be happy, but don't know how to advise her, so any help would be much appreciated!

2007-10-13 17:22:59 · 2 answers · asked by Bluebear 3

Okay so I've been married for 7months. My husband has never been the cheating type. He absolutely hates cheaters. He doesn't see how someone can do something like that to someone they love. Anywayz.. the past couple months the young girls he works with have been flirting with him constantly. He's a manager so he has to stay late and close the place down. Well they close at 11pm everynight, and here lately he hasn't been making it home until around 3:30am. If I call to find out where he is, I get no answer. Does anyone think I should look further into this whole deal?

2007-10-13 17:20:34 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

any one know of a support group to help get over the pain depression and anger over a seperation and divorce especially if you still are madly in love with the person who does not love you. Obsessed? In the milwaukee wisconsin area.

2007-10-13 17:16:03 · 1 answers · asked by mc52132000 2

it has been a few wks since he officially broke up with me after 4 years b/c he was unhappy... should i send a book da vinci code he always wanted to read (ordered on amazon for dirt cheap), and a plain card that just says happy bday... i won't wrap the present up, just send it in plain manila envelope. of course, i'm not gonna lie, i would at least hope he will say thank you, but even if he doesn't, i would feel i have done my part and, just as a nice way for me to end this chapter in my life and move on.

I took the break up badly and I did ask him back before.

If you had to put your money on the possibility of him calling back, would it more likely to happen if i didn't send him gift or card on his bday OR if i do send him gift on his bday?

2007-10-13 17:04:27 · 8 answers · asked by Mike P 1

he says he has been unhappy for the last 2 yrs. and wants out..I have 2 kids from prev. marriage, him...none, and we have a 1yr. old son together..just bought new house..he has moved out 2 weeks ago..has told none of tis family..he says, he wants to divorce and stay friends.(possible?)..he comes in the house ..gets into the fridge..makes himself a meal..get on the computer..watches t.v...has some play time with our son..does his laundry..all just like there is no divorce going on...the kicker here..he says,' he will pay all existing bills..incl.house payment..and give X amount of $ to take care of me and the kids'...we will also live within walking distance of eachother,..Has yet to put into writting..his so called purposal..OH yea..also his request, lets keep att. out of this..too good to be true?..what do you think?? I am caucious, very caucious...and since 'he' moved out..isn't this 'my and the kids home?

2007-10-13 16:56:37 · 5 answers · asked by Stephanie 1

How did you propose to your spouse, or how would you like to be proposed to?

Is it normal to be scared to death by the thought of it, too; nervous about asking, that is?

2007-10-13 16:53:50 · 16 answers · asked by Jack B, goodbye, Yahoo! 6

k so my parents are split up and now my mom has had her heart broken 3 times all ready and my dad still has no gf can someone tell me how to deal with this.. i cnat do this on my own any more!

2007-10-13 16:41:05 · 6 answers · asked by kat_lover_aka_angel 1

We went to our son's cub scout outing. My mother went with us. I pushed my mom's wheelchair all the time, up hill down hill. I did not asked him any help, and he was busy with kids. Then before we left, my husband went to help out one of kid's mom. Helping her put kids in the car because she has four kids with her at that time. I helped my mother and put wheelchair in the car, and told our two kids to get in the car. They are five, and seven. They know what to do. She has three, two, and seven. Other kid is seven also(not her own). I got so mad. How is can help other woman over his wife of 15 years. I told him maybe he is in love with her. He says "no". and i told him denial is not going to help him. Am i mean or is he crazy?

2007-10-13 16:40:06 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

If the wife was sexually abused as a child and never dealt with it, decides she wants kids and marrys someone, has 3 children and drives the husband away through alienation, because she doesn't like sex, can she be sued for divorce based on fraud?

2007-10-13 16:30:34 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was married for 15 years and my ex husband left me for someone else. I filed two months after he left and told me he no longer loved me. I started dating and then he told me he made a mistake. I told him it was too late. I kept dating this one man and realized I was trying to replace my ex with this new man. The new man is obsessed with me and I feel badly because I told him I loved him and that I would marry him. I now know after thinking hard that I was in love with the idea of having someone adore me. I still love my ex husband. We have two children, one who is four and the other who is thirteen. I am not sure if I can ever trust my ex again or if it is even worth trying. He is still seeing the woman he cheated with but claims he is not happy and will never be happy we are divorced. I am not sure what to do.

2007-10-13 16:29:36 · 15 answers · asked by bebe12 1

I just finished college this year and only feel attracted to people 20 - 30 something years older than me. I don't feel like people of that age are within my parents generation, as my parents are in their early 60s.

2007-10-13 16:11:43 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am widow of 33 yr. Both of want to marry afer hearing a story of marital discard I started love him. His cout cases are under going 498A& Cr125. he is having one child. We had one abortion also & again I missed my period & he is taking about settlement with her wife 70% he will bring his wife back. earlier he was tell she is not likly to return back since she involed some where else. I am SC & he is OBC. I convince my family for marrage but his perents are not happy with his reletion. but he is asuring me marrage after finishing of his marrage with 1st wife. Pls guide me. We know each other sine 3 years & I am t0tally confused to handdle situation.

2007-10-13 16:00:03 · 7 answers · asked by Suma k 1

When we are intimate, there are two particular things that I've tried and don't particularly like, both things are painful and/or uncomfortable. Since I've been refusing to do these things, He gets angry and offended and tells me to 'stop taking things away from him' it ends up in an argument, and therefore ruins a perfectly good intimate session.

In the initial stages, I agreed to do them to 'try them out' and now he says I'm going to take everything away from him, eg no sex at all! I really didnt mean to mislead him in the first instance, but he thinks I did. I just wanted to try them out and form an opinion on it.

Some advice as to how to handle this would be appreciated. Thank you

2007-10-13 15:58:48 · 23 answers · asked by Damo 2

my husband has the right to get money or advances on his paycheck. well when i got his pay stub today is has advances for 1160.00 taken out leaving me 288.73 left to pay bills with. this is not the first time he has done this it has been going on a couple months but he is starting to take more and more the phone bill is through the rough (cell) electric is due water house phone hardly any food. and alot of other bills are late and getting cut off in the next week or two. why could or would my husband be doing this. I just started back to work as I have been raising his kids my step kids for the last three years. I'm fixing to lose eveything and I cant get him to say anything about his advances he keeps telling me that payroll is behind and that he is geting chrgeed for thing and fuel he has bought to put in the company truck he's a truck driver. but it has been to many times in a row and the amount is getting hire each week. he clames he is eating canned food and going without.

2007-10-13 15:56:37 · 10 answers · asked by sunshine 2

i'm doing an affair with 40 ys old man who has wife and 2ys old son. i love him, always wanna be together, but it's imppossible now because of his family.

but i want.

i have told the wife once " hello ? Could you separate your husband? bye." on the phone.

when i did this, i was ready that he will leave me , end this relationships and go back his home.

but he didn't . he is going to continue with me not even getting angry with what i did.

i' m sesious. i can't wait for him any more.
Please tell me what i should do to make them divorce.

(we are all in Japan . he is foregner so need wife for VISA.)

2007-10-13 15:50:17 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wedding is in nearly two weeks. What am I doing? My fiance and I have broken up so many times that I can't even count. We been engaged three official times with three official rings in the past two years and sundry minor breakups in between that too. We have very different issues with money. She's a realtor and makes good money when she has clients but her credit sucks. I've bought a house and car in my name for her but now she's having trouble paying for it. I know marriage is not easy but it seems like we're starting out on a low. If I decide not to go trhough with it, it will not be a clean and easy break because of the house and car. This will both of our second marriages. She has three kids. I was a step parent to two kids in my first marriage. That can complicate things too. I love her and feel awful for hurting her if I finally break it off.

2007-10-13 15:45:49 · 7 answers · asked by steele_cd 1

The women I married to is listed in numerous dating websites. I have all her passwords and have retrieved a lot of information off the site that included match.com, yahoo personals etc. I want to get a divorce what’s the next step? What position am I in what rights do I have with this matter?

2007-10-13 15:43:54 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

please help me,, in our country we know nothing about sex before marriage,, just the general idea ,,i was married to a man i used to konw him for 1 year ,, but after marriage i discovered that he can't..you understand me ...i'm still vigin i got divorce,,,,,and now i want you please tell me more about it .. i don't want watch porn ,, and don't want ask one i know,, so if you please tell me how long it take to get satisfied and how long for a man to get in the lady before he reach the satisfaction point and aslo the lady...i hope you can get my questions,, thanks in advance..

2007-10-13 15:27:37 · 4 answers · asked by nana 1

I've been married for a little over a year, my husband is deployed, and my husband and I have jealousy issues.

I'll start with mine: a few years before I met my husband I had a really bad relationship with a guy, with no trust due to cheating. It took me a long time to be able to think about it and not get upset and/or cry. After him, I dated a few guys casually which helped me deal with my trust issues and realize that not every guy is like him. Now I'm married to a man who makes me feel like I'm the only one he sees and we have a beautiful daughter. I wasn't having any jealousy issues, and then I got pregnant and they came like a hurricane. I thought maybe it was the emotional rollercoaster of the pregnancy that was making me suspicious of my husband all the time, but its continued 2 1/2 months (so far) after our daughter was born. He hasn't done anything that should make me feel like this, so why am I doubting him? Is it possible its the deployment is partly a cause?

2007-10-13 15:19:43 · 6 answers · asked by ME 2

I'm re-posting this cause I didn't really like the way the question was worded the first time.

I love my fiancee with all of my heart, and I know that this is the man that I want to spend the rest of my life with. There is no question in my mind.

That being said...lately I've been feeling a little bit distant, and he has commented on this as well. He asks what's wrong, but other than being tired, I can't really put a finger on anything. He's good to me...amazing. We are best friends, and we have a great sex life. We normally communicate well but for the last few days I just haven't really been interested in sex or even cuddling when we do see each other. I'm feeling overwhelmed by everything going on in my life (work, school, and keeping up our home)

I work third shift while he works first. He also doesn't have a set schedule, so he never knows if he will be working 6 hours or 16. (to be continued...)

2007-10-13 15:08:07 · 9 answers · asked by Been here before 3

2007-10-13 14:59:24 · 17 answers · asked by I Wanna Know 3

My husband had a seven-month affair and I don’t know what to do?
You see he is my best friend and we have been through so much together.
We have been married for 5 years but we have been together for 15. We have been doing IVF for the past seven years and because of complications with treatment I have ended up in intensive care twice in the past 5 years both times I nearly died. My husband has been fantastic always there by my side I never felt I was going through anything on my own; he was always there with me. At the begin of last year I had to have an operation and was very ill when I came home he was brilliant as usual. But by the end of last year he had change completely he was very distant and when I would ask him if their was anything wrong he would say no or he just needed to be selfish for a bit and concentrate on himself. He started going out with work more, his music taste changed he even started to dress differently. By February this year I knew there was defiantly something going on and after a lot of questions and arguments he finally admitted it. Apparently he had felt so needed for so long and when I was well he felt sort of redundant and around the same time a 20-year-old girl had started work in his office. She laugh at his jokes, the ones I have heard and laughed at a thousand times, he felt attractive again, needed and wanted. He said there is no question I am and always will be the love of his life but he did think life might be easier with someone else, because so many thing had go wrong for us. I defiantly feel we should have got counselling while we were going through all the treatment, but he never said how he was feeling and when I did asks it was too late. He has ended the affair and we are trying to put it behind us. I always thought it doesn’t matter if I don’t get a child because I have my soul mate the love of my life but now I feel I have been cheated out of that as well. I know I have rambled on a bit but I wanted you to have some background about us before you gave me advice, it’s so easy for other women to say just leave him, but I do still love him. I just wanted to know if this is a common occurrence with infertile couples because I am heart broken and feel so alone. So if there is anyone out there who has some advice please help me!

2007-10-13 14:55:35 · 22 answers · asked by franceypants 1

My ex and I went out for 3 years and lived together for 1. When we moved in together, we bought a dog. We broke up recently, and she got the dog. She has asked me to pay 1/2 of dog-related expense for one year, which equates to several thousand dollars (we live in NYC). What is my responsiblity here?

2007-10-13 14:44:56 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I love my family, but I'm marry with this man that he hate my family, my family look at him as another member of the family, they talk to him, we have dinner together sometime, but at soon we leave home or they leave from are home he talk very ulgy about my family always have something to say about them and i really don't like that, he being in front of our 8 years old dauther verbal abuse she began to cry and ask me mom WHY ? I am so tired, of this any advise?

2007-10-13 14:43:43 · 11 answers · asked by evy 1

My man is good in bed and he has no problem pleasing me. Its just that I am never in the mood anymore. Why is this? What causes this to happen?

2007-10-13 14:41:21 · 11 answers · asked by Kelley H 1

I know he loves and he is hurting, but he is letting his mind control his heart. He has like 2 different personalities and he even comes right home after work and still eats dinner with me, but says he is to scared to get back together because things could go back to the same. I have been speaking to a counselor and getting help and he just keeps saying is won't work and it is to late for chances. We have only been married 2 years and I just keep telling myself to hold and and things will get better. He said he doesn't want a divorce and he doesn't want to be with anyone else. He just wants to be single and free. How long do I wait though?

2007-10-13 14:39:51 · 17 answers · asked by ? 1

how did your wife steel your heart that made you want to marry her?

2007-10-13 14:32:32 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous