Marriage & Divorce - 13 October 2007

her fiancee begged my mom not to be there and we gave in. his parents appeared and gave her a diamond ring. the fiancee said his folks didn't want us. i don't know why. after the 'ceremony' my sis come home in tears and said she felt like a meat decorated with jewels.
his folks are not superior to us in any way. he is totally dependent on his parents. anyway they got married. everyday she seems distant and confused. she talks only money with us now and disrespects us a lot. suddenly she called and asked for 'her assets' to be given to her. now she's on a trip with them. me and my mother we fear that they are after her inheritence (dad died just before marriage). he keeps totally secret all his financial stuff with his family and wants to know all about ours. she started accusations that me and my mom we are not able to handle our finances.
we fear that she is subtly taken advante of.
the worst thing is to see her like this.
she's always uptight and fights a lot without reason.

2007-10-13 06:37:12 · 11 answers · asked by sarah kay 5

One of my best friends and I were chatting on the phone today. We both are married, have kids, in our 30's, etc...(just to give you a background)
She starts to tell me about her night of sex last night and I joined in the conversation and was talking to her about mine. This is something we always talk about...this is nothing new.
She tells me she asked her husband if he could have sex with anyone of her girlfriends, who would it be. He mentioned her other friend and me and made a comment of what he liked about me and my body. So she was basically hinting at asking me if I would be into sleeping with her and her husband for her husband's fantasy.
I joked with her and said, yeah...maybe if I wasn't married...

Shortly after that the conversation ended.

I got to thinking about what she said and it kinda weirded me out. She is my best friend and I guess she feels comfortable saying anything to me. It's just weird.
I don't know, how should I feel...

2007-10-13 06:34:51 · 7 answers · asked by qtpie 2

there is a older woman i work with...shes very mature and is very smart and straight forward...i asked her to lunch and she said yes...i know she thinks im cute...i asked her to chill outside of work and go to the movies and dinner she told me she will love to but has to find a babysitter and in the end couldnt make it....she been havin my number and she been tellin me she will call but never does...i told her to be serious with me and to tell me if i have a chance to be with her or not...she told me maybe...i asked her for her number and she told me her phone is messed up she showed it to me and it was off...she has 2 kids and has a busy schedule...i told her all i want to is fit atleast 1 hour to hang with her...and all she told me so u willing to come to manhattan for me...i told her for her i would....i know she is kind of interested because we flirt....is she testing me because im 21 and shes 28 and she thinks all i want is a piece of the pie???do i have a chance or not??

2007-10-13 06:24:35 · 8 answers · asked by kid233 1

2007-10-13 06:24:27 · 39 answers · asked by playmate 2

for convience or for love? if it's for convience explain, if it's for love tell me the difference.

2007-10-13 05:27:04 · 25 answers · asked by jeannieboop 4

2007-10-13 05:17:31 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

...a lot of things are soo wrong...?

2007-10-13 05:12:45 · 12 answers · asked by Aquamarine 5

my boyfriend of about a month an a half now lives about 40 minutes away, and wouldnt be such a big deal if we werent so busy. we both go to school full time and have two part time jobs. just this past week i was upset because he and i didnt get to see each other and it seemed like we started to care less if that makes sense....until the other night, even though it wasnt in person we've found ways to be together in a physical way to bring us closer together. how come this is what always works?

2007-10-13 04:44:52 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

My marriage is suffering because my husband married me for personal gain, and not for love. I don't know how to get past that. He tells me that he wants to leave because I won't just forget about the fact that he did not marry me for love. He says that it is my fault for going ahead with the marriage even though I was in my early 20's and he was in his 30's. Can you learn to love some one if you never loved them in the beginning. How do I get past the fact that our marriage was a fraud but for some reasons we have stayed together for children and finacial reasons. Can you get over that?

2007-10-13 04:32:30 · 12 answers · asked by what? 3

The average for single no dependents is 20%, but wife would be considered a dependent. Wouldn't the tax rate for married and only one working be about 15% or so.

2007-10-13 04:13:19 · 5 answers · asked by Diana 5

Many things i have read say emanicpation at 18, some says 18 or graduates. Does not say 18 or graduates which ever comes latter. What is the actual time it can end ?

2007-10-13 03:51:31 · 5 answers · asked by LadyStarAZ 1

lets be honest guys,did u ever cheat with your partner and how many times? and why?

2007-10-13 03:35:43 · 21 answers · asked by queenofheart 2

When I got married three years ago, I thought I had chosen the best possible mate. A few days after wedding, my husband showed a violent, angry side of his personality I had never witnessed. Now everytime we get into an argument, he is ready to throw our marriage out the window. His first wife cheated on him with his best friend and they had a child together. It is obvious to me that he has some deep seated problems that he refuses to acknowledge. I am afraid to talk to him about this because it will send him into a tantrum. Last night we were out and he was going to leave me stranded 45 miles from home because he was mad. I do not feel safe in this relationship. Does anyone think there is a chance we can work things out, or do you see this situation as doomed?

2007-10-13 03:32:20 · 25 answers · asked by Jane 1

2007-10-13 03:26:07 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

When I was younger say 7-15 all I wanted to do was get married have true love and 4 kids. Now the thought of getting married makes me sick I can't even pictuer myself with the same person for the rest of my life. Is this just something everyone gose through.

2007-10-13 03:22:51 · 13 answers · asked by Samantha 3

Situation is this.
Up until last week, everything was fine (I truley believe it was). Until she said "I dont think I can go through with it, im not sure" I was in shock, the wedding was all planned, by her, it was all her idea, she asked me picked the location the ring, who was coming... her parents paid for it all, we were going to Maritus! Only last week SHE was talking baby names and such. Now this.
After this bombshell, she said wanted to clear her head and left for a few days, didnt say when she'd be back, didnt ring or text me to let me know shes ok. I've been a mess throwing up blood (cos theres nothing left in my stomach) and I find out shes been clubbing, getting hair cuts and just doesnt seem to care. I'm so hurt and confused, didnt see this coming. Now she will only talk about our money matters. She is very "matter of fact about it all". She says she was pressured, but everything was on her terms. None of it makes sense. Maybe she never loved me? Hasnt even asked if im ok

2007-10-13 03:09:13 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I never meant to hurt anybody.I simply met someone who matched all of my qualifications & I went for it.I didnt think he had a wife in another country.There was no way for me to know that because we live in the US.

He hid it from me for 2 yrs.When I kept asking him why wasnt the relationship moving forward he would not want to talk about it. He suddenly said he was getting married last summer in Bangladesh & that made it even worse.I felt like a reject & that he picked some Bengali girl over me.

He finally told me he was married the whole time last weekend for the last 6 yrs. & has 2 kids. We split for about 6 mos. but now he has been coming back around & asking me to spend time w/him. We confessed everything to each other last weekend & ended up having sex afterwards. We've been getting along great, but each day I regret it. He acts more open & nicer to me now. I dont know why I have been such a fool for him. But I feel like my self esteem is low even though I am very pretty.

2007-10-13 02:55:53 · 52 answers · asked by cinnamon 2

The new wife contacts me asking information about the upcoming weekend, informs me when they are doing things, plans child pick-ups, etc. In fact, she was the one who told me about the wedding. It's as if she is his manager. She usually ends the email with telling me I should let her know if she is interfering, although I've told her many times it is not her place and that the children's father should be doing the communication. I guess the angry factor comes from him once again taking the back seat and letting someone else do his work and not having any ownership or accountability.

2007-10-13 02:46:22 · 9 answers · asked by manager 1

ive decided to bring my 4 year old daughter up on my own... and not meet another man till she has grown up.. think im scared that we will be treated bad again..... am i doing the right thing?.....

2007-10-13 02:39:34 · 22 answers · asked by kaz 3

women and flirts with other women ?

2007-10-13 02:34:53 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I dated this guy for 6 years ( we never lived together) but things didn't worked out between us. He is a great guy and my 2 sons( 19 and 9) adores him and he does to them too- in other words, they are inseparable. My problem is, I want to move to another state to start a new life but I feel bad for them especially my 9 year old who does not want to come with me. (They're not close to their father) I have asked my ex-husband about taking our son with me and he agreed but not my ex-boyfriend, he'll "die" without my kids. He's never been married and never had any kids and he treated mine as his own, even go to PTA meeting. I really want to move but I'm confused. Should I leave my 9 year old with him until I get settled in the new state or take him with me and never come back, I don't plan on coming back here. I want to leave everything behind so we can move on. Am I being selfish or just doing what I think is best for us? I promise them that they will still keep in touch to each other.

2007-10-13 02:32:42 · 4 answers · asked by ItsMeeh2250 6

2007-10-13 02:24:05 · 21 answers · asked by Jennifer 1

2007-10-13 02:20:04 · 9 answers · asked by EDWARD S 1

2007-10-13 02:00:31 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ex had the nerve to end it even though I found out afterwards that he cheated on me by kissing someone else while we were out in a bar. He sneaked off to do it and said they were just talking. Anyway we were together for a year and a half and am finding it hard to move on. It's only been two weeks. We were going to stay friends but that didn't work out cos we ended up fighting and saying nasty things. I have turned into a stalker, sending lots of texts to him. He changed his number so now I text all his friends and family to try and get his new number. That is so bad I know and I am acting like the kind of person I hate but I just can't seem to let go even though I know it's totally over.
Any advice please!!!!!

2007-10-13 01:56:30 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

Long story short: Im American, I met a guy from Bangladesh that works in a store close to my house. We had instant attraction for each other. After months of flirting we started casually going out. Whenever we seemed to get too close emotionally, he would pull away. I could tell he was hiding something. After 2 yrs. he decided to tell me he was getting married. I was heartbroken for months.

We would argue constantly whenever we talked because I had already fallen in love with him. In recent months he has been flirting with me & wanting to come back around. He came over my place 2 weeks ago & we both told the truth about our lives. Come to find out he has been married for the last 6 yrs. & his wife & children cant come to the US because of VISA issues. We made love that night because we both still have strong feelings towards each other. He's been giving me money & asking me to come around more but I dont want this. I love him soo much, and I dont know how to let go.

Please help!

2007-10-13 01:55:53 · 15 answers · asked by cinnamon 2

you can check my profile for the other questions but heres the basic idea of whats going on.
Husband spending alot of time on line, found out he was talking sexual and all to this other woman (after he told me that he didn't know her) I find out she is the district manager of the resturant that he manages, so he sees her atlest once a week.

After alot of thinking and wondering how to approach this since when ever I mention that I"m feeling insecure and all he gets defensive and hateful:(

Letter in details, please give me honest opinions on this. We have a nine year old together have only been married about 3 months and I'm pregnant (which has alot to do with my insecurities) with our second child.

2007-10-13 01:02:41 · 11 answers · asked by his wife 4

She told me I had to give up beer. Said we couldn't afford it. A few days later, I caught her spending 65 bucks on make-up. When challenged, she said it was a vital expenditure in order to make herself pretty and attactive - just for me. I explained to her "that's what the beer was for".

I don't think she's coming back.

2007-10-13 00:48:46 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

In this kind of society we have , we are sorrounded with all kinds of temptations; money, pleasures, riches of the world, beutiful ladies, and handsome guys, rich and famous.

2007-10-13 00:30:48 · 10 answers · asked by EDRO 2

Married although its heading to a drainage, I met my old girlfreind at the store. I dearly love her very very much but she damped me after we discussed getting married, to another dude because I refused to give her oral sex. I will never do it under this blue sky. I disbelieved my eye as I turned to see who was holding my shoulders. She became emotional, shading tears and repeately apologizing they way she treated me. She went on and on and... I was her right man...divorced twice with a 7yrs daughter... and she would do anything to get me back even if I am married. I asked her why? and why now? She said I was straight forward person who understand what marriage was? Surprisingly she knows and she is a great freind to my wife as they attend the same church. i tried to brush her off as I asked where she worked and promised to pay a visit but without knowing she followed behind to my place and wanted to talk with me. I dodged her that I was late? Oh lord, why is he comming to me now?

2007-10-13 00:06:24 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous