Marriage & Divorce - 13 October 2007

I have been married to my Husband for 6 years and we have been together for 10 years. We have a son that is 8yrs. old and a daughter that is 11yr. old. I'm 30 and he is 38. My Husband does not want to have sex at all any more. I tell him that this is a problem and what can I do to help him. This has just really started in the last 3 months. He says that he needs some blood work done but will not go get it done. It has been 3 weeks and I can not take it any longer... I think that it has something to do with him taking Percocet pain pills for six years now. I'm not saying that he does not hurt and need them I have been observing him taking them every time that he walks by the bottle. He does not see a problem with them and even states that some days he does not even take them at all. I'm not sure. What can I do to solve this problem? We love each other a lot. But this is DRIVING me CRAZY all I want is once a week? Am I asking to much.. HELP!!!!!!

2007-10-13 19:37:09 · 21 answers · asked by Martha S 1

To all who responded to my questions...were offended by them...agreed with them...or even just read the questions...no hard feelings...I totally felt what you guys said in your replies...much love, and thanks for giving me your perspective...it has indeed opened my mind...blessings to you all...you happened upon my questions tonight for a reason and i thank you for your time to consider and respond:)

2007-10-13 19:35:41 · 9 answers · asked by Klewless 2

2007-10-13 19:32:03 · 11 answers · asked by Sciara L 1

It's that saying - you can tell from his kiss. I never really believed it because it sounded too cliches and kisses are usually for fun...but this time it was different...

i'm a very blunt, straightforward, honest, and decisive person...when kiss someone, i'll usually know if it's good or not...sometimes, it's good at first but the feeling dies..meaning they were never real or it's just really bad and you know off the bad

it's been 9 months since we've kissed, and i still can't stop thinking about...i've never been kissed like that before...it's not just a kiss...it should me the meaning of really being intimate with someone you care and love...it's like more than sex...it felt like it was the very first kiss i've had...it's not just kissing someone for the sake of doing it and "kissing"...it's to express how you feel for the other person in a more beautiful way

what do you think? what kind of kiss was this?

2007-10-13 19:30:54 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

Thease girls at school keep comming up to my boyfriend and flirting with him at school, and at skateland! They go your still going out with that b*tch and he says ya i am got a problem? what should i do? how do i get rid of them? HELP PLEASE!

2007-10-13 19:23:06 · 10 answers · asked by zumiezgirl808 1

I know it is a form of manipulation... but I'm afraid of feeling guilty if he chooses to do so. I know ultimately I have no control over the situation but, I still can't help feeling guilty for making the decision to leave a unhealthy relationship.

2007-10-13 19:22:10 · 27 answers · asked by Destiny 5

Pretty much every Women & Men have a Sex Fantasy do you share it or keep it to yourself?

2007-10-13 19:21:32 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok. now i know why she always asks to turn of the lights before we get down to business. But, yesterday i walked in on her changing and i feel so stupid. What should I do. She denies it and calls me crazy. Am I crazy?

2007-10-13 19:18:34 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a friend...she just recently started dating a guy who lives more than 1,000 miles away. About a month ago they agreed to get married when he comes to visit (which is only a month from 10/14/07). He's in the army and if they get married he get's money every month.
But here's the catcher...he moves back to his home that's thousands of miles away...without her.
I don't want to see her do this!!! I know that it may not work out like she wants it to and sometimes I think she's just doing it because she gets money from this! What do I do? What should I tell her? She is moving too fast for someone she only talks to via text or phone!

2007-10-13 19:18:28 · 9 answers · asked by Na 1

Would you be fine with a robot that did everything you asked or would that just be boring after a while?

2007-10-13 19:16:21 · 10 answers · asked by delina_m 6

I had a 3 some when I 1st got married I did not think my marriage would last more then a week or 2 and a friend of mine and I got drunk with her husband and well I think you can guess the rest!

the 3 of us was wrong and told one another it would never happen again if we wanted to stay friends, However I found out 3 months ago my Mother in Law saw the 3 of us the next morning! 3 months ago she got really angry with me and informed my husband what she saw those 14 years ago.

The couple I had the 3 some with was one of our closest friend that point in time my husband in a fit of anger exposed what he found out to their 2 kids and beat the hell out of him!
as you can guess know longer friends of our and have moved scenes then to parts unknown! My husband had me served with divorce papers and moved me out of our home now he's got HARD PROOF of the 3 some!

He told me after I got served he was going to get some
p%$$y, has been humiliating me ever sense!

2007-10-13 19:12:08 · 27 answers · asked by The Lady 1

after i loved her and gave her all what she wanted from me she tric me and forgot everything between us.

2007-10-13 19:08:56 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am so embarrased to even be writing about this. I want a divorce, I have been emotionally abused for the past two years since my husband has returned from Iraq... and I just can't take it anymore--he choked me tonight when he said "I went beserk" (and I did because of the name calling, put downs an degradation).

I am embarrased because we have been married for 8 years, and have two kids...and I can almost picture people saying "i told you so" because we were married so young.

I don't know what to do. I still have a year and a half of school left and my kids just moved . I really have no real job and want to continue school--I have saved enough to do so. I feel guilty for moving my son out of yet another school...but it has got to better than seeing his mom called worthless, and nothing everyday. I don't know how things got this way, or how to get out.

The emotional abuse has left me feeling paralyzed, like I couldn't take care of myself without him... Where do I begin?

2007-10-13 19:03:45 · 18 answers · asked by t w 2

We moved from one place to where we live now he stayed behind to close on the house and tie up loose ends the house thing was done in two weeks; first part of Jan, he didn't move here until march. He only came he on weekends and he told me when I wanted to go see him that under no circumstances was I to come see him (3 hours away). Since he has moved here we haven't slept in the same bed. I went on vacation w/my kids(OURS) I told him I had enough. He was remorseful then. After I came back home (6week later) still no intimacy. Then I had a horrible thing happen to me (my intestines burst in my abdomen) and he still treats me as a room mate. He says he still loves me but I think he is not in LOVE with me. I want to stayed married but not sure what to do. My religion does not allow divorce. So I guess I am stuck. Any Opinons?

2007-10-13 19:03:25 · 20 answers · asked by left_sock_ missing 3

Isn't sex just for reproduction or satisfying the lust of a person? Is lust related to love then?

2007-10-13 19:02:26 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have tried telling him I was really sore and it hurt really bad when he did this to me anyway but I don't think he understands. What should I do? :(

2007-10-13 18:59:15 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

My parents are possibly getting a divorce, i'm not happy bout it, but im not happy with my dad so i don't really want him back in the house now, but i don't want them to seperate. What should I do?? Please help me!!

2007-10-13 18:58:36 · 5 answers · asked by a person whos cool like that 3

i am 14 and i have already been kissed, but i want to know if that was the last one i should have before i get married... and if it was wrong of me to have not saved it till marriage? HELP

2007-10-13 18:53:17 · 49 answers · asked by Angel in the Dark 2

How can I catch my husband cheating? I think he's cheating with someone at work. Should I go up there? Follow him? Let me know what you think plz.

2007-10-13 18:52:14 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

they feel they have to stay married for better or for worse...wait, life is way too short for that....letting some guy abuse you, breathe alcohol all over you, and just verbally cause you pain...you feel if you are Catholic...you should stay...that is a warp way of thinking....wasn't that back in the 1960's????...The old he beats the s--t out of me; but i love him!!!..oh yea!!!

2007-10-13 18:48:32 · 12 answers · asked by sweet 4

is it wrong to ask my boyfriend to let me keep control of the bank accounts so i can make sure we don't overdraw the account? I don't want to check up on him or anything I just think it will be hard to keep track with two different debit cards plus I will be paying all the bills since he is away from home for 6-8 weeks at a time b/c of his job. We are fixing to move in together and I have never had to share a bank account with anyone. Probably all the money in the account would be his. I am 21 and he is 24. I am a full time student. We are planning on getting married in March

2007-10-13 18:43:58 · 19 answers · asked by T 3

Apart from cooking lunch, I will be lazy for a change.

2007-10-13 18:37:37 · 17 answers · asked by AnnieG 4

Do you think deppression should be treated with drugs? Im always seeing these commercials were people are like oh im deppressed better get some drugs quick. Ive heard people say things like "oh my husband of 14 years left me and for some reason i just feel deppressed.... what drugs should i be taking?" Why is it so common now to take drugs when your feeling a little down? Do doctors get paid for subscribing it to you?

2007-10-13 18:37:25 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 31, I have a small child. I am divorced. I am in a plateau in my life, how do I make a change for the good. Make life wonderful to live again?

2007-10-13 18:33:02 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am very tired of women advertising on my internet for themselves to get laid from me and others,I am a happily married man of 58 and I have young children who share my computer with me and they are getting tired of seeing thease adds on my internet system?

2007-10-13 17:52:41 · 2 answers · asked by panner01handler 1

If you were out with your man, and he went out of his way to be polite and charming to other women, but ignored you?
I went to have a drink with my guy last night, and he started a conversation with the woman sitting next to us....I stood up and said "Excuse me....which one of us are you here with???!?!? Am I invisible or something???", and I stormed out. Did I blow this out of proportion, or was I right to feel slighted? I was out with him, his attention should have been focused on ME only.

2007-10-13 17:49:41 · 13 answers · asked by Ms. GTO 7

I've been reading some of your questions in the marriage and divorce section and I keep asking myself why do people get married if their going to lie, cheat and fall out of love with their mate. I've had two failed marriages and now I'm engaged for a third time. I want to settle down with the right person but I've always picked men that weren't right for me. How do I tell if this one is the right one or if he's the one I should marry? Everything always start off good in the beginning but once you get married things change. How can you keep a marriage the same or fresh so things won't change? Any sucess storieds out there?

2007-10-13 17:48:35 · 22 answers · asked by concernone 3

so hard hearted & disrespectful ???
he used to be very nice & considerate
i have done nothing
he refuses to answer

2007-10-13 17:47:37 · 7 answers · asked by Amanda H 5

I married my husband 7 months ago. We dated for a year before we married. He has a five year old daughter from a previous relationship. When we first started dating his daughter and I clicked right away. When we would bring her back to her mom's house on Sunday, she would run back in the car with me. She had to literally be pulled away from me to go back with her mom. However, a few months ago she looked me straight in the face and said "You're not my family." I've had mixed emotions since then. She is very distant now. She's gone from having to be pulled out of my arms to go back with her mom to not even telling me bye when we bring her back. Why? I also found that lately she has a tendency to want to constantly get between me and her father (if we're sitting on the couch together for example). I've started to just walk out of the room and let them be alone. What am I doing wrong? My husband things her mom is putting things in her head. I'm prepared for all answers/possibilities.

2007-10-13 17:38:12 · 18 answers · asked by GreenEyes 1

I have been married for two years and I really love my husband but he is making me sick and I want to have a baby I'm not sure if I should considerning when I look at him I want to smack him in his face. We met in college and he was my dream man he was a star football player and great friend. Well now that we are older and married he has gained almost 100 pounds {It happened so slowly i really didn't notice till one day i just looked around and was like what the hell , who are you} Every time i metion it he gets upset and tells me he will go to the gym on his own time and he recently has been having bad back problems the doctor told him it was because of his weight and he still won't do anthing about it. This man drinks a 2 liter of soda and bottle of juice a day. I told him if he love me and wanted to be there for us and our future family he would take care of his self and he says he does love me but he is just not ready I think that is a bunch of crap he is affecting other people beside himself by having all this weight. I feel like he is just being lazy and sloppy he will sit in front of the TV four hours he could take an hour and go the gym. I even paid for one and he never used it. He was a football player i don't understand it and i'm finding it hard to be patient and supportive. He was a sexy in shape big guy about 300 but toned and sexy and now he is 400 pounds and his stomach pushes right through his shirts. Also his teeth are starting to get some stuff on the bottom and I asked him to go the dentist and once again he says I will but in my own time this has been a year i have been saying this and I am so frustrated I'm tired of argueing about his appearance and I don't know what to do . I really want to have a baby but is it smart because he is getting on my nerve can anyone help. I still love him and we are great friends but I can't take this i am in very good shape and try my best to eat right should i just leave him because i feel now he is just being disrespectful

2007-10-13 17:31:53 · 23 answers · asked by jj 1