How can I catch my husband cheating? I think he's cheating with someone at work. Should I go up there? Follow him? Let me know what you think plz.
2007-10-13 18:52:14 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I need help! I don't know what to do. Everything has changed over the past two months.
2007-10-13 19:31:35 · update #1
Don't get yourself involved. If he thinks you do not trust him and he's doing nothing wrong things will go down hill. Get a Private investigator if you are really worried. Or better yet ask you husband about it. Let him know that you love him and you are willing to work through it but you need to know for your own health and safety. And don't ask while you are fighting or arguing. Wait until you are both ready and willing to talk.
2007-10-13 18:58:01 · answer #1 · answered by anyhoo085 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can go to Cheaters.com
You can also just leave him because you dont trust/love him like you used to and stop looking for reasons.
You can choose to drop the subject and just live in the here and now and stop worrying what he is up to. There is more to life than chasing after your husband. You can utilize the time you have alone to either prepare yourself for the break up or go and grow in your own ways. Dont retaliate and cheat back. Most women lose when they play this game.
Good Luck with whatever you decide sweety.-Rachel.
2007-10-14 02:11:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you start looking for things you don't want to find, you usually find it! So be prepared. Usually a womans intuition is never wrong. If you think he's cheating then gather your evidence but be willing to do something about it afterwards. If you're not going to leave him then why put yourself through the drama and the heartache. If you are then watch fro signs, check his phone and text messages, check his computer, follow him if you can. Men always slip up and make mistakes and thats why they always get caught. Its up to you to open your eyes and see the signs written on the wall.
2007-10-14 01:58:59 · answer #3 · answered by concernone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reading the thread here, all of them are right. My husband cheated on me. And the other woman is his teammate at the call center he worked for. I found out about it thru his cellphone logs. When he locked his cellphone, I knew my instinct was right. I investigated further, and found out that he made a different email account. I later knew his password. When he is sleeping, I would check his pants for receipts. I even found love notes in his wallet!I I also went to his workplace to inform his colleagues that we are still very much married. also talked to the other woman (in a calm and civil manner). BUT, you have to be ready for whatever you find out. It really hurts knowing that your husband is out somewhere with another girl. But if I didn't find out that early, it could have been more serious. My husband's affair lasted four months. He got out from his job with that center. He has since then, asked for my forgiveness and is trying to prove himself as a good husband to me and a better father to our kids. I have never forgotten all of the details of that four months. But I am slowly but surely healing.
2007-10-14 02:09:19 · answer #4 · answered by Charmed_Prue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*My advise is be very careful before you start going down this avenue; It is a one way street and once you travel on it there is no return.In order to test the wisdom of your ultimate decision ask yourself the following:
1.What gave you the impression that he is cheating?
2.Are you acting on clandestine information delivered to you?
3.Can you trust the integrity and intentions of your informer?
4.Is it possible that your source may have a bone to pick with your spouse?
5.Whatever spying action you decide to do cannot thereafter be kept privy to you only.He will come to know about your actions and the resulting damage may not be what you farthom.
*The best approach would be to confront him tactfully, almost playfully and whatever response you get may form the basis of your next line of action.
Above all, exercise care.Don't blow away your marriage on the basis of a whim.
2007-10-14 02:22:49 · answer #5 · answered by Truth Source 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy - us men are stupid. check his cell phone records, when you come home from shopping hit the "recall" button on the phone, put a recorder under his seat in the car, did he buy new underwear, check credit card receipts. If your instincts tell you he is - then he probably is. periods of time when he can not be reached? Or the best is just ask him.
2007-10-14 01:57:45 · answer #6 · answered by sweetpicker 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a close, close friend that he is not familiar with? If you do that person could check up on him. If not borrow someones car and go there and sit outside and see what goes on. There are many ways to see without confronting him.
faith
2007-10-14 01:55:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he is having an affair when he could never expect it. He will be so surprised that he will tell you the truth. This works.
2007-10-14 02:05:19 · answer #8 · answered by Llani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hire a private investigator.
2007-10-14 02:01:37 · answer #9 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
www.cheaters.com. The fees are waived if your case qualifies for inclusion in an episode of Cheaters.
2007-10-14 02:14:28 · answer #10 · answered by MHnurseC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋