i am 14 and i have already been kissed, but i want to know if that was the last one i should have before i get married... and if it was wrong of me to have not saved it till marriage? HELP
2007-10-13 18:53:17 · 49 answers · asked by Angel in the Dark 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Try not to care so much what others think. A kiss is a kiss....and something only you should decide on.
2007-10-13 18:57:32 · answer #1 · answered by Dolphin 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hmm.. well you're still young, so you don't really need to be kissing right now anyways if you don't want too. But for future reference, I think waiting until you're married to kiss someone is kinda ridiculous. What if you find out there is no sparks after all? I had that experience once. Of course I was not planning to marry this guy, I did not know him well. But I thought he was pretty cute and I liked him so far, but when we kissed, it totally turned me off. No sparks, no sensation, nada. I may as well have kissed my brother. So after that I totally had no interest in that guy other than friendship. So yes, I think it's a very good idea to kiss people long before you marry them.
2007-10-13 19:01:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not wrong to have your first kiss before marriage, but doing something other than that is different. As long as you don't do something else other than that, its okay, but if you feel that you should wait until your married before you kiss someone again, then theres nothing wrong with that either. Because sometimes kissing leads to other things.
2007-10-13 19:01:37 · answer #3 · answered by angel120991 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow what your heart says. There is nothing wrong in saving your first kiss till marriage. But it isn't wrong as well for you to kiss somebody right now.
2007-10-13 18:58:53 · answer #4 · answered by Charmed_Prue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I saved my first kiss for the guy i knew i wanted to marry. We got married less than a year later. We just had our 8th anniversary. Some people gave us a hard time for being each others' first kiss, but I tell ya, it's great. You don't have to save your first kiss for marriage, but don't give your kisses away like candy. They're worth too much for that-- at least they will be if you treat them like they are. Kisses can be wonderful if you give them to someone you've committed to, and who is committed to YOU!
Good luck! and be smart! :)
2007-10-13 19:01:44 · answer #5 · answered by wbk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not wrong. The only thing that is wrong is to have sex before marriage if you intend to marry someone. However if you never intend to get married than why deprive yourself of sex if your interested in that? If you change your intentions later so what. Just explain to your mate!
Never keep secrets from your mate! Secrets tend to come out at the wrong times and can cause hurt! I Know that is the message behind those Passion tv programs that I'm no longer able to see!
2007-10-13 19:00:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
right or wrong by whose standards? why are you so dependent on the approval of complete strangers. How could a kiss with someone you care for enough to marry them be wrong. But at 14 you really cannot know who you want to kiss and who you don't it is just experimentation at that age.
a short and sweet kiss might be worth it, but please, wait until you are older before you really kiss someone.
2007-10-13 18:58:04 · answer #7 · answered by Jean B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
huh. No honey, not in this day and age. Just only kiss boys you have true feelings for, and never anything more. EVER. All the other stuff can wait until your sure in your heart it's what you want. Never be pressured into doing anything. Not even a kiss. This is your body, your lips and u must insure that it is respected. This same thing goes for boys too, in my opinion.
Good luck Sweetie.
2007-10-13 18:57:41 · answer #8 · answered by verywisefor28 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to decide that for yourself. Generally speaking, I believe that intercourse and all of the peripheral stuff that goes with it, like oral sex, should be reserved for marriage.
I do know a couple of gals who saved their first kiss for their wedding day, and that was the right thing to do for them. Personally, I feel that holding hands and kissing--not petting-- (that means messing around with breasts and genitals) are a natural part of getting to know someone.
As long as you keep the emphasis on getting to know the person you are dating instead of the physical aspect, you should be OK
2007-10-13 19:03:16 · answer #9 · answered by freedomnow1950 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a kiss can tell you if you share any chemistry with a person, if you feel nothing, it could go nowhere. How would you feel if the man you kissed on your wedding day gave you no feeling of bliss whatsoever? Chemistry is a big deal. Hold off on sex for sure, but kissing is not something I would save for my wedding day.
2007-10-13 18:56:48 · answer #10 · answered by SuperGurl78 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No it is not wrong to kiss before marriage... That is part of finding the person you really love.. Try not to go "all the way tho".. Trust your judgement and don't let anyone bully you into anything !!
2007-10-13 18:57:49 · answer #11 · answered by Marge f 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋