I have been married to my Husband for 6 years and we have been together for 10 years. We have a son that is 8yrs. old and a daughter that is 11yr. old. I'm 30 and he is 38. My Husband does not want to have sex at all any more. I tell him that this is a problem and what can I do to help him. This has just really started in the last 3 months. He says that he needs some blood work done but will not go get it done. It has been 3 weeks and I can not take it any longer... I think that it has something to do with him taking Percocet pain pills for six years now. I'm not saying that he does not hurt and need them I have been observing him taking them every time that he walks by the bottle. He does not see a problem with them and even states that some days he does not even take them at all. I'm not sure. What can I do to solve this problem? We love each other a lot. But this is DRIVING me CRAZY all I want is once a week? Am I asking to much.. HELP!!!!!!
2007-10-13 19:37:09 · 21 answers · asked by Martha S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I do not think that there is anyone elas. He is a stay at home dad. He does not go anywhere and less we go together.
2007-10-13 20:21:33 · update #1
No, your not asking too much! It could be the pain pills but my ? is why does he think he needs labs done? For hormone levels or something else? Has he ever had a problem like this before? I guess it would help if we had a little more info. However, you need to express your concern but also let him know you will stick beside him if this is something medical...prostate, hormonal etc.... Did you ever consider that he may be cheating? You know your hubby and that may be way off but don't be closed minded. It's just a option I thought I would throw out there! Good luck!
2007-10-13 19:45:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call a doctor and ask them if the pain medication he is taking could cause a low sex drive and erectile dysfunction. Maybe even ask alternative pain killers that would lessen this effect. A man's brain is wired to spread his seed, so most men of course are aroused for a minute at some point daily. I think either:
A. It really is the pain killers
B. He has a lot of stress that kills his sex drive
C. Or he is taking care of himself due to issues he is having
http://www.askthecouch.com has a really good sex and love relationship forum, I suggest going there and asking. It's a great board!!!!
2007-10-13 19:42:13 · answer #2 · answered by Konjo Nashi Pirate™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose that the pills could have something to do with it but I'm sure it isn't the only reason.... how is your relationship??? I can tell you from experience that some men don't want sex from a woman if he is either upset with her or frustrated with them.... my ex use to argue with me and nag at me and the last thing I wanted was to be affectionate with her because of this.... If you want him to go and get test run then give him the silent treatment and ignore him until he does it.... I'm sure that would tell you plenty
2007-10-13 19:46:33 · answer #3 · answered by DavidV 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! I just posted a very similar question it is very frustrating I think all of us sexless couples should start a punching bag club! But with all my regards I think it has allot to do with him overdoing it with the medication you guys need to get some help for that first.Take care of that addiction problem and then redo yous sex life I'm sure you guys have allot of catching up to do good luck my friend!!
2007-10-13 19:48:48 · answer #4 · answered by carinna h 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
how can you be with him for 10 years, and have a daughter that's 11?
could be age, could be cheating, could be meds. if he isn't willing to go get the blood work done, then oh well. tell him you aren't happy.
i think that you guys had kids WAY too early, and are just in a state of blahness.
2007-10-13 19:50:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like prostrate or a bad back have had both and not easy to have sex.
I strongly suggest that your husband go and see his doctor just in-case those tablets have effected his sexual arousal.
Also is he suffering from stomach ulcers if so it is related to those tablets.
I had the same problem with defamatory tablets and not allowed to take them anymore.
Get him to read this as I am 60 years and ex-veteran
2007-10-13 19:50:23 · answer #6 · answered by Drop short and duck 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, and no. you shouldnt expect it or demand it either. mayeb by you bugginh him all the time it drives him to not want to . i did this to my husband of 6 years and now after we have had our duaghter i am less interested but get much more often than before. all your doing is creating stress for him which creates less sex drive. Leave him alone forawhile and yes, if he needs them that often, and more often then not he needs help.but back off a little. How would yo feel if he did the same to you????
2007-10-13 19:43:18 · answer #7 · answered by loppinaroundrabbitry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sick and tired of people making excuse after lame excuse about why they're slacking off being intimate, especially men. Unless you just absoluelty can't move, get off your lazy victim crying a$$ and do what you promised. No more I'm tired. No more I don't feel like it. If you don't feel like it, get divorce and let them go look for someone who does. Its calle mind over matter. I work A LOT and Im always tired, but i use a little thing called willpower. If you actully cared a wit abotu anything but being a victim, we wouldnt egt questions like this. Im not saying phyically hurt yourself, but please stop the lamer "I don't feel like it" sob stories. Tell this guy his man card is up for review.
2007-10-13 20:17:37 · answer #8 · answered by kttphoenix 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I belive you have been married for too long, and you can open up to this issue, maybe there is a communication problem, have you considered that? i think you should make it very very clear how this is affecting you and your relationship. try and get involved with this problem more, offer to go to the doctor with, seek advice from experts e.t.c ..good luck, it shall pass
2007-10-13 19:45:01 · answer #9 · answered by Shiden 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
pain pills dont cause this type of problem are you suse your man stays at home a lot by his self is there a neighbor near if she is a female you might want to think stranger things have happened and right in your own home just might be where it.s going on fact. my opion?
2007-10-13 20:38:08 · answer #10 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋