Help! My husband forces me to have relations with him when I am sore and I have begged him to be patient.?

Question

I have tried telling him I was really sore and it hurt really bad when he did this to me anyway but I don't think he understands. What should I do? :(

Answer 1

seek counseling- he needs to learn to listen and respect you!!!! it is still rape and if there is any other abuse you need to get out of the relationship, but if he is a decent guy otherwise you may be able to get him some help. good luck

Answer 2

He forced you?To do somehing you dont wanna do?And even though you told him that you are sore he still forced you?U2 are husband and wife and wasnt there suposed to be an understanding between you too at all times?To me he violated the rule of comprehension that you are not feeling good and I dot know if you or he knows but NOBODY can forced to do anything against its will and in this case he was very unfortunate and I would consider calling the Police bcuz it seems that he is out of control.......Tacke care of yourself bcuz obviously hes not thinking about the two of you only himself...

Answer 3

Oh I am so sorry for you ((hunny)). You need to talk to someone. Although, I did something like this when I was in an abusive relationship and I got told how horrible I was for talking about my problems and then people made me feel like s**t for talking about it. Funny, I never saw me telling people my problem as a crimminal act. But I was made to feel like I was a criminal meanwhile the real crimes go unpunnished. I hope you get help.

Answer 4

No means no, and he needs to respect that. Just cuz you're married doesn't mean your his little sex machine. He needs to respect you. Tell him seriously no and if he forces you than that IS rape, becuase you're still an individual and you have your choices, tho honestly the charges probably wouldn't hold up because you're married... but you should divorce the @sshole.

Answer 5

Warn him you'll call the police if he keeps this up. Like many people already said. Rape is rape even if it's during marriage.

He may be a good man when it comes to other stuff. but he has to be considerate of your feelings... If he isn't he isn't worth being with.

Answer 6

If you are saying no and he is forcing sex, then he is raping you. Be clear that you are saying no, then call the cops if you need to. You might want to consider counseling or a lawyer before he starts beating you unconscious.

Answer 7

I have been through this. It is hard to get the charges to stick but you do need to go talk to someone. They have women you can talk to - the police station should have the information I think you can look it up too. Victims of crime? Once you speak to them they will help you. May God bless you.

Answer 8

Go to victims services.. and they will help you file an compliant. It called "Spousal Rape" He can also be charged with assault, battery, kidnapping.

P.S. You husband understands you begging, and telling him your hurting.
Good luck

Answer 9

it's rape, and even if it wasn't, that's still a bad quality of an;y relationship when someone doesn't listen.

if it happens often, or continues to, i'm sorry, but you have to think about divorce. this abuse could go further until he controls your life. divorce and charge for rape

i'm 13 though...so listen to older, more experienced people before me

Answer 10

I think you need to go to a Gynecologist and get the doctor to explain to your husband that you need to be away, then go and get healed up even if your gyno has to admit you to the hospital!!! This issue needs to be clarified so that you can go on with a happy marriage. Good Luck hun.-Rachel.