2007-10-13 02:24:05 · 21 answers · asked by Jennifer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Think about it this way.An affair can end up in one of two ways.You get a divorce,or you break up with the one you are having an affair with.Both are very painful.Affairs usually provide more hardship than happiness and the wrong people usually suffer.Mainly the children.
2007-10-13 02:35:16 · answer #1 · answered by Julius C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in the term "never" because it is so absolute.
I think that the majority of affairs don't turn out well, but that some have been good things for various other reasons.
Most of the time they turn sour because the man/woman just want fun but they were never willing to give up their family in the first place.
Other time, when people are unhappy in their marriage they seek outside relationships, but that's just a side thing away from the main problem in their marriage.
In rare cases the people having the affair cuts their ties with their spouse, either because they didn't connect with their spouse/had major problems.. and decided to move on.
It really depends what kind of affair it falls into.
2007-10-13 03:21:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had an affair whilst i was in a seven year marriage,I ended up getting a divorce,and marrying the the person i had an affair with ,we have now been together for 32 years married 28 of those , but am i any happier ,right at this moment i don,t really know
2007-10-13 16:53:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is true that the majority of us out there will cheat at one point or another.We all have our reasons. Most of us weren't born with a golden halo over our heads or spotless minds. Meaning,that sometimes life changes and so does our hearts path. Marriage is a man made institution and should only be entered into by the most stout believers. It is NOT for everyone. But unfortuneatly many people do it for the wrong reasons,and end up so resentful and bitter years later. I am not an advocate of cheating,but I understand why it happens in some cases. Not all of us are selfish and self centered people. My guy is leaving his wife of 12+ years.He realizes that his true happiness doesn't reside in that place any longer. Kudos to him for making that necessary change in his life! It can happen. It can be positive.Live your life!
2007-10-13 11:07:37 · answer #4 · answered by Peacesutra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married the man I had an affair with and was miserable for 9 of the 10 years because I felt I had to stay. You would be starting on the wrong note and the tune just gets worse.
2007-10-13 04:14:46 · answer #5 · answered by manager 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, because if someone is unhappy in a marriage, it is better to figure out why and solve that problem if possible or get a divorce rather than move into another relationship without understanding why the first one didn't work or it will lead to a second or perhaps even third affair.
2007-10-13 02:37:12 · answer #6 · answered by Al B 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2007-10-13 05:31:22 · answer #7 · answered by Gabby L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not for real, emotions run deep, and feeling are involved, and people get hurt. And believe me hurting people will hurt people. A triangle affair is not good for any involved, because one will love another more than the other, and that can be explosive.
2007-10-13 02:43:43 · answer #8 · answered by Janice W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
an extramarital affair (to me) means that something is missing in the relationship that you have now...or you wouldnt be looking for something else..everyone is strong enough to deny temptation but there is something (like i said) missing that they go for it..i guess that you could be happy....for a while
but what happens when you get bored of that relationship also? you look for something else again...so basically it is rebound after rebound...find yourself and it that you will find what you are truly looking for
good luck
2007-10-13 02:50:18 · answer #9 · answered by Mindy S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With millions of singles out there why would anyone have an affair with someone who is married?
2007-10-13 02:38:23 · answer #10 · answered by charlesdclimer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋