...a lot of things are soo wrong...?
2007-10-13 05:12:45 · 12 answers · asked by Aquamarine 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don’t make the mistake of thinking that marriage will make all the problems go away.
I made that mistake with my 3rd marriage. I was so desperately in love but I found myself just being used for my money and as a chance for her to obtain a passport.
For me there never was a marriage – it was not even consummated . The problems are there in your relationship for a reason , you need to examine the whys and wherefores of the problems more closely . Somebody is lying about their motives / feelings .
2007-10-13 05:27:59 · answer #1 · answered by londonpeter2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It looks like you have some pretty serious reservations about making a commitment to this person.
The only thing that makes a relationship work (both in and out of marriage) is communication. If "a lot of things are soo wrong" and you two are not communicating effectively with one another to correct those wrongs, then being married is not suddenly going to fix them.
Keep in mind, marriage is more difficult than dating.
2007-10-13 05:20:01 · answer #2 · answered by krinkn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A relationship where most things are wrong while you are dating is not starting off on the right foot. Marriage is a balancing act of compromise and putting your own needs behind that of their partner. It can become extreemly frustrating and difficult especially when children, money and jobs fall into the mix.
Don't think that the legal paper and the promise will fix things. if the right ingredients aren't there already .
2007-10-13 05:22:08 · answer #3 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, marriage will NOT make the wrong things go away. Get everything straightened out BEFORE you tie the knot, and if you both can get all your ducks in a row THEN get married, if you want a successful marriage. go to premarital counseling if things are sooo wrong.
2007-10-13 05:17:29 · answer #4 · answered by mamalamaa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage amplifies every feeling you have. Love gets lovlier, dreams get dreamier and the sucky things get suckier. You need to decide if you can live with the bad FOREVER! If not, don't get married...the right one will come along. Wait for him.
2007-10-13 05:23:23 · answer #5 · answered by Kim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, don't get married when the relationship is already rocky. marriage comes with a lot of stress, dealing with a relationship now is a lot cheaper.
2007-10-13 06:18:59 · answer #6 · answered by paula t. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU.........hear me YOU have to feel right about this person and the relationship. Don't go getting yourself married when you know things aren't good.........your just fooling yourself and your fooling him. Worse, neither of you will be happy.
I think you should really think about the relationship and actually I'd take a break from it.........
2007-10-13 05:54:10 · answer #7 · answered by MLJ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's suppose to be when alot of things are so right!!!!
Don't get married just for the sake of having a husband. Get the right one for you.
2007-10-13 05:17:26 · answer #8 · answered by LAL 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No it's not. That's just too big of a decision to make under those conditions.
2007-10-13 07:35:03 · answer #9 · answered by Smarty Pants™ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If there are more minuses than plusses then i can't see it being worth it. Somethings always gonna tick you off!
2007-10-13 05:23:04 · answer #10 · answered by †100% Angel† 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋