you can check my profile for the other questions but heres the basic idea of whats going on.
Husband spending alot of time on line, found out he was talking sexual and all to this other woman (after he told me that he didn't know her) I find out she is the district manager of the resturant that he manages, so he sees her atlest once a week.
After alot of thinking and wondering how to approach this since when ever I mention that I"m feeling insecure and all he gets defensive and hateful:(
Letter in details, please give me honest opinions on this. We have a nine year old together have only been married about 3 months and I'm pregnant (which has alot to do with my insecurities) with our second child.
2007-10-13 01:02:41 · 11 answers · asked by his wife 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
K I don't know how to respond to this or just to let it go. So of course I had to look for that profile and I would have just let it go, but I reconize the pic in it from the one I asked you about the other night. You said you didn't know the person that it was just some bot or something.But in the thing to her you say she is your boss. So I hope you can understand why I'm upset.
I'm going out on a limb and assuming that this whore (sorry don't expect me to show her any respect). 31 and still partying, sorry but that is pretty lame and talking sexual with a married man that is expecting a baby. She is nothing but a whore in my eyes.
I know you probably didn't see anything wrong with it. But not just does it bother me, it was pretty stupid of you to do. She could be one of the bitches that will turn it all around on you and holler sexual harrassment, now she has on line proff that you didn't keep it professional and yes baby this could be sexual harrassment. Saying that, your job
2007-10-13 01:05:07 · update #1
is the only reason I'm not sending her an email telling her the **** off.
This just really sucks, b/c it happened right after the night I got done telling you how insecure I was feeling. :(. I love you more than anything, and not sure who sent this to me or why other than to just try and ruin what we have.
And yes knowing you are talking sexual and askign for pics from some other woman hurts me and pisses me off. I don't even know if I want to ask what kind of pictures.
Look at it from my point, say you asked me who so and so was. I told you I didn't know. But in reality it was some guy I would be seeing atleast once a week and talking to every day. Then you find out that I'm telling him I suck dick,and asking him for pictures. So I hope you can see why I'm upset, though I'm proud of myself for not calling you and going off or sending the whore anything. You know you would be kicking some guys *** if it was turned around.
I'm only going to ask one thing, if we keep
2007-10-13 01:05:49 · update #2
if we keep the internet, that you have no contact with this whore on line. I'm not going to keep tabs so if you tell me you aren't then I will trust you.
And I'm going to tell you this, since she works the TN stores, if/when you go over there to work, I'm coming with you no matter what anyone says even if I have to sneak into the room. No discussion on that one k.
I love you so much. And last night you held me more than you have in a long time, I'm not accusing you of anything, other than just not thinking enough :P. And I'm not exactly mad, concerned and hurt, but not mad.
We can talk about this after Eden goes home sunday, Though honestly I'm considering taking the modem to the cable company and having the net disconnected.
Love you always and forever.
2007-10-13 01:06:17 · update #3
You know what to do.#
2007-10-13 01:34:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are pregnant and it is not good to your baby that you think too much.This problem will just cause you depression.I was 3 months pregnant too when my husband fell into other woman.I got a lot of evidences.But you know the more I got jealous,the more I got insecure,pushed my husband to go and live with the other woman more.It was very painful.But I had wished at that time that I better calmed myself,ignored the woman and never searched for evidences.My husband got an affair and he made the other woman pregnant too.that is more so difficult case compare to your case.We ended up in a divorce after I gave birth to my youngest.Pain,sacrifices but in return,time healed my broken heart because,I could not rely on a man who was so weak to flesh.After 7 years I found the right man.GOD always give us the best.There are always reasons for everything..Your problem has still a chance to resolve.If you can make it,save the relationship for your kids.If your husband doesn't leave you,he still there for your needs,don't give up.If he really keeps secret from you,he will never chat on your house.You better dressed up,make a new hobby,relax,don't think people that would not help you.You have long relationship with him and you have kids and got marry you.He loves you.I think he is just playing around the internet.
2007-10-13 08:27:59 · answer #2 · answered by Lucy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got a better idea.Why don't you change the locks on the door and empty out the bank accounts and file for divorce.He is probably cheating.My wife used to tell me nothing ever was going on.She would always get caught one way or another.If he cheated once,he will cheat again.If you want to stay with him.Get ready to have him cheat with the next c**t.
2007-10-13 08:16:47 · answer #3 · answered by jonasruxpin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how hard it hurts to feel this feeling, you have to take back your power and not let his behavior govern your every move. Taking the modem back may just give him a reason to seek out another method. If you love him, let him go and if he goes you've lost nothing but the time you wasted on his dumb ***!
2007-10-13 08:20:17 · answer #4 · answered by want2flybye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly? I'd get rid of him. he sees this b*tch once a week, and is talking to her like that?
I'm sure he was like this BEFORE you got married, so I'm a little unsure of WHY you married him, but that's your thing. I'd get rid of him. why marry him after more than 9 years? anyway, I'm thinking he's cheating, and will keep cheating unless you do something about it. divorce him, or get it annulled (whatever you do after 3 mths), and sue him for child support.
2007-10-13 08:10:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to tell u..but hes cheating. Even if the physical act has yet to be committed..talking sexually online to a woman that he knows in the real world is more than harmless flirting...its foreplay..its emotional cheating.
2007-10-13 08:07:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree with Daarling, get rid of him!!!! He is no good. But let me add I believe I would try to make a visit on the same day she visits his restaurant if all possible!!!
2007-10-13 08:17:37 · answer #7 · answered by Maddie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is cheating...a man is as fathful as his options...today it doesn't seem to matter that u are having a baby or if you have children...it is something out of your control...but it sure is within his control..I am sorry you hurt..((big Hugs))
PS you so don't need this right now ...wish I was magic
cara
2007-10-13 08:15:23 · answer #8 · answered by ღஜ((CARE))ஜღ 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should go and talk to her....you are psychotic. God help your kids. Grow up and handle this like an adult. A letter? You are going to find yourself a divorced mom if you continue this.
2007-10-13 08:11:36 · answer #9 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Serve him with divorce papers. That'll say it all.
2007-10-13 09:18:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him. My suspicions are that he is cheating. I'm sorry :(
2007-10-13 08:09:43 · answer #11 · answered by flowerchild 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋