My man is good in bed and he has no problem pleasing me. Its just that I am never in the mood anymore. Why is this? What causes this to happen?
2007-10-13 14:41:21 · 11 answers · asked by Kelley H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
what kind of work do you do for a living? do you have kids? what is your financial situation at home? what happen to you emotional that bring you down?
2007-10-13 14:50:56 · answer #1 · answered by Thomas 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stress, kids? Sometimes we have so many things going on.....that when we get in bed we just want to turn our brains off and sex is thought of as just another chore on our list. You need to make time for sex and the more you do it, the more you'll want too. Don't let there be a lull or you will just not be in the routine. Try having sex a few times a week for a month and see if you can't get that old feeling back. Good Luck!
2007-10-13 15:45:48 · answer #2 · answered by Felicia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I stopped wanting sex a little over a year ago I finally went to my doctor to talk to him. He said that I had a hormonal imbalance and that it fluctuates. I stopped having periods during this time and I just could not work up desire to be with my husband.
There are drugs that can help but you have to talk to your doctor about them. It is the female equivelent of Viagra.
Stress is murder on your sex drive and if you are worried about not having a sex drive it will make it worse. Is your husband noticing your lack of response - are you fighting about it.......all these things can make it worse.
Also, I am sure you know that being tired can affect it. You could be run down, anemic or something else.
Whatever your answers are you shouild see a doctor to make sure it is not a physical problem and then go from there.
Good Luck to you.
2007-10-13 14:58:22 · answer #3 · answered by mn lady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think back to when you where dating what was it yall did for for fun. my wife and i try to at least talk about that and sometimes go out and do some stuff. like just look at the stars laying on a blanket in the middle of no where. little things seem to rekindle the spark from dating and get her in the mood. especially when she cant remember why she is stressed. it help for a month or two, just to stop and remember what it is that got yall so close. granted weve only been married 3 yrs. so refine the spark trust the mood follows.
2007-10-13 14:58:19 · answer #4 · answered by Chris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of things can cause a decrease in sexual drive. First of all, get a medical check-up. Could be hormone imbalance, thyroid disfunction, anything... Stress also can affect our sexual drives. Lack of sleep, worry, anxiety, menapause, boredom. Usually I have found that it comes back on it's own before long, but it's best to check it out with a doctor anyway. Good luck!
2007-10-13 15:18:28 · answer #5 · answered by mab5096 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See your doctor. There are many things that can cause this. First you should rule out all physical causes. These include, but are not limited to high blood pressure, diabetes, hormonal imbalance, thyroid problems. My wife felt the way you do, was diagnosed and treated, and was back to her horney ol' self in 2 weeks. Good luck.
2007-10-13 15:18:57 · answer #6 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to be "in the mood" to enjoy good sex. All you have to do is be in the moment. Granted, there can be many reasons why you don't feel like it, so get a physical, take vitamins, don't work so hard, get more rest....but just keep enjoying the sex.
2007-10-13 14:55:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
could be stress, could be the pill if you're on it, could be a lot of things perhaps. talk to ur doctor, maybe he can prescribe you something to help you with that...
2007-10-13 14:47:36 · answer #8 · answered by jules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm.........well when that happend to me i found that a small intimate vacation to rikindle the flame worked the best.....
2007-10-13 16:40:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you love him? if so maybe the romance is dying...maybe he needs to be more romantic with you.
2007-10-13 14:56:10 · answer #10 · answered by gladys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋