Okay so I've been married for 7months. My husband has never been the cheating type. He absolutely hates cheaters. He doesn't see how someone can do something like that to someone they love. Anywayz.. the past couple months the young girls he works with have been flirting with him constantly. He's a manager so he has to stay late and close the place down. Well they close at 11pm everynight, and here lately he hasn't been making it home until around 3:30am. If I call to find out where he is, I get no answer. Does anyone think I should look further into this whole deal?
2007-10-13 17:20:34 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband use to come home between 12 and 1am. Something has definately changed
2007-10-13 17:27:25 · update #1
what he is doing, is something you would consider as out of the ordinary...but dint go accusing him of anything right now...you don't want to start a fight out of wrong hunches (although admittedly, coming home at 3:30 am is not normal for a married man)...try to find out more before jumping into conclusions...talk to him (not in an accusing manner) about work, why he has been going home late, ask him if there is something you can do to help so that he doesn't have to come home that late, etc...you can also go to his office one day during closing, so that you can see things for yourself...at least you can check out your facts first before doing anything drastic that might affect your marriage....
2007-10-13 17:29:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So is he usually home at 11:30? What type of manager is he? I know when I worked fast food we closed and it took another hour and half to clean the store.
But I'm taking it that this is to late to be getting in. Have you asked him? I would question him and ask why he don't answer when you call. Communication is a marriages best friend. Just tell him how you feel and why your feeling that way.
2007-10-13 17:28:32 · answer #2 · answered by blueeyd_princess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked him where he was when he does get in?
He doesn't have to be cheating. He could be at an all night library, or out feeding the poor.
The bottom line is that he is doing something that makes you uncomfortable. You have the right to express that, and ask him to get home at a reasonable hour. He has the right to tell you it's none of your business, etc. Then you could have some hard decisions to make.
Good luck.
2007-10-13 17:30:34 · answer #3 · answered by Herb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By all means, look into it. If it's that late at night, he's not dealing with customers or anything, he should be at least answering his phone. That's suspicous. Before you ask him, check his call log on his phone when he's not around or check it online if you can (won't tell you what he's doing with the girls at work between those hours, since he'd be with them, but if he's cheating, there's probably strange numbers on his phone). If you don't have kids, make a run by his workplace late night when he's not answering his phone. If he's not there, you know something's up. See if you can have him followed. Again, if you don't have kids, or if you can leave them at your parents' house for a while, follow him yourself. Just don't take them with you. They don't need to see that.
2007-10-13 17:28:24 · answer #4 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I think he is cheating. He should be home no later than midnight if they close at 11. What else do you think he could be doing for an additional 3 1/2 hours?
2007-10-13 17:25:20 · answer #5 · answered by Lizzie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he stays out until 3:30am?
yeah he is cheating>sorry but i think you already know that!
if i were in your shoes i would go park outside my husbands work and follow him>
now for the girl that said trust him....
how can you honestly trust a man who is close to 5hours late home after work has ended.
i would never tolerate my husband coming home in the early morning hours!!!! no way sir-reee
good luck and i hope that you resolve this problem quickly...
2007-10-13 17:30:36 · answer #6 · answered by Jdez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long does it take for him to close and how far away is his work from home? What time did he used to get home from work and is it now taking him longer than before?
You know the answer to this. There's nothing 'honest' to do past 11pm when you're not at home w/ your spouse...or out WITH them.
2007-10-13 17:27:01 · answer #7 · answered by lookinforanswers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where the heck does he say he's been until that late? You have to sit down and have a talk with him and the sooner the better. You just can't go on like that - just because someone says they hate cheaters doesn't mean that he isn't one!
2007-10-13 17:25:55 · answer #8 · answered by curiouscanadian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it definitley sounds fishy but it doesn't necesarily mean he's cheating, just be upfront w/ him, ask. Sooner or later the truth will come out of he's cheating. Don't ask if he's cheating just ask what takes him so long to get home. RU arguing? could be he's trying to avoid something and by the time he gets home he knows ur asleep.
2007-10-13 17:37:41 · answer #9 · answered by RoseFairy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to his place of work, say around 12:30 - 1, and bring him something special (plate of his favorite cookies) and say you missed him and were thinking about him (wear his favorite dress or outfit just in case he is really working). You will know immediately if he is busy working or if something else is going on.
2007-10-13 19:35:04 · answer #10 · answered by claranet23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋