it has been a few wks since he officially broke up with me after 4 years b/c he was unhappy... should i send a book da vinci code he always wanted to read (ordered on amazon for dirt cheap), and a plain card that just says happy bday... i won't wrap the present up, just send it in plain manila envelope. of course, i'm not gonna lie, i would at least hope he will say thank you, but even if he doesn't, i would feel i have done my part and, just as a nice way for me to end this chapter in my life and move on.
I took the break up badly and I did ask him back before.
If you had to put your money on the possibility of him calling back, would it more likely to happen if i didn't send him gift or card on his bday OR if i do send him gift on his bday?
2007-10-13 17:04:27 · 8 answers · asked by Mike P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you can send it - BUT, be prepared that he probably won't respond. Don't send the book hoping he will come running back to you.
2007-10-13 17:17:27 · answer #1 · answered by californiablueeyes76 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My opinion...he will just take the gift and probably will not show any gratitude. If it helps YOU to send it to him, to end the chapter, then by all means do it. If I had to put my money on it, I would bet that he is more likely to call if you stop calling him altogether. That's unfortunately how it goes. But I think for your own happiness you should try to let him go, as in no presents, no more phone calls.
2007-10-13 17:13:35 · answer #2 · answered by Trauma31 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am all for the positive, so think you should send the book in the way you said. Whenever I make a gesture like that, the silence in reply is generally deafening, but I think that says more about the state of mind of the other person. You would have ended on a gracenote. Later it might mean something to him.
2007-10-13 17:10:08 · answer #3 · answered by pete the pirate 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't send him the gift. He might call you back but he would be feeling obliged to do so and so that wouldn't really count. It doesn't look good if you are after him to come back. You would do more better to let things be and if he calls you on his own accord then I guess he still cares but don't count on it. Try and move on - break ups are always hard.
2007-10-13 17:12:44 · answer #4 · answered by curiouscanadian 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and send him the book. You can just say you bought it before you broke up and you still want him to have it. I'm sure he will accept it.
2007-10-13 17:14:49 · answer #5 · answered by helpful one 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just resell it on Amazon and start dating again to find someone better, especially if he left because he wasn't happy instead of trying to talk to you and figure out why and what could be done about that
2007-10-13 17:33:58 · answer #6 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send it to him you don't want it just say got this before we broke up don't want you to loose all the way around
2007-10-13 17:18:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would bet if u send it the gift but u might seem a little deperate
2007-10-13 17:08:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋