We went to our son's cub scout outing. My mother went with us. I pushed my mom's wheelchair all the time, up hill down hill. I did not asked him any help, and he was busy with kids. Then before we left, my husband went to help out one of kid's mom. Helping her put kids in the car because she has four kids with her at that time. I helped my mother and put wheelchair in the car, and told our two kids to get in the car. They are five, and seven. They know what to do. She has three, two, and seven. Other kid is seven also(not her own). I got so mad. How is can help other woman over his wife of 15 years. I told him maybe he is in love with her. He says "no". and i told him denial is not going to help him. Am i mean or is he crazy?
2007-10-13 16:40:06 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
maybe he just doesn't relize that you need help. he might think that you have everything under control. although i understand why you are upset about this because i would be too. my husband does the same kind of stuff helping others and not thinking of helping me out sometimes. i don't think he does it to be mean i just think that he knows that i will get it done regardless so he just doesn't worry about me. but it does piss me off sometimes. no i don't think your mean but i really dought he is in love with this woman either he is just trying to be a gentlemen and sometimes gentlemen forget about helping there wives out. like my husband might go out of his way to hold the door open for another woman that he doesn't even know and not open it for me. accually he has accidently let the door slam in my face to catch the next door for a woman and god i got so pissed and accused him of thinking she was hot or something. i don't know if that was the case but he doesn't do that anymore cause i gave him hell lol. just make sure you tell him that you need help. ask him next time. now if he still won't help you out and helps the other woman instead than you can say something about him having a thing for her. sometimes you just have to spell it out for men cause they just don't get it lol. good luck though
2007-10-13 16:56:28 · answer #1 · answered by stt143 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a guy who is EXACTLY like that. He'll go out of his way to help others, but he'll let me do everything around here....like trying to carry in 10 grocery bags, while he doesn't even OFFER to get the door for me. Hell, the last time we went out, he stopped talking to me, and started a conversation with a woman who was sitting next to us...I just stood up and said, as loud as I could, EXCUSE ME....which one of us are you here with???? Am I invisible or something??
In short, I think he's the one with the problem.
he's being selectively inconsiderate! Tell him to help YOU first, then he can help the (soccer mom/floozie?) next to you.
2007-10-14 00:12:02 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. GTO 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes, we feel things aren't right yet they may be different in what we think. Maybe, he was just being nice to that lady. I don't think you can get upset against your husband over that unless you have a very reasonable doubt that he's upto something.
At what you pointed out, it doesn't seem like it. Just be nice and kind to your husband, love him everyday, and see his mutual love for you. If he shows that, everything then seems fine :)
One advice: Always remain calm, patient and understanding. Unless you have a strong feeling that he's cheating on you, don't be harsh against him. Sometimes, what we think aren't the things that happen.
Hope this helps :)
2007-10-13 23:49:39 · answer #3 · answered by Coconut Guy 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you are quite a capable person and he realizes that.
He was being kind and helping out a mom who happened to have four kids with her to deal with.
I'd be PROUD to have a husband that likes helping people out instead of being mad.
Did you ask for help? No? If you would have I bet he would have helped you.
You are being mean. I have NO sympathy for ya.
2007-10-13 23:58:46 · answer #4 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i had an ex like this....a total idiot! we had so much around the house that needed to get finished and yet this jerk would go out of his way to help someone finish a home project!!! i think men like this want everyone to see what a great guy he is....baloney!!! charity starts at home i say!!! these are the guys that everyone will say.."oh...what a great guy...help anyone...give you the shirt off of his back..." and us wives just grit our teeth!!
2007-10-13 23:47:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
my husband would never do that.
proven to me a lot of times.
2007-10-13 23:50:26 · answer #6 · answered by Binibini 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋