he says he has been unhappy for the last 2 yrs. and wants out..I have 2 kids from prev. marriage, him...none, and we have a 1yr. old son together..just bought new house..he has moved out 2 weeks ago..has told none of tis family..he says, he wants to divorce and stay friends.(possible?)..he comes in the house ..gets into the fridge..makes himself a meal..get on the computer..watches t.v...has some play time with our son..does his laundry..all just like there is no divorce going on...the kicker here..he says,' he will pay all existing bills..incl.house payment..and give X amount of $ to take care of me and the kids'...we will also live within walking distance of eachother,..Has yet to put into writting..his so called purposal..OH yea..also his request, lets keep att. out of this..too good to be true?..what do you think?? I am caucious, very caucious...and since 'he' moved out..isn't this 'my and the kids home?
2007-10-13 16:56:37 · 5 answers · asked by Stephanie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he denies 'girlfriend'..although, my sister say him at a festival in another town, with another woman..says 'lots of girls are his friends'..absolutely does NOT have 'bedroom rights'...and yes, I guess, who wants to be with a man that is so shallow to walk out on his family without even trying..low moral character don't you think?
2007-10-13 17:36:13 · update #1
Legally its still his home. Get an attorney to protect YOUR investments. How and why would you even consider trusting a man that WALKED out on his family?
2007-10-13 17:01:06 · answer #1 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That will be your home as long as you have kids to raise. Find an attorney and file the paper work. He want to stay friends perhaps for the fringe benefits both perhaps in the kitchen and in the bedroom if you allow that. Let an attorney decide how much he will pay and who gets what instead of him as well as when visitation with his son will be and if he continues to come in to do his laundry and play on the computer, get a restraining order. This guy is a loser but you have not lost a thing!!
2007-10-14 00:15:32 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, get it all in writing. He is trying to make you happy, b/c he is hiding something. You guys are married it IS YOUR HOME! HE LEFT IT. I'll be honest he keeps coming back like he still lives there, b/c he is protecting his rights to the home. If I were you... Put your foot down and tell him to call before he come by. Also get yourself a job and a lawyer right away.
Good luck....
P.S. there is another women
2007-10-14 00:07:08 · answer #3 · answered by lynnn30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
change the locks on the door...he moved out and left the house he shoudnt feel so comfortable like he still lives there. tell him the time to pick up the kids for his play time on his time not yours. and yes get a attorney, dont let him have his cake and eat it to
2007-10-14 00:02:38 · answer #4 · answered by switchmistress 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sure sounds like he's trying to keep you happy to "hide" something....hhhhmmm...
2007-10-14 00:01:09 · answer #5 · answered by bessiedarlin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋