let's say you got pregnant on purpose because you stopped taking your birth control pills without your husbands knowledge. then you got pregnant, freaked out, and had an abortion by your choice. then after the abortion your husband was playing with his son from a previous marriage while you were resting. you then got all emotional came into your stepson's room, started cussing and saying that you just got your guts ripped out for this family and you wanted people to jump up and do things for you. meanwhile your stepson started crying. then as his father, i told you to go calm down and get out of his room because it's rediculous for you to say that in front of a 9 year old kid besides it was your decision. would you leave your husband for protecting his son from that or do you think it was all an excuse to leave? i don't think i did anything wrong. what do you all think?
2007-10-13 17:23:07 · 12 answers · asked by survivor 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it is a sorry excuse to leave. I also think that if this is what you have done, you are a selfish person with some serous issues.
If you want to leave, just leave and figure your issues out before trying to get into any kind of serious relationship or situation again.
If you did indeed get pregnant on purpose, then abort the child, you are one sick woman, or you need to get your head checked. Grow up and learn to take responsibilty for your actions. No child deserves to die, just because you are selfish. As a matter of fact, please don't have any children, i beg of you.
For the father protecting his son, well that's what parents do. I think he was completely in the right and you need to get help. Like now.
2007-10-13 17:33:37 · answer #1 · answered by Sweetheart 21 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First thing, an abortion is an emotionally and physically altering choice that affects a woman the rest of her life.
She is going to get emotional, and what I don't understand is this: Why would you freak out if you got pregnant and then why would you rush out and get an abortion without bringing the topic up for discussion? It would seem to me that this was not discussed and the abortion done for the wrong reasons.
Now, she should not have discussed this in front of the child, that was poor timing, however, I don't feel it is a reason to outright leave your spouse unless there are other things happening, and counseling isn't working.
2007-10-14 00:10:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the wife over reacted and did not need to go into the room especially out of JEALOUSY!!
which is exactly what the wife is... yes i can only imagine the stress and emotions going through the wifes head BUT that was her decision....
how can the wife want to divorce the husband for that?
the husband has every right to be furious for the wife acting that way. the wife has jealousy issues and its sad becuase this is a 9year old child.
it was her desicion so why should she feel like people nee dto jump up and do for her? all they were doing was playing with eachother and having fun and the wife is obviously JEALOUS BOTTOM LINE.!!!!
plus the wife purposely got pregnant and then freaked out...
she has issues
2007-10-13 17:39:20 · answer #3 · answered by Jdez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the wife has a LOT of issues other than those demonstrated by leaving the husband. In fact, the husband is probably better off without the wife.
No, she should not talk about private issues in front of a young child and was lashing out because she was jealous of the time you were spending with the boy.
You did not do anything wrong.
2007-10-13 17:31:49 · answer #4 · answered by slv02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that he was wrong for wanting to protect his son from this. He is a child and does not need to know what you did. He also does not need to be blamed. I am sure that you are very emotional and upset. It will take a while for you to get over this if you ever do. I would not leave him over this. I would apologize to him and the boy for it. Your emotions are going to be on a roller coaster. Try very hard to control them or to stay away from them when you want to lash out. Good luck.
2007-10-13 17:50:27 · answer #5 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is an emotional wreck right now due to having the abortion. It can really mess with you, especially if you didn't think it all the way through. If she wants to leave let her, she needs to have some space to get her head straight. And I do think she needs to apologize about flipping out in front of your son.
2007-10-13 17:32:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the wife is very emotional at the moment, thats a harsh thing to go through. I think she needs support and feels she is not getting it. I think the husband did need to say not in front of the child, the adults argument had nothing to do with the child and should not take place in front of him. I think both side need to acknowledge what the other needs, and that both are wrong in it, and try to see each others side. Can't hurt right?
2007-10-13 17:29:33 · answer #7 · answered by jackknive 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the wife shouldn't have said that in front of her stepson. she should have called her husband into another room to have that conversation. there are some things that children should not be included in, and that is one of them. bad call on her part. i hope she makes better decisions in the future.
2007-10-13 17:31:53 · answer #8 · answered by Sara W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The wife has a lot of growing up to do. She is sneaky, a liar, and cannot own up to what she did. And I would leave her for those reasons alone.
2007-10-13 17:35:20 · answer #9 · answered by lynnn30 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm confused...are you the husband or the wife???
Anyway....here's the answer: Husband right, wife way wrong, ridiculous, immature and selfish.
2007-10-13 17:30:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋