I love my family, but I'm marry with this man that he hate my family, my family look at him as another member of the family, they talk to him, we have dinner together sometime, but at soon we leave home or they leave from are home he talk very ulgy about my family always have something to say about them and i really don't like that, he being in front of our 8 years old dauther verbal abuse she began to cry and ask me mom WHY ? I am so tired, of this any advise?
2007-10-13 14:43:43 · 11 answers · asked by evy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You married the wrong man get out now while you are still young enough to find Mr. right.
2007-10-13 15:09:39 · answer #1 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What is the matter with you? You can't let him disrespect you and your child like that! That guy is a complete failure and because deep down he knows it, he's taking it out on your family. He may bel criticizing, because it makes him feel better.
Well, he's the idiot and if you let your husband disrespect you, your child and your family like that, then there is something wrong with you!
Get your self respect, pride and dignity and threaten that this will stop today. Say if it doesn't you will take it to the next step and that would be a separation! Let him know that you mean business. If he loves you, he will do something about it. If he doesn't love you, then he might leave. You have to want to know which way he will go, because it is very important. It will eventually ruin your marriage and it obviously is taking a toll on your poor daughter. GET SOME CONTROL AND SOME STRENGTH HERE. DO NOT PUT UP WITH ANYTHING THAT YOU DON'T LIKE, ESPECIALLY FROM YOUR HUSBAND!
2007-10-13 14:58:41 · answer #2 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You are going to have to get him to stop talking in front of your child. Tell him it hurts you to hear his opinion of your family and that you do not want your child to be influenced by his hatred. If he can't say something positive then he should not say anything.
You might want to really cut down on the dinner parties that include everyone. Visit your family at times he is not present.
My guess is that if he is that way, and you stop seeing your family, he will just find something else to put down. He sounds like he is trying to control you, who you see and spend time with. If he can alienate you from your family he can control you more;
Either get some family counceling to get him changed or get out and take your child with you. She is the important one now and she needs to be protected from the anger and verbal abuse.
Good luck
2007-10-13 14:54:20 · answer #3 · answered by mn lady 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What your husband is doing is very rude and disrespectful and you really need to talk to him and tell him how you feel about the situation. Is there a specific reason why he does not like your family? You need to tell him straight up that he needs to start respecting your family and he needs to stop saying bad things about them because they are you family and you love them, if he doesn't like them, fine, but he doesn't need to trash them infront of you because it hurts you and he needs to know that. If this continues to go on it will most likely ruine your marriage so befor it goes any further do something about it now.
2007-10-13 14:51:52 · answer #4 · answered by Kasja 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my mom was married to a man who verbally abused us. finally the marriage ended. we tried and tried to work thorugh it but he would never change. i would say that your husband just doesnt easily feel accepted by people and maybe he thinks that your family really doesn't like him or that they are being fake. but really if they are doin all that they know to do then i dont know why he would try and say they dont like him. i would def. not let the child hear him talk like this. if he continues to hurt the child like that leave. tell him he cannot do that in front of her if he cares about her. he should stop then.
2007-10-13 14:51:27 · answer #5 · answered by SouthernSweetheart 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would leave the man. Life is to short to put up with that. Talking in front of a child is wrong.
2007-10-13 15:09:01 · answer #6 · answered by patches 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would have never married a guy that treats my family like that. You probably knew how he was before you married him. It's not a good situation for your daughter and your husband is too immature to realize that.
2007-10-13 14:48:20 · answer #7 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Tell him if he can't say something nice, especially in front of the child, then to shut the F up.
2007-10-13 14:49:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
gurl he sounds like a real *** hole for doing that to you and your family and if he can say those things to you and your gurl and make her cry then he must be a *** hole with other things so really if you cant make him stop you know what to do aye
2007-10-13 15:01:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
he doesn't sound like a very loving man...leave him or take him to counselling
2007-10-13 14:48:54 · answer #10 · answered by Stella 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋