I've been married for a little over a year, my husband is deployed, and my husband and I have jealousy issues.
I'll start with mine: a few years before I met my husband I had a really bad relationship with a guy, with no trust due to cheating. It took me a long time to be able to think about it and not get upset and/or cry. After him, I dated a few guys casually which helped me deal with my trust issues and realize that not every guy is like him. Now I'm married to a man who makes me feel like I'm the only one he sees and we have a beautiful daughter. I wasn't having any jealousy issues, and then I got pregnant and they came like a hurricane. I thought maybe it was the emotional rollercoaster of the pregnancy that was making me suspicious of my husband all the time, but its continued 2 1/2 months (so far) after our daughter was born. He hasn't done anything that should make me feel like this, so why am I doubting him? Is it possible its the deployment is partly a cause?
2007-10-13 15:19:43 · 6 answers · asked by ME 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As for his jealousy...while he was home on leave he admitted that he gets worried/jealous when I go out with my friends because some of them are guys. I don't think he would wonder if he was here, but being in Iraq and hearing about all the other spouses that are cheating (and there are a lot in his unit) makes him wonder. Other that just flat out telling him I'd never do that to him, how can I reassure him that he's the only one I want?
2007-10-13 15:22:09 · update #1
A little extra info: when I go out (which is rarely) its with other Army wives.
2007-10-13 15:29:41 · update #2
First with your jealousy issues I might consider that you are suffering a little from post partum depression. You said it started when you were pregnant and has continued for a couple of months. Obviously pregnancy can do a lot of things to your hormones and your body. Talk to your doctor and see if he agrees that you might be suffering from it.
As for his jealousy - sounds more like he is just anxous that jealous. For his sake and his peace of mind you should cut back on the outings with the girls, get yourself some married friends and spend time with other housewifes and mothers. With your new baby you will not have much free time anyway.
He just wants to be reassure that he is the only man in your life because he is so far from home is a dangerous place. And you just had a baby, you need to know that you are still desireable to him and that he still sees you as a woman and not a baby maker.
Good luck to you
2007-10-13 15:27:42 · answer #1 · answered by mn lady 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Changing his signature to take you out of it's the identical as taking you and your stuff out of his residence and striking it at the lessen for the trashman to haul off. He's hiding the truth that he has a GF from anybody (and some thing tells me it is not his ex - she already is aware of approximately you). He's skywriting for the arena to look that he is unmarried and to be had. I believe you relatively must aid him obtain his dream and reduce him free. If he asks why inform him he is a mendacity SOB and also you deserve greater (which is right, each counts). Texting you to provide you with a warning he is writing you out of his lifestyles does not make it any much less so. He's already left you; he simply does not have the balls to confess it. I'd hate to believe he is putting out with you just for the advantages...
2016-09-05 08:18:59 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he have email? Do you, or one of your female friends, have a digital camera? Send some pics of you and the kid at home, at the park. (Just the action of taking and sending the pics will show you are thinking of him.) Maybe take one of you lying on your side of the bed, showing his empty pillow and title it "missing you." Or one of you in his favorite outfit "can't wait to wear this for you again." New babies and deployment are stressful alone, and you got the double hit. Good luck. And I thank him for serving.
2007-10-13 16:06:02 · answer #3 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to base your relationship on trust and talk to each other and tell them what trust mean to you and where you stand if trust is ever broken...
2007-10-13 16:02:41 · answer #4 · answered by Digs59 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hormones. talk to your Dr.
2007-10-13 15:34:37 · answer #5 · answered by aaron g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be confident, everything will be fine.
2007-10-13 15:26:23 · answer #6 · answered by princessqueen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋