Marriage & Divorce - 4 October 2007

my mother in law has moved in with me and my husband.the plan was she has half the bottom of the house as aself contained unit,bedroom,living room,bathroom,small kitchenette.but she is driving me mad! she walks in and out of my house when she likes and if i dont agree with something she thinks is a good idea she goes behind my back to my husband.that can be anything from getting a shed to solar power!!at the moment she is in germany visiting her daughter and we had agreed that her friend and her friends husband could atay in her bit of the house for 1 week as they are looking to buy a house nearby.but that has now turned into 4 different times,with them arriving again tomorrow to stay until wed! Also she has e-mailed to say her,her daughter,her 4 grandchildren and her daughters friend will all be arriving wed to stay until the weekend.which means i have to put my 7 year old son in with me and my husband so they can have his room.am i right to feel put out?

2007-10-04 03:08:56 · 7 answers · asked by min m 1

We now do not know what to do. Are we married? Do we need to do anything?help

2007-10-04 03:08:09 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

When you were dating you probably thought about what kind of husband and/or father your boyfriend would be right? Were you right about your prediction? Specifics please.

2007-10-04 03:01:18 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I want to limit this question to ladies only so that I can get a full perspective on their point of view.
First, let me say that I love my girlfriend of 7 years. We have lived together for 7 years and are now in the process of building a new home. She really wants to get married....the ring, the wedding, the honeymoon.....the whole shabang. She has never been married before......I was married for 3 years when I was 20.....I'm 36 now.

Marriage just doesn't mean a whole lot to me. In my opinion, we are just great the way it is. I am fully committed to her emotionally and in every other way. I know that it is a lot of women's dreams to get married and I probably will...but my reason will be to make her happy.

Is my thought process wrong for not feeling the need to get married? It won't change my committment level...to me it is a lot of money and a legal piece of paper. Let me know what you think.

2007-10-04 03:00:54 · 37 answers · asked by Jay E 3

2007-10-04 02:58:31 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

that her divorice was not final till 11 days after our wedding, what do we do? are we marraid?

2007-10-04 02:53:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

if so, why?

2007-10-04 02:48:19 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I were home the past two days with bad sore throats and colds. I miss him so much today, being away from him.

2007-10-04 02:48:04 · 11 answers · asked by Learning is fun! 4

I didnt say anything just let him go to work but he knew something was wrong.I always follow him to the door but this morning after setting his lunch and breakfast on the table I just got back into bed,He had to come back into the room and kiss me good_bye..and asked what was wrong ..so he knew something was up..I am sad

2007-10-04 02:44:34 · 25 answers · asked by ღOMGღ 7

My 13 year old daughter who lives with my divorced wife wants to move in with me because she and her mother do not get along. My ex-wife is the custodial parent and I pay child support for my daughter. I have heard that if my daughter were at 14 years of age, I could go to some kind of couthouse and a judge will ask the 14 year old where she would rather be. with her mother or her father. does anyone know anything about this? My daughter is very unhappy with her mother and I want to help her. I live alone and am not attached to anyone. I can provide for her without any problems. I am retired and can be at home for her at all times. I just want to help make my daughter happy. I love her very much and would love to have her live with me. What can I do? Do I need to speak to an attorney? If so what kind of attorney? If you know what I need to do please help me with this issue. Thank you very much

Loving Dad

2007-10-04 02:42:38 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am married, but ever since before i was ever married, I have this thing where if i get drunk and go to a club, I dirty dance and kiss my girlfriends. My husband has seen it happen. I know he doesn't really like it.........

is it cheating?

2007-10-04 02:29:22 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

When we got in a heated argument he started saying how I am ugly, I look like a pimple face, skinny crackhead. He said that he can pull off any haircut (referring that he looks good) and I cannot. He said that people have told him he is “prettier” then me even though he’s the guy. He said I am scraggly. And the crazy part is-I do have low-esteem but I know I am not that bad. Everyone else around me says the exact opposite of what he said then. I DID say things to him back b/c I was hurt. Afterward when we are no longer mad, he will say he didn’t mean those things-he just wanted to get to me. But if this is the case-why does he say these same things about me every time he is mad??? I don’t get it.

2007-10-04 02:24:56 · 20 answers · asked by Yellowtulips 3

2007-10-04 02:24:53 · 28 answers · asked by alison412305 1

If you have followed my sad saga you know that my wife of 5 yrs. who managed her illness and I had a great marriage. My stepson got in trouble all the time, drugs, arrests, underage drinking etc. I tried to set boundaries but my wife felt that she could help him if it was one on one in an apartment so she moved out to help him. We were still together for 5 mos. and then she quit her meds. [doctor told me]. I did all I could to get her back on but she enjoys the mania. Then 3 mos ago she started an affair with a real lowlife who sees she is vulnerable. I gave her divorce papers she wanted. Now I am heartsick and wish I could have a miracle. It hurts me to my soul that this woman who I felt was my soulmate is like talking to a stranger now. Its a helpless ,hollow feeling. I wish I could just let it go but the Love I have for her just wont let me rest. I know shes ill but I cant live like this any advice appreciated.

2007-10-04 02:20:31 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

keep on falling in love with him and devote myself to him knowing that he did all these all awful things ?
1. He was with 500 sex sex slaves when he lived in Russia.
2. He seduced 2000 other young college women, approximately 4 a week.
3. He fought other men just for the fun of it, one time he even hit a man in the head with a sledgehammer.
4. He went to many, many strip clubs, porn and still talks about women in a suggestive manner.
How do I deal with his past ? How do I quit thinking about it ? Now he is born again, he is devoted to me, but the sex slavery part really bothers me because those women in eastern Russia didn't have a choice...........I know he also has a hard time dealing with what he did.

2007-10-04 02:19:59 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

I met a guy online, we've been chatting, we basically know each other's life stories, there is a connection. We have been talking since the end of august, havent met yet, havent talked on the phone either. He seems to good to be true, he tells me the same. I recently found out that he had also been chatting with a friend of mine he met on a similar website! I guess my friend hadnt been talking to him much, and when he found out he asked her a lot about me, said he thought he was in love, etc. She told him well then you two should meet, he said, well that's an understatment.she said, well do it then, he said, well will. SO...why isnt he wanting to meet up? Am i being a fool? Oh yeah his myspace is all women, but he has deleted a few of the people i asked him too

2007-10-04 02:14:31 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-04 02:14:22 · 15 answers · asked by Y ask ME! 2

why is my boyfriend stubborn and does what is right for him why is he a BASTARDDDDDD

2007-10-04 02:12:58 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I dated him 10 years ago. He contact me back in 2005 and informed me he was married. I backed off but he kept trying to contact me. March 2007 we began talking again and he says that he and his wife are seperated now. I don't believe him because sometimes he disappears and only text message me. We been having sex and I've fallen in love with him also. He says he wants to marry me and been trying to get me pregnant. He and the wife never had kids and I don't neither. Things were sounding good at first but i just feel that he hasn't been honest about his wife. How can I break it off with him?

2007-10-04 02:11:13 · 19 answers · asked by ms rainbow 2

Ok i just answered a question about a woman who came to the USA only to marry a guy. My question is: Is this normal are there a lot of women from other countries who are coming here to marry guy and how many of these ladies are being left by their men after getting here. Help me understand this.

Please respond if you are or have friends who have done this or in this situation

2007-10-04 02:10:17 · 7 answers · asked by purejc 2

I have a big problem...lately, I haven't been able to get my ex-boyfriend out of my head. I "see" him everywhere I go, think of him all the time, and even daydream about him when my husband and I have sex!!!! I haven't dated this guy in over 7 years. We did have a pretty nasty breakup, but we're friends now...although we don't get the chance to talk much.

I love my husband dearly...I feel so guilty for feeling like this...what can I do??

2007-10-04 01:55:55 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

maybe thats because I am. I saw the writing on the wall before it even happened. I ignored the signs and in my stubborn Taurean nature did what I wanted and now the sh*t is biting me in the a s s. I'm scared, but I'm going to do it. Lord willing by the end of the month, I will have enough money saved up to get my own place with my son. I know what I have to do because I know what happiness is supposed to be and this isnt it. I know that I deserve way better and even though I was wrong, and I take full responsibility for my actions, I'm still a good woman. I have so much to offer and I'm not even concerned with another guy, its just that this man is not the one. He wont change and I see that now. I've changed. I've become less and less tolerant, patient, respecting, trusting, etc. I'm tired of taking care of him and his drama. I feel like if I let him go, then and only then will I get this weight off my shoulders. thanks for letting me vent on here. your comments are welcome

2007-10-04 01:48:45 · 8 answers · asked by teri is ambience 5

My bf is divorced w/2 boys, I think he feels obligated to their mom because thats the mother of his kids. I don't understand this. Is it suppose to be like this, he use to say they have cordial relationship or they try to get along for the kids now he was saying they are friends and if she need something or he does its ok to ask each other. they are clearly over each other she lives with another guy and is engaged I think. he was devasted when she didn't want to be with him anymore. I think he was not ok when I met him cause he use to defend her. I ended up developing so many insecurities when it comes to them. What can I do to feel better. Is this ok for him to feel this way. How are divorced people with kids suppose to interact when they have new significant others.

2007-10-04 01:42:14 · 21 answers · asked by Smile 2

I am 33 yrs. old, male and have been married for over 11 yrs. I am bi-polar and manic depressive. I have alot of issues that I am trying to deal with in my life right now. More than what is usual. A lot more!!! I am in such a rut and trying and trying to dig myself out and go back to being the "some-what" normal person I am. Am I going through some kind of a "mid-life" crisis?

2007-10-04 01:27:08 · 12 answers · asked by venicedrowningme 2

I am married 2 kids. ages 1 and 5 boy and girl. I leave for work at 5:30am get home around 4pm. My wife does not work but she feels when I get home its my turn to take care of kids .
But I ussually am tired at that point. So how much free time is normal for me to get after work.

2007-10-04 01:26:04 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

I feel like I am married to my brother. We are not intimate at all. I have asked him several times what can I do to spice things up or make him desire/be attracted to me. He constantly blows me off and say he don't feel like talking about it. But yet he has cheated NUMEROUS of times. The s*x is horrible. I NEVER have an "O" and it's like he don't care. I really do love him and never thought I would feel this way but, all I can think about is being w/another man that will satisfy me in that area. What should I do? I am very attractive, and guys hit on me all the time EXCEPT my own husband. It's like he doesn't even notice me. No hugs, no kisses, no love notes, nothing other than come home and go to sleep. He said he pays the bills, provide for our family and come home every night, what's the problem. Please any advice will help me!

2007-10-04 01:21:59 · 21 answers · asked by sassy lady 4

I have been in love with a woman for 20 years. Yet in mid life I am finding it difficult to love her any longer. Has anyone been out of love and yet been able to re-kindkle things or is it just too late?

2007-10-04 01:18:27 · 10 answers · asked by mystery639066 1

I am in mid my 30's and what I want to know is does anybody know any one who has left what appeared to be a good marriage (before mid life crisis) got together with a younger chick or continued in a swinging type lifestyle after the divorce and actually confessed to being happier and fullfiled.

2007-10-04 01:16:12 · 4 answers · asked by mystery639066 1

2007-10-04 01:09:48 · 6 answers · asked by kimberly k 5

Just a response to the English woman who believes I haven't been outside of my wigwam for many moons...

2007-10-04 01:00:39 · 5 answers · asked by Chiksita 4