Marriage & Divorce - 4 October 2007

My hubby (soon to be ex.hubby) and i met in college when i was 20 became aquianted he transfered to another school.Then when i was 22 and a single mom via an ex.bf which was a very messy.At the time i wanted to be wild party girl.Thats how my hubby and i met we got married after 7 months of dating.Its been an on/off tirbulent marriage for 4 yrs he never stopped being the party guy and cheated on me more than once though i only caught him once but evidence says otherwise.He would stay out late or not come home alot.Or say he was working late but as a computer software engineer he could work from home?During our last seperation i slept with my daughters father and got pregnant with twins who are now little over 18 months old.I got back together with my husband i was unaware of my condition thought they were his up until they were born. Now my husband wants money from me?To pay back all the medical bills?

2007-10-04 06:02:09 · 12 answers · asked by Samantha B 1

She said she will move out but her grand ma passed away and she got a cold … Her grand ma died overseas, so I sent a beautiful flower bouquet and I took care of her till she got well. Now it is 2 weekends that she can go and search for an apartment but as I see she is shopping ($1000 clothes, shoes … of course this is her own money) she used to come home at 6:00 pm after work but now she is home after 9:00 pm
I tried to talk to her 2 times after getting the divorce papers but she did not listen, accused me and said unreal things. I asked her to come to the Family canceller and she said: I came to her 3 times but the feed back was not good and I do not believe in counseling (meaning: My way or highway!)
She had some boxes packed all around our small apartment for 3 weeks. Last night finally I put them all in front of her wardrobe. I told her I thought about the papers and I agree with divorce. We should get separated ASAP and go on with our lives.
I realized that she was not expecting this but she has a big ego and said: I will leave as soon as possible. And started accusing me of pushing her!
She always wants to keep me hanging on! Isn’t it my right to ask her about her plan? I bought my house in a week. Can’t she find an apartment to rent (she wants to rent)
I want to know what she thinks… Maybe you have been there my friend… What is all that shopping (I know there is no other man) Why is she procrastinating?
I talked to our counselor yesterday, she told me I gave up my rights in this marriage, she was walking all over me because I never had a back bone… counselor is right, I always accepted whatever she said ... I am a successful businessman, very handsome but with my wife what I did was interpreted as my weakness not love…
I have feelings for her, but for one time I want to stand up because in this relationship I will not be happy at all…I want to know about your experience… she has a big ego, very jealous and controlling…she has good things but knowing the bad side, do you think she will move out?

2007-10-04 05:52:27 · 12 answers · asked by mazyar m 1

It seems like nothing really is going right with my life latley. My husband just dosn't love me anymore and pretty much told me that. He is sleeping on the couch for the past few days without any good reason, and told me that he wants a break from me. He told me that he can't turst or respect me, because I was with somebody else before him. He believes that I'm still in love with my ex, who I dated 6 years ago, one year before I dated my husband. I don't know how he gets this idea, I don't even think of my ex or speak of him ever. I always loved and respected my husband. I feel so down and unworthy right now.

2007-10-04 05:41:05 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

how many men would actually even think about marrying a woman who doesnt go to work, just stays home and cleans up the house, the typical stay at home mom,

im sorry but i get red in the face with steam coming out of my ears when ever i hear a chick say shes a stay at home mom or housewife, you have got to be kidding me, go to work bi*ch do something, get your own money, is there anything more in the world that screams leach than a housewife. i would never in my life even consider marriage with a chick who thinks shes gonna stay home all day and collect my money while im at work, this is 2007.
whats your opinion? guys who have house wifes are you a lil fed up, do u think this is perfectly ok

2007-10-04 05:31:38 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am in the midst of a custody case with my ex over our two year old daughter, I am looking for some help with what is going on, I have held a steady job for the last few years making three times as much money as my ex, renting a two bedroom apartment for myself and our daughter, have been the one paying for insurance, and all other bills and am paying child support under temporary orders as of now, have never had trouble taking care of our daughter; changing diapers, feeding , putting to bed etc. ex has not been able to ever take care of herself having to live with other people to get by and have a place to live, they are now staying with a family member of hers living together in the same room still sleeping in the same bed, they are paying all of her bills, etc. she has shown no ability to be a responsible adult, relies on others to take care of our child and is putting things into our daughters head to make her scared of me, slandering my name saying I beat them, can I do anything?

2007-10-04 05:27:15 · 10 answers · asked by JC 1

He only wants to see me with the other woman, he doesn't want to do anything to the other woman. He said that he realizes that if I were to see him with another woman, he could lose me and he doesn't want to do that.

2007-10-04 05:13:48 · 34 answers · asked by escapee 1

My husband says he is more attracted to me now ( i just gave birth to our daughter a month ago) then he even was when we first started dating...I don't have a problem with, actually i love it i am just curious as to why? And if this has happened to anyone else?

2007-10-04 05:10:14 · 8 answers · asked by cynical girl 2

I have the SS-5 form filled out, I also have my certified copy of the marriage license to put with it. What other copies of stuff do I need to make to put with it all to mail to the social security office? We live too far away from one for me to actually travel there and present my stuff in person. So, I have the SS-5, the certified copy of the marriage license, and what else do I need to enclose in the envelope to mail? Do I need a copy of my drivers license or anything in there with the marriage license?

2007-10-04 05:08:07 · 8 answers · asked by JJ 2

I've been with my fiance for three years now and we are not only best friends, but we have a truly happy and healthy relationship. We are completely honest with each other and the trust between the two of us is unbreakable. This marriage will be a first for both of us, and although we are doing fantastic and couldn't be any happier, what does it take to make a marriage last forever? We are both constantly willing to compromise and listen and we are both there for each other when the other person is down. We take care of each other because we love each other. So two people that are happy together, best friends, honest, loving and caring... what else does it take to make a marriage work? Serious answers only please, I will pick the best answer. Thank you :)

2007-10-04 04:57:43 · 21 answers · asked by LeAndra 4

I had to re-ask this, because people were not getting the question. I don't sleep around, because I have class. And I think that women who do have no morals. And I think that men sleep around, because they know they can find an easy woman who sleeps around. Yes, I am a woman.

2007-10-04 04:54:49 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

We've been married for 2 years and have a year old son. We have sex about once a week, but I want to be more adventurous with her. I enjoy the sex we have, but its quite 'normal', 5 minutes foreplay followed by straightforward sex. I want to give her more orgasms, but its hard to get her do more foreplay and I'd love to do more oral with her too. Any suggestions on how to get her to be more open and experimental? Thanks.

2007-10-04 04:54:23 · 18 answers · asked by silverfoxdmt 2

What do you do for exercise, and doing the normal day to day stuff im not counting.

2007-10-04 04:49:09 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

My hubby went away to work for about 45 days , came home for a week, and went back for 50 days. after about 3 weeks when he came home, he accidently left his email up. I noticed a womans name I did not know. I read the emails. They were not good for me. He talked about "I MISS you", and I CAN NOT wait to come back down there"...well then I find where he has texted her over 100 times in a month! He says it was all bullshit....he does bullshit alot with women and it never means anything...but i just wondered this time. This girl is 24, he is 48. I believe there was an infatuation going on there for him. What do you all think.

2007-10-04 04:48:24 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

me and my husban have been married fo year no w at first it was great but know we have fighting alot lately i know i love him dose alot of people have some rough times in there marrage and still make it some time i just think we get sick of each other some times or we just get in a rut and sex is not the problem we havegreatsex a help what should i do to make it work

2007-10-04 04:41:34 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

My bf and I have been in a long distance relationship for 2 years and he's been trying to move here but has not yet been offered a position. I am also guardian of my nephew (10) and as a result we decided that it would not be a good idea for me to move there (I have family here to help). We've talked about marriage and he's even bought the ring. My prob? He won't give it to me until he moves down here. And I'm having a real problem with that. He says he's holding on to it because he's afraid something will happen (i.e. I'll get fed up with the distance). And I'm thinking he's having second thoughts as in not wanting to marry me now. He says he does and he's going to give it me. But the longer it takes, the more I think its never going to happen. I know I shouldn't be so focused on just the "ring" but to me it symbolizes growth in our relationship and a stronger commitment. I told him I wouldn't take it if I didn't want to stay the course. What do you think?

2007-10-04 04:39:40 · 11 answers · asked by trysh_mc 2

I've slept at Hilton, HoJo, Holiday Inn, and Ramada just to name a few since I travel so much as a consultant. Why does she stay? Is it the money?

2007-10-04 04:33:29 · 59 answers · asked by Anonymous

I need a family consuler in my area that is not going to be a lot of $$...I need it for my boyfriend and i who have been together for almost 5 years, we also have a 20 month old son together. something that is free or a sliding scale price? I am in florida in melbourne

2007-10-04 04:26:39 · 5 answers · asked by ♥Sexy Mama of 2 cuties♥ 7

2007-10-04 04:22:45 · 12 answers · asked by junglejoe 2

I just need some other opinions.
I logged onto my hubby's myspace website earlier. Personally I do not have one and I was just curious - I was thinking about him and that is the truth. I do not snoop.
I was surprised to see this woman on there who he was in the military with. They used to hang out all the time together and also when he got back from Iraq and was stationed here they hung out again. He stopped it since we were a long distance relationship and he knew it bothered me.
She is on there now.
We have been married a few years. For some reason she bothers me though and I know it shouldn't. She used to call a lot and talk his arm off about all her relationship problems before we got married.
Ok ladies. What do you think?

2007-10-04 04:21:45 · 6 answers · asked by Ann 5

My guy is addicted to internet porn and I noticed he has earphones he uses recently .What are they used for ?He doesnt listen to music online .Note this is all when Im asleep.

2007-10-04 04:16:55 · 8 answers · asked by jessy 3

An ex-husband who refuses to pay child support now that he is with another woman. The new woman who now wants your kid because the jerk of a man made her bitter because she had have an abortion because "he couldn't afford another kid". So to her the only solution is to take your kid instead of dumping the loser...Just curious, ladies....

2007-10-04 04:16:06 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have had supper before with an ex of mine. We are all sort of friends. they live out of state. Recently my ex has emailed me, my husband doesn't know about it, but I don't normally tell him who emails anyway. Is it wrong of me to get excited when I see that emails me. he emails several times a day. Nothing dirty going on, just normal everyday talk. Is that wrong. Serious answers only please.

2007-10-04 04:12:05 · 31 answers · asked by ReneeS 1

in the eyes of the law is he able to do this???

2007-10-04 04:05:29 · 68 answers · asked by K8 3

my husband has emphsema,copd and bronkitis. he has no love or affection for me anymore. he has told me that i am only his care taker nothing more.he sees a lung doctor regular but he says nothing about not being able to perform in bed. in fact he has moved out of our bed.i have tried to talk to him but he gets mad.i really miss the affection.just because he doesnt like to make love do i have to suffer?

2007-10-04 03:57:29 · 53 answers · asked by Anonymous

He has stole from me, lied to me & about me, trashed the house, screamed at his dad, disowned us, refused to introduce us to his wife, and when his daughter was first born used her to get to us. Now the daughter is not an issue because the mother brings her to see us all the time. But right before he left for Iraqi, he threw another fit because I was buying a gift for his soon-to-be born child that he doesn't want to claim - plus I found out that he had his ex-girlfriend forge his wife's name on some documents and I told him that I would not lie for him if anyone ask me about it. I do not say a word to my husband because I know he worries. I do not want anything to happen to him but I just can't worry like the others in the family do. I know that he admitted a few times that he was on drugs when he acted like he did but he is clean now. How do I bring myself to care like the rest of the family?

2007-10-04 03:29:39 · 11 answers · asked by Love being a Mom 2

What is a counselor supposed to do with a 6-7 year old in the room?

They only play she doesn't seem to ask him questions or anything is that okay? or should i change counselors

2007-10-04 03:18:29 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-04 03:14:21 · 24 answers · asked by J S 1

my wife cheated if i divorce her who will get house? we have children.....if shes cheated then she should go and i keep house??

2007-10-04 03:13:35 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

loss of job, bankruptcy, theft, taxes, divorce.....and how did you get through it?

2007-10-04 03:11:53 · 27 answers · asked by georgeygirl 5

my x wife is not happy when it comes to the time i spend with my son. he is 10 years old . we have been divorced for a year or so it is and i cant understand what her problem is when we did the big D . I walk away from the house but stilled payed the billes for 3 mos and she had her boyfriend living with her at the sametime . i know im dumb but now all out the blue she wont to keep my son away from me from time to time and it wears me out . Why cant she just stop being a ***** and go on with life

2007-10-04 03:09:38 · 22 answers · asked by clifton f 1