We've been married for 2 years and have a year old son. We have sex about once a week, but I want to be more adventurous with her. I enjoy the sex we have, but its quite 'normal', 5 minutes foreplay followed by straightforward sex. I want to give her more orgasms, but its hard to get her do more foreplay and I'd love to do more oral with her too. Any suggestions on how to get her to be more open and experimental? Thanks.
2007-10-04 04:54:23 · 18 answers · asked by silverfoxdmt 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Have you talked to her??? If you tell her all the HOT things you want to do & all the ways you want to PLEASURE her.....it might just turn her on to hear you say it!!!!
Just remember it is exausting and overwhelming to have a 2 yr.old make sure you catch her in WIFE mode and not MOMMY mode it will be better for you & easier for her to respond & hopefully re-act to your suggestions & invitation!!!
Good Luck & Have Fun!!!!
2007-10-04 07:20:01 · answer #1 · answered by justbcuzitzfun 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The main thing is to get her to relax. To do this, you need to make sure you guys have the time for proper foreplay without her being worried about distractions from the little one. Can you have a friend or family member keep the child one night a week for a few hours? That way you have the house to yourselves and she will be more inclined to loosen up. Second, she has to feel comfortable with her body in order to be open to exploring new activities. She has to know that you truly adore every part of her body. Take the time to just caress her all over and tell her how amazingly beautiful she is. This will go a long way in helping her relax and open up to new ideas. Be very considerate and loving in suggesting new positions or whatever, so she doesn’t think you are criticizing what you guys already do. As if you aren’t satisfied, in other words. You get my drift? Good luck! :)
2007-10-04 05:42:59 · answer #2 · answered by meagain 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Frankly speaking not many women I've talked to, enjoy oral sex. With the pace of life these days, women do not really have the time to relax and enjoy an adventurous evening in bed. So, if you are in an adventurous mood, get someone to take care of your one yr old son so that she won't feel so tired at the end of the day. Be thankful you still can enjoy your straightforward sex once or twice a wk.
2007-10-04 05:06:46 · answer #3 · answered by greentea 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well there's obviously some issue somewhere. Once a week is not enough, I have a three year old son and still manage to obtain a very active sex life. You need to address the issue with your wife, ask her is anything bothering her... I know people can loose their sex drive after children but you both need to talk to solve the problem. Tell her you want to experiment and be a bit more adventurous:- without this you will start to fizzle away. I say talk openly to her.
Good luck
x
2007-10-04 05:26:27 · answer #4 · answered by kl240 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hay
if youve been married for 2 years you should no her inside n out so just be open with her n tell her you want to explore in the bedroom, think of some games to play am sure if you sat down with her n had a few glasses of wine, start with strip poker or somethin n think of different possitions etc
2007-10-04 09:33:41 · answer #5 · answered by luluwadey2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's one of my serious answers:
First, doll yourself up, dress to the nines ... skanky.
I'm talking red/black lingerie, fishnets, heels, black leather, perfume, extremely heavy eye shadow & mascura, earings, rings, painted/polished nails fingers/toes.
Get adult sex toys: vibes, restraints, floggers, stingers, gels, lotions, etc ...
Seduce him with a nice dinner followed by an adventurous night of sex, sweaty sex. Keeping playing (anything goes) until the birds wake up and then call in and take the day off.
Take a bubble bath together and have breakfastr in bed (each other) .... go to GNC and buy Stamina Rx for him, he'll enjoy the most incredible evening/day he ever had.
2007-10-04 06:47:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to be fair. If you've got a young child she's probably got her mind on your son. Get someone to look after you son one day and tell her what you want. Go shopping and for dinner then maybe try a candlelit bath.
2007-10-04 08:38:35 · answer #7 · answered by MedGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont dsay why she is like this, perhaps she is a bit shy about doing anything unusual. You could try getting some toys or perhaps a book for you both to read thru with a bottle of wine and then experiment.
2007-10-04 04:57:13 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Take her to a sex shop and make her choose what she would like to experiment with. If you can get someone you trust to babysit for yu, might make her more relaxed and take her mind of things awhile.
2007-10-04 06:24:13 · answer #9 · answered by bode 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her best friend called Anne Summers should be able to help, why not get her to organise a party for her friends?
While making a little commission for herself from the sales, the organiser might convince her to make a purchase or two for herself.
2007-10-04 05:01:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋