my x wife is not happy when it comes to the time i spend with my son. he is 10 years old . we have been divorced for a year or so it is and i cant understand what her problem is when we did the big D . I walk away from the house but stilled payed the billes for 3 mos and she had her boyfriend living with her at the sametime . i know im dumb but now all out the blue she wont to keep my son away from me from time to time and it wears me out . Why cant she just stop being a ***** and go on with life
2007-10-04 03:09:38 · 22 answers · asked by clifton f 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
go with the flow, don't let her moods determine your day and most important don't let your son see the tension. She's probably being difficult because she is unhappy and blames you for her unhappiness, valid or not. Tell her you need to set ground rules for seeing your son and if she continues to make it difficult you will get an attorney involved.
2007-10-04 03:14:49 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a spoiled, immature, selfish person on your hands, and divorced or not, you have a child together and will be dealing with each other for a very long time. I suggest you contact friend of court, start playing by the rules and stop playing her baby games. Their are things you can do, it will just take some persistence. Just remember that your son's feelings are in the middle of all this.
2007-10-04 10:23:39 · answer #2 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely handle the problem thru the courts. You have a right to visitation and if she doesn't comply once it's ordered, the courts will step in. Do not give up easily though on your child. I don't know how old your child is but they recognize effort and caring when grown, even if their minds can sometimes be temporarily swayed as a child. Sometimes they even recognize the attempt to inflluence them and understand more than you think as young children. If you think this is hard for you, think about what it's like for your son. He has to live with her. Don't ever forget that.
Children remember almost everything. The way parents are with him and to each other. Fight for the right to be with your son thru proper channels and try not to fight with his "Mom."
Boo
2007-10-04 10:56:49 · answer #3 · answered by bonnieboobabe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it is to imagine, some people just like to cause drama - in their life or someone else's.
Unfortunately, the one she's hurting the most is your son.
Make sure you've seen a lawyer and have everything spelled out regarding visitation and child support.
If you think she is a bad mother/person, possibly you should consider removing your son from that environment - most of the lessons a child learns in life are from their parents - is she someone you want influencing your child???
Good luck.
2007-10-04 10:16:35 · answer #4 · answered by MARY N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry brother. There is no solution. It's protocoll for an ex-wife to be a ***** I think it's in some sort of divorce manual or something. Don't wait around for her to decide to be reasonable. Take her to court. It's the only way or she will use your son as ammunition against you always. And as long as you don't have court papers the ball will be in her court.
2007-10-04 10:14:09 · answer #5 · answered by Kristian K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is probably scared that your son might decide he'd rather live with you. If she doesn't stick to the ordered visitation I'd take her back to court. She can get in serious trouble for violating a visitation order. You could try an explain to her that she is not only hurting you but is hurting the kid too.
2007-10-04 10:15:07 · answer #6 · answered by shellshell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should try and go to court for the childs custody issue. Realize that probably this is the best to do for yourself as well as the child.She shouldnt keep the child away from you ,and if its true that you pay all the bills you should have receipts with those current dates and that would be good proof on your behalf that you are a good father as well as ex husband you show interest in your childs life so go for it
2007-10-04 10:17:19 · answer #7 · answered by lrl_gutierrez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi...
You're not dumb, you are compassionate. Your wife had a lot of nerve having a boyfriend live in the house through the divorce. it tells me a lot about HER, and from my perspective, you are lucky to be rid of her.
If you don't have a schedule of visitation in your divorce decree, maybe get one from the courts. Your wife has no right to deny you visitation, especially on your scheduled days.
She can be found in contempt of court for denying visitation when you are supposed to see your son. I wonder how she'd like that?
2007-10-04 10:14:10 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's not the only one who is bitter....just an observation.
Your divorce settlement should have a custody arrangement in it too. If she doesn't uphold it, bring the sheriff with you on your next scheduled visit to enforce the arrangement.
People don't treat you badly if you don't let them. You DESERVE to be a part of your son's life, so stand up for yourself already!
2007-10-04 10:36:54 · answer #9 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your ex that the problems between you and her and just that! Your son is 10 and sees EVERYTHING going on around him. Believe me, my step children are his age and its so funny but scary on the stuff they pick up on. and yes just for the record..... you were silly to think it was your responcibility to pay for her and her new bf to live in your house. Tell her to grow up and if that doesnt work take her little (or big) a** to court and let that judge know what kind of crap shes up too.
2007-10-04 10:15:31 · answer #10 · answered by crazyworld 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a custody order? If you truly want to spend time with your son, safe guard that by having a court order outlining the custody and visitation. Otherwise, stop moaning - it is your responsibility to ensure that you are able to exercise visitation.
2007-10-04 10:20:22 · answer #11 · answered by green_clovers66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋