My hubby (soon to be ex.hubby) and i met in college when i was 20 became aquianted he transfered to another school.Then when i was 22 and a single mom via an ex.bf which was a very messy.At the time i wanted to be wild party girl.Thats how my hubby and i met we got married after 7 months of dating.Its been an on/off tirbulent marriage for 4 yrs he never stopped being the party guy and cheated on me more than once though i only caught him once but evidence says otherwise.He would stay out late or not come home alot.Or say he was working late but as a computer software engineer he could work from home?During our last seperation i slept with my daughters father and got pregnant with twins who are now little over 18 months old.I got back together with my husband i was unaware of my condition thought they were his up until they were born. Now my husband wants money from me?To pay back all the medical bills?
2007-10-04 06:02:09 · 12 answers · asked by Samantha B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The twin were born pre-mature and had to stay in the hospital for a month after birth .
2007-10-04 06:11:42 · update #1
P.S oxford insurance did not cover everything!
2007-10-04 06:30:54 · update #2
You don't owe him anything! He was as much into the reconciliation, as you were. Refuse to give him a dime!!
2007-10-04 06:12:16 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When you get married it is for the good and the bad, Who has him going out and being the party guy, are you asking him for money to pay you back for all the sleepless nights you waited up for his sorry butte? NO So tell him that , He agreed good times and bad, sickness and health, Yes you both have made some mistakes, try and work them out you are still young, have you tried christian counseling? It really works. #1 He can't blame those babies they didn"t ask for any of this.. think about putting God first!!!
2007-10-04 13:34:48 · answer #2 · answered by pamela t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can't just blame your husband, you are as messed up as he is. You describe the time with your ex BF very messy and then during separation you repeat the same mistake AGAIN, by sleeping with him. In this scenario I don't blame him asking for money. Should he get it, that will be for the Law to decide.
What ever the outcome is, you really need to get yourslef to gether and take charge of your life and avoid getting into any more relationships, cause you only will get yourself into deeper $hit.
2007-10-04 13:12:45 · answer #3 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
How many times are you going to ask these questions?
You are both wrong and selfish. You need to grow up and face up to your responsibilities.
Stop dating. Focus on your children. You need to be the best parent you can be.
Stop all of the drama. Please use condoms when having sex in the future. Sex is the way you get pregnant. This can be prevented. You owe it to your children.
2007-10-04 13:30:46 · answer #4 · answered by Tadpoler 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
did medical insurance pay for the hospital care of the twins? and if you didn't know whose kids they were, and he accepted them as his, well, that is all in the past.
people are bitter during divorces, so expect the worst. he's probably not going to turn "nice" anytime soon.
sorry you are struggling.
2007-10-04 13:25:28 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In my opinion men use statements like "you owe me money," to either upset you or somehow keep in contact with you. It sounds like if he wants to be a prick about it you can return the favour. Tell him you're applying that money to the "pain & suffering" your marraige caused you. i'm glad to hear that he will soon be your ex as your relationship sounds unhealthy.Good luck to you and your babies. Remember that they matter more then any dramatic scene caused by a hurtful man.
2007-10-04 13:15:45 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You do owe him money and a lot more.I hope you had your tubes tied so you can't do this to next poor guy you get your hooks into.
2007-10-04 13:31:22 · answer #7 · answered by notagain49 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I gotta say cheating is one thing but bring babies in the marriage open a can of worms.Not that either is good.Just that one is worst!
2007-10-04 13:25:23 · answer #8 · answered by Y ask ME! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
r u for real!? Scuzzy situation...
2007-10-04 13:18:03 · answer #9 · answered by cinny 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's sh*t out of luck.
2007-10-04 13:08:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋