Marriage & Divorce - 4 October 2007

Awhile ago my wife of three years and I decided to have a child, I always have dreamed of starting a family and from what she has told me over the years it seemed like she did aswell. So it had been several weeks into the pregnancy and I had to do one more small business trip and then I would be taking several months off to support her. When I got back from the trip though, my wife confessed to me that she had an abortion while I was away. ( Before this she had never mentioned anything about getting an abortion or even being depressed about the pregnancy. ) I was very disturbed that she would do this to our child without even talking to me about it. I have tried to not let this effect our relationship but I havent been able to look at her the same way since she did this. She has also been very cold to me since I have gotten back. Did I do something wrong? :(

2007-10-04 09:36:23 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-04 09:33:53 · 16 answers · asked by BubblegumFighter 2

Every time he's out with his wife she ignores him. They can be grocery shopping or taking a walk at the park and it's usually her suggestion, but she tries walking faster than him. One time they were in the store and she was walking ahead of him so he asked her to slow down and she turned around and screamed, "I DON'T KNOW YOU, THAT'S MY PURSE!" and he was arrested and was forced to spend the weekend in jail. He loves her intently, and she loves him too, but every time they are outside of their apartment she pretends she doesn't know him! EVERY TIME!
Of course he doesn't help with the situation because he likes to walk around pecking his head like a chicken (and even periodically crows like a rooster), but that's just one of his "tics" that he can't help. She knows that!
What can I suggest to him?

2007-10-04 09:33:15 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

Or less than a person?
I do ALL the housework, while my man works...fix his breakfast, coffee, make his plate at dinner, etc.
What I get in return: He takes me totally for granted, and the only response I get is when something is wrong, or he wants to complain, or when he wants me to do something else for him.
Since when does housewife=servant?
Any other ladies out there in the same situation, and if you are, how have you dealt with it?

2007-10-04 09:29:39 · 44 answers · asked by Ms. GTO 7

I ve been married for almost 10 years and have 4 children. My husband is in the army and currently not here.He cheated on me in our 7th year of marriage. We tried to work thru that and last year I found out that he had an affair with a soldiers wife. He lost rank and we were forced to move. He started going to church and alittle counseling, and has cried over and over telling me how sorry he is. Im scared to leave because of the children. He is a wonderful dad, friend, husband,provider, but it seems that when it comes to him being faithful thats where the problems lie. Do you think with him finding God that maybe he will realize his actions are soo wrong? Im tired of being hurt,but i really cant imagine life without him or just starting all over, and what about my kids? They love him very very much and how would I explain that to them? Why do men cheat, he said he thinks it boosted his ego? Do you think thts just an excuse? What should I do? Im sooo confused and hurt. Thankyou

2007-10-04 09:26:24 · 15 answers · asked by jenjen 2

My husband recently came to me and told he that he has a "pedal pumping fantasy".

For some reason he gets turned on when he imagines me pushing down the gas pedal on my car and "punishing the car".

How would you react?

Thanks.

2007-10-04 08:56:41 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

A bunch of my guy friends were talking about this subject... and the only ones that seemed to like the idea of marriage are in relationships... the rest found it horrifying! Why is that? It seems that guys want to be to be with someone, yet they don't... not painting every guy out there with the same brush, but there does seem to be quite a few guys out there that feel this way!

Is it not manly to commit???? Egads, this is confusing.

2007-10-04 08:56:04 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

What activities do you do together as a team? How much time do you spend together in both work and play? How long have you both been a team?

Please use detail. I got time to listen. Thank you for your input.

2007-10-04 08:50:35 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

If a hot girl is hitting on you do you try to make her to notice your ring by looking your hand while she's talking to you or do you actually tell her that you're married.

2007-10-04 08:50:28 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband comes home at 7 P.M every night last night he came home at 4 A.M and what did he say to me im sorry there was some trouble with the papers i said its ok and i gave him a kiss he smelled like perfume he was acting different 2

me and him got married young i was 19 he was 21 now weve been married for a year and a half we have a daughter and we never fight we get along pretty well i just really dont understand what happend to him.....................

please helppp

2007-10-04 08:48:47 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

when ever we fight my husband brings up things i have done in the past like going to the casino, smoking and other things i have done 3 years ago and he seems to do this when he drinks that seems to be the only time we fight because i can't stand a drunk...or having him coming home late.he has went as far as kicking me out of his house as he calls it...my feelings are hurt and i'm mad i'm not even sure i love him any more because he has done it so many times......i have put so much in to this marrage as far as time money and energy in to the house.

2007-10-04 08:46:45 · 17 answers · asked by b 2

2007-10-04 08:45:37 · 29 answers · asked by andy 1

The fact I am about to ask this is basically an answer to my question, but I would like an outside opinion.

My boyfriend and I have been together just over a year. He has never been affectionate which is completely opposite of me. However, I have expressed to him that I would like him to make more of an effort to notice me. My question is, does the fact I have to ask him to kiss me, hold me, look at me, talk to me, or tell me he loves me, mean he is not interested. It is a literal fight almost daily, because he honestly acts like I'm not there, he always has an excuse as to why he is this way, he knows it bothers me, yet does nothing to change the situation. He is very talkative to other people, and he used to be to me when we were just friends. He swears up and down he loves me, but don't his actions speak for themselves? I love him, but I feel like we're one of those old couples you see that eat dinner in silence, never speaking to each other, ugh.

Any advice is much appreciated.

2007-10-04 08:41:25 · 24 answers · asked by Excellante 3

If a married woman leaves at 1pm on a Saturday... then meets up with another woman and 2 guys.... then goes out on the town in Dallas, TX.... then when the night is over the four of them get a double hotel room..... she & one man on one side.... the other woman and other man on the other side..... what r the odds that she didn't sleep with the guy. she came home dressed very hot (tight pants, skimpy shirt w/lots showing) and also had new clothes purchased for the night out that consisted of some netting type material and a skimpy shirt and some new high heels. Didn't even come home until sunday about 5 pm. what r opinions or odds on this scenario?

2007-10-04 08:40:39 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

Would you move a couple in your house if you had ??
Would you move a couple in your house if you had a one night stand with the man ? They would be moving in so the girl can watch my son while i am at work

no one knows but me and him . It was a onetime thing , though their may still be a bit of attraction . And i might be pregnant by him
Thats the thing i dont love my husband . I think I stay out of conveniance . I do love my boy though . and this one time my result in pregnancy i take the test next week

2007-10-04 08:36:32 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-04 08:35:38 · 22 answers · asked by Miss I know it all. 1

My husband & I split 11 months ago & have recently been talking about reconciliation. We've been going over our history & have been trying to get to the "friends" level. He's admitted he wasn't a great husband - emotionally abused me, cheated on me when we were trying to work things out, took me for granted when I was at home. He's alienated me from my friends by telling them lies & now they don't talk to me anymore.

This morning, I found out that he has recently struck up something with my former best friend. My 4 year old son was telling me about a sleep over his dad had with his auntie (he's always called her auntie because we were so close) under the same covers. I have evidence to back it up. She has recently left her husband. This is the ultimate betrayal. I'm already hurting over OUR break ups - both of my friend of 20 years & my 10 year marriage. I'm seriously considering telling her husband on Facebook b/c he's still trying to work things out with her. Am I bad?

2007-10-04 08:33:50 · 28 answers · asked by Shannon H 3

Not to sound like Cinderella, but they basically destroyed my self esteem growing up because I was considered the 'pretty one.' Now they are both more successful than me in life and I hate them. They are friends with eachother and only deal with me a handful of times per year. Friends of theirs don't even know I exist. They both have children and I don't. I don't even really want to bother with their kids. I hate my sisters for what they did to me and that they are so petty and jealous. I always think about it and it depresses me. I am very often depressed. How do I get over my sad feelings?

2007-10-04 08:32:33 · 6 answers · asked by lovebird 3

Brian and his wife are waiting at the bus stop. With them are their eight children. A blind man joins them after a few minutes. When the bus finally arrives, they find it overloaded and only the wife and her eight children are able to fit in the bus.

So the husband and the blind man decide to walk. After a while the husband gets irritated by the ticking of the blind man's stick and says to him:

"Why don't you put a piece of rubber at the end of your stick? That ticking sound is driving me crazy!!"

The blind man replies: "If you had put a rubber on the end of YOUR stick, we'd be sitting on the bus right now!"

2007-10-04 08:29:06 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married to my husband for 5 years and known him for 15. I didn't find out until a couple of years ago that he likes to crossdress. I accept this and give him his space and time to do it. I take the kids and leave for a weekend. However this isn't enough for him. He wants me to be a part of it. How do I get past my uneasiness about seeing him dressed, as I have yet to see him? This is all he has been talking about lately. He desparately wants me to see him dressed. But I don't know that I am ready. Is anyone else going through this?

2007-10-04 08:27:40 · 7 answers · asked by cj2002 1

Or can lead to divorce.

2007-10-04 08:25:40 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

She got served with harassment charges last week and since the has been a complete ***** about me seeing my sons, calls me every day telling me "I will drop those charges" getting her faimily to threaten me, ect.

I am 85% sure I am going to be moving 1.5 hours away. I think the harassment will stop then. My therapist, the prosecutor, and the city attorney all think it is a bad idea. She has went and hired an attorney for herself for a charge, at least first offense, that rivals jaywalking. I don't want to hurt her financially at all, all I want is the no contact ( restraining) order against her. All the attorneys tell me this is the only way, but on the other hand, I do have to raise kids with her for 16 more years, and if this is going to hurt the "friends" relationship, then it may be to much.
By the way, if I go through with the no contact order between now and it's experiation, if she violates it once, it is a year in jail, if she gets out and violates it again; it is a felony

2007-10-04 08:18:25 · 14 answers · asked by Dr. Barker 3

2007-10-04 08:13:07 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Okay people..... If you found out your spouse was having an affair and had told their new lover that they were divorced and lived alone would u file for divorce w/o thinking twice? Also.... if you were the new lover of somebody for lets say less than 3 months and found out they were not really divorced, but married w/2 kids and living at home with their spouse.... how would u feel about that person after that?

2007-10-04 08:08:53 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I live in PA. I'd like to get full custody of my child from my previous marriage. With these facts, do any of you with experience in this think I can get custody?

-I have a nice home, and a job. The X, going to school, never realyl held a job, has a live in B/F who makes all the money.
My wife, also full time student, part time worker, but when all is said and done, both of us with be able to provide for the child far better than my X is.

- My X plans on moving out of state in the neer future with her new guy. From what I understand, she can not do this without permission from me. I love the kid too much to see her go anywhere, but in oreder to better provide, they feel they need to move to another state. This is not becaseu of anything the X is doing to improve her own life, it's the guy she's with.

2007-10-04 08:06:44 · 18 answers · asked by Frustrated Hubby 1

If not then why & who

2007-10-04 08:05:09 · 10 answers · asked by debbiedeb 3

have you ever told someone you didn't want to be with them anymore but yet you still want that person around and still want to kiss or hug them??? ...and have sex with them??? if so why??

2007-10-04 07:57:27 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

Without being traced to him or without any harm to his children

2007-10-04 07:56:50 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

have you ever told someone you didn't want to be with them anymore but yet you still want that person around and still want to kiss or hug them??? ...and have sex with them??? if so why??

2007-10-04 07:55:10 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband is in love with the "whipped cream bikini" idea and Im up for surprising him with it, but I was just thinking...couldn't that cause a yeast infection or something?

2007-10-04 07:54:37 · 25 answers · asked by must<3dogs 3